SJC2008 Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 I've read this here more than once and haven't read/heard about it anywhere else. Is there truth to this?
Author SJC2008 Posted October 4, 2012 Author Posted October 4, 2012 I've read this here more than once and haven't read/heard about it anywhere else. Is there truth to this? To clarify: Put 50 men and 50 women in a room and 50 men will find 35 of those women attractive. Meanwhile 50 of those women will find 25 of the men attractive. That's the way I took what was posted when I read it.
todreaminblue Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 put 50 inebriated men in a room with fifty inebriated women...and all of them will have a match.....deb 3
oaks Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 I've read this here more than once and haven't read/heard about it anywhere else. Is there truth to this? Well, there's that OK Cupid blog post of various stats that gets repeated here often enough that I'm not going to link it again. I think it supports the opposite view, that women are less fussy than men about looks (but you have to infer that result by comparing how people rate other people and who gets most messages, so it doesn't directly answer your point). But I'm sure you read it on the Internet, so it must be true. But so is the opposite. Does it matter? Does the answer (whichever it is) help you or me get a date this weekend? 1
Emilia Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 To clarify: Put 50 men and 50 women in a room and 50 men will find 35 of those women attractive. Meanwhile 50 of those women will find 25 of the men attractive. That's the way I took what was posted when I read it. I put this to male friends in the past and they disagree. They say they might find something attractive about a lot of women but for overall looks most men will pick out the same ones and only a small %
Author SJC2008 Posted October 4, 2012 Author Posted October 4, 2012 Well, there's that OK Cupid blog post of various stats that gets repeated here often enough that I'm not going to link it again. I think it supports the opposite view, that women are less fussy than men about looks (but you have to infer that result by comparing how people rate other people and who gets most messages, so it doesn't directly answer your point). But I'm sure you read it on the Internet, so it must be true. But so is the opposite. Does it matter? Does the answer (whichever it is) help you or me get a date this weekend? Does it matter? No Will it help me get a date no. Was it a topic I wanted to kick around because I read it more than once? Yes Personally I have found myself attracted to many races of women. If you had to nail me down I'd say light skinned/pale with brown or darker hair.
oaks Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 Was it a topic I wanted to kick around because I read it more than once? Yes That's fair enough! I wasn't trying to say you shouldn't discuss it... just making a point that generalisations about what men or women do, en masse, have little to do with one's own personal dating success. Personally I think that both men and women are more fussy about how women look than about how men look.
xxoo Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 Imo, women find a narrower range of men sexually attractive. That's different from acknowledging that he is attractive/not unattractive. Men are pickier about which women are a great enough package to have a relationship with....but for just sex, I believe men cast the net a lot wider than women. 3
Revolver Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 Women have more diversity in which men they find attractive but women as a whole have a very small amount of men they actually find physically attractive. If that makes sense For men it's the complete opposite IMO 2
irc333 Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 Actually, that blog post states the opposite about how most of the women consider the men, well, at least on OK Cupid, not slightly attractive to them. Well, there's that OK Cupid blog post of various stats that gets repeated here often enough that I'm not going to link it again. I think it supports the opposite view, that women are less fussy than men about looks (but you have to infer that result by comparing how people rate other people and who gets most messages, so it doesn't directly answer your point). But I'm sure you read it on the Internet, so it must be true. But so is the opposite. Does it matter? Does the answer (whichever it is) help you or me get a date this weekend?
oaks Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 Actually, that blog post states the opposite about how most of the women consider the men, well, at least on OK Cupid, not slightly attractive to them. ...but then they go ahead and send them messages anyway, from what I recall.
maybealone Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 I think there may be some truth to this. But while men might find more women to be attractive, I think for them it ends there. A woman they don't classify as "would sleep with" right away has only a small chance with him. Whereas a woman can get to know a man she wasn't originally attracted to and after a while become totally hot for him.
iris219 Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 Imo, women find a narrower range of men sexually attractive. That's different from acknowledging that he is attractive/not unattractive. This is so true. Just because a woman can see that a man is attractive doesn't mean she wants to have sex with him. This isn't necessarily a personality issue either. There are plenty of cute guys with good personalities, but that doesn't mean they will spark sexual attraction from every woman. For women, it's about a connection and that relies on more than good looks and a good personality. In fact, sometimes we feel a connection with men who are awkward and not good looking at all.
Frogwife Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 I don't know if it's a man/woman thing, but I agree with Revolver - I find lots of men attractive, but when it comes to sexually attractive - that certain "something" is a little harder to find. Last year, when I was separated from my husband (I had moved out), I posted in the "sans lendemain" (no-strings) section of a website in Paris. I received 1,500 responses in three days and of all those men, I only responded to one. But it was exactly the right one (!!) - another Scorpio like me, you know... the perfect match - haha
GoodOnPaper Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 Men are pickier about which women are a great enough package to have a relationship with....but for just sex, I believe men cast the net a lot wider than women. I doubt that this is universal. Sure, if a guy can get ONSs/FWBs whenever he wants he can afford to be pickier about relationships, but wouldn't most average guys have a common attraction requirement for both relationships and sex? I'm with the OP -- when I was attempting to date, I'd look around and find 2/3 or 3/4 of the women in my dating age range attractive enough to date. Based on how difficult it was to get first dates, women seemed much much pickier.
mesmerized Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 I'm certainly very picky on what I find attractive but tbh, so are my guy friends. They pick on the smallest things on a woman. But yeah, I don't find the average Joe very sexually exciting.
kaylan Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 (edited) I'm certainly very picky on what I find attractive but tbh, so are my guy friends. They pick on the smallest things on a woman. But yeah, I don't find the average Joe very sexually exciting. Well, thats because the average American is rather plump and doesnt dress well =P. My friends who have been abroad say they see quite more folks they consider attractive walking around.I think there may be some truth to this. But while men might find more women to be attractive, I think for them it ends there. A woman they don't classify as "would sleep with" right away has only a small chance with him. Whereas a woman can get to know a man she wasn't originally attracted to and after a while become totally hot for him. Id say men can do this too. As long as someone doesnt find the other person unattractive initially, then the door is open for attraction to grow. However, based on what Ive read online, relationships like this end up with the woman never having had a true strong attraction for the guy. Theres plenty of threads like that with the woman waiting for attraction to develop in the earlier on, almost as if she forced it. This all being said, I think early attraction is a better indicator of a relationship thatll last longer.This is so true. Just because a woman can see that a man is attractive doesn't mean she wants to have sex with him. This isn't necessarily a personality issue either. There are plenty of cute guys with good personalities, but that doesn't mean they will spark sexual attraction from every woman. For women, it's about a connection and that relies on more than good looks and a good personality. In fact, sometimes we feel a connection with men who are awkward and not good looking at all. It depends on the woman from what Ive seen. Ive seen plenty of women jump a guys bones simply based on his looks. Edited October 4, 2012 by kaylan
xxoo Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 Women have more diversity in which men they find attractive but women as a whole have a very small amount of men they actually find physically attractive. If that makes sense For men it's the complete opposite IMO Yes, that's it. It isn't really that women have a "narrower" range, because it can be very diverse--but we won't be sexually attracted to every man who is equally attractive (objectively speaking). Whereas, if a woman has the right measurements and a pretty face, most men will be sexually attracted to her--for sex, at least. 1
GirlontheLam Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 I think you need to differentiate between attractive to look at, and attractive for a relationship. I think many women have a few types they consider "attractive" to look at. This might be sort of narrow. But in terms of people that become attractive in the context of having a relationship with, this can become broader. People can become more attractive with the right personality/characteristics and so on. Men can grow in attractiveness for women as we get to know you. 1
fortyninethousand322 Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 Male physical attractiveness means very little in comparison to wealth/career and social skills/attractive "presence". Not that women all want wealthy men nor social butterflies, but usually one of those two takes precedence over male attractiveness. Men, by contrast, are usually very very shallow.
123321 Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 I've read this here more than once and haven't read/heard about it anywhere else. Is there truth to this? Not in my experience. Women in my experience have a lot of qualifications for a guy and while looks help some there are a lot of other factors they weigh more than guys do. In general guys don't care what her career is, what she drives, how nice her apartment or house is, and a vast number of other things woman will disqualify men for.
somedude81 Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 To clarify: Put 50 men and 50 women in a room and 50 men will find 35 of those women attractive. Meanwhile 50 of those women will find 25 of the men attractive. That's the way I took what was posted when I read it. Eh, I think that 50 of those women would find like 15 of those men attractive. The other 35 men would never be given the time of day.
xxoo Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 Eh, I think that 50 of those women would find like 15 of those men attractive. The other 35 men would never be given the time of day. I think each woman would only find 10 sexually attractive. The first 5 might overlap (the 5 "hottest" guys there). The second 5 would vary by each woman--who she talked to, who made a good impression, who flirted effectively, who made her laugh, etc. 3
SteveC80 Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 Getting a lot of female attention when i was younger it did seem most women went after the same few guys I think a women might settle down wit ha guy near her league that shes a little attracted to but isnt in lust with like the hot guys she had flings with when she was younger
ThaWholigan Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 Getting a lot of female attention when i was younger it did seem most women went after the same few guys I think a women might settle down wit ha guy near her league that shes a little attracted to but isnt in lust with like the hot guys she had flings with when she was younger It depends on your demographic. There are places where I was the ugly one, and I've been places where I'm the hottest guy around. It all varies.
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