ashtree-house Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 Feeling pretty mopey today. I'm leaving on a trip tomorrow that my ex was supposed to take with me. I'm visiting my family out of province, and he was so excited to finally meet my parents and see where I grew up. He had never been on a plane either, it was going to be our first little trip. About 5 weeks ago he broke up with me, I'm still struggling and clearly not over him. I was able to refund his plane ticket (I paid for it on my Visa and he gave me cash), and was feeling pretty good about going alone all week. But now I'm all packed.. and I'm just sitting here and I can't help but think.. He was supposed to be here with me. He was supposed to go..he was so excited.. I have been in NC for at least a week (big record for me), but I will have to see him eventually to give him back his money. He says he doesn't care about the money, but I'm too proud to keep it. I'll do it once I'm ready.. I'm sure once I'm home and with all my old friends and family, I will feel better, I will have fun. But right now, I just seem to dread going on this trip without him. Has anyone gone through something like this? Were you supposed to go on a trip or an event or something you were really excited about with your Ex? How did you cope.. do those "he/she was supposed to be here" thoughts go away? Thanks everyone, I feel a bit better typing all that out
River Rain Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 Well, I'm supposed to be going on a cross-Canada trip starting in April with my ex, 5 month road trip, camping. He was to come here, near Mtl, then we were going to make our way across to the West coast, up to the Yukon, then back down to near the BC/Alberta border and settle down for our happy lives together. Everything was planned to detail. Now it's a solo trip. I guess I'll see what happens in April. I can't imagine doing it all on my own now. Can't you just send him a check? I get the feeling by what you're saying that you plan to see him in person to give him cash? No contact is the only way to get better and move on.
Author ashtree-house Posted October 4, 2012 Author Posted October 4, 2012 Wow..a 5 month trip. I probably will send him a cheque, or give a mutual friend the cash. Since nc is the best option.
not-a-drive-by Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 Yes, as a matter of fact, two trips he was supposed to come along. The first one was supposed to be with my family for 2-3 days to the snow. We broke up maybe, 2-3 weeks at this point, so it was still pretty fresh in my mind. The trip with my family reminded me of him and the past so much - thoughts around how we would be spending time together, what happened on our previous trips etc. During this time, we still were exchanging texts and making fun of each other. The second one was about 2 months after the break up. We had planned this trip to travel overseas with friends for a week, and this was planned since last year. He cancelled last minute because of a snowboarding injury. I had to help him get his refund on airfares, and he lost about $600 on ski hire/accommodation etc. Even though this was 2 months after our BU, I was still very torn apart. This was supposed to be our first trip overseas together. I wasn't as happy as I could have been. I missed him like hell, and kept thinking about "what ifs" if he was there with my. My best friend was there with her bf, and it killed me seeing them together, because, my ex was supposed to be there. I tried to stay strong, but at night, I would cry silently. On the last day of the trip, I cried at the airport on the way back. So..yeah. Not very pleasant at all.
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