ALoveStudent Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 Hey guys... I've been with my girlfriend for almost a year and a half now. We met in college, and we both graduated this past May. Since then me and her are both still unemployed. This past month I've been feeling really depressed and unmotivated due to the fact that I still have nothing going for myself. This depression has been carrying over into my relationship as I've been lacking confidence and coming across as moody. In an attempt to save my relationship, I told my girlfriend that I needed space to figure out what I want. I didn't express this too well and she took it defensively. She said that she herself wanted a break. Since she said this we haven't spoke. I emailed her once in an attempt to truly explain where I was coming from when I first said I needed space. But this wasn't enough for her to try and work things out. She still wants to go through with the break, but she said she will take some time to look at things in my perspective. Its been only 4 days since the break, but I'm completely devastated. I have no motivation to do anything and can't stop obsessing over the thought of loosing her. This break has done nothing but bring my depression to a whole new level. I've never felt this low in my life. So far I've managed to keep myself from chasing her. But I can't mentally deal with the emotional pain I've been putting up with these past few days. I wanted this break to be a time that I could focus on myself, but instead its turned into a time that is causing me to completely loose everything I have left....
Balzac Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 Although you haven't stated, you are in separate cities? It's a tough economy for recent grads for sure. Have you given thought to volunteering? Anything to get you busy, into a structure, focus off of yourself? Sounds as if you are living with family again?
Eddie Edirol Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 If your gf has been looking for a reason to get out o the relationship - I guess because of your moodiness - then you gave her a way out and nothing is going to make her want to get back with you. Especially if she has been eyeing another guy. Best you can do now is take the time to market yourself for some position that fits your major, and at the same time get over her until she decides to look for you. Get yourself a job and learn to not need her and become happy with yourself. She isnt going to want to get back into a relationship with you if you stay as depressed as you are now.
Chi townD Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 Dude, this is your other thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/349842-she-did-switcharooo-now-im And you're asking the same questions. What? You didn't like the answers you were getting there? 1
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