Cl0udy Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 My friend showed me a picture of my ex kissing another girl. We broke up a couple months ago. He came back and then left again. It's almost a month again. I feel like calling him. I don't know what to do. What are the consequences if I do. I didn't check his FB to try to move on this whole time. My friend just popped the photo in my face and in the end I checked everything. Please help me see the light at the end of The tunnel.
Calico Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 1) Yell at your friend for being so inconsiderate and ensure it doesn't happen again. 2) Do NOT call your ex. There is nothing to gain and you'll only feel worse and powerless if you do. Don't react to this. 1
ReadMyThread Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 My friend showed me a picture of my ex kissing another girl. We broke up a couple months ago. He came back and then left again. It's almost a month again. I feel like calling him. I don't know what to do. What are the consequences if I do. I didn't check his FB to try to move on this whole time. My friend just popped the photo in my face and in the end I checked everything. Please help me see the light at the end of The tunnel. If he left that means he doesn't want to be with you and you have to deal with that. DO NOT call him. That will only make you hurt more when he tells you he doesn't want to be with you. If HE wants to be with YOU HE will come you YOU. Don't talk to him and work on moving on.
thembones Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 Your friend is a dick. They may have thought they were doing well, but it obviously was a dumb decision. Like the above said, don't contact him. If he wants you back, it is going to have to be because he wants you. Nothing you (or any of us) can really do to get back in the position we once had. Keep off of Facebook.. she is an unruly bitch! 1
Author Cl0udy Posted October 4, 2012 Author Posted October 4, 2012 You guys I feel like fighting for this. Is it worth it. I really need your tough love
Author Cl0udy Posted October 4, 2012 Author Posted October 4, 2012 This is by far the worst night I ever had
Minka333 Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 If you fight it, you have higher chances of losing. Why? This guy didn't even fight for your relationship to survive.
Author Cl0udy Posted October 4, 2012 Author Posted October 4, 2012 Minks, this is so hard. I want to move on. I don't know how and I wish it was soon. I like what you said he didn't fight for us to survive. Why is this so painful?
Minka333 Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 It is painful coz' you love him. I would feel the same way too if i was in your shoes. He has to realize on his own what he did wrong. It has to be from his own free will. No coercion, begging or asking from you. If you force it now, he will only get more detached. He might even just take you for granted. Only your ex bf knows how much he loves you. He may or may not realize his mistakes. But he has to do it wholeheartedly if he decides to come back to you. 1
Author Cl0udy Posted October 4, 2012 Author Posted October 4, 2012 Did I do something wrong then. He did come back almost a month ago. He apologized and everything. He decided to leave again because he said he does not want to be told what to do. I found out he cheated so I thought it was fair for him to work on gaining my trust. He said I should just trust him. So you think it's best to do nothing. I wish my friend never showed me that pic.
Minka333 Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 Yes. It's best to do nothing. He said you should trust him. But what did he do? Nothing. He did nothing to gain your trust. Instead, he cheated. That is not how a remorseful man should act. I don't know what type of gf you are or if you did anything to hurt him. So it's hard to answer that. But i think your bf has issues he has to deal with if you don't remember doing anything wrong. And your friend should have been more considerate. But the damage has been done and for now you have to be strong.
TaraMaiden Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 You guys I feel like fighting for this. Is it worth it. I really need your tough love Oh stop. First of all, he's your EX. HE CAN DO WHAT HE WANTS. Secondly, you did nothing wrong. You're just not the right type for each other. And if he cheats - ugh, you want sticky tainted goods?? Secondly - tell your friend she's a moron. What the hell does she think she's playing at? What is she, ten years old? Gimme a break, tell her that acting that way, she's more hurtful than he is. Move on hun. The sun will shine, the weekend will come, the trees will lose their leaves and life goes on.
Simon Phoenix Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 Did I do something wrong then. He did come back almost a month ago. He apologized and everything. He decided to leave again because he said he does not want to be told what to do. I found out he cheated so I thought it was fair for him to work on gaining my trust. He said I should just trust him. So you think it's best to do nothing. I wish my friend never showed me that pic. If he cheated, why the heck do you want him back in the first place? You can't let people walk all over you like that. Before you try to get this guy back you have to figure out why you want him back and why you feel it's ok for someone to screw you over like that yet deserve your love. I realize you are lonely and emotional, but come on.
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