ettaj Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 So you work at a bank in a busy grocery store and a client you know comes up to you one day and says "I know this beautiful woman. She's interested in you and would like your number but she's very shy." or something like that. This client then points to the woman. You look over and see a woman smiling at you briefly as she is checking items out. She looks away and checks them out. You remember this woman from when you would smile and she smile at you sometimes in the past. Would you think this is cute that a woman came over and said this about another or would you think it is pathetic or creepy? Would it merely inflate your ego? Would you be turned off somehow that you KNOW she is interested in you and thus try and take advantage of her? Would you give her your number? Answers to all these questions would be very helpful. Signed, Ridiculously Infatuated.
Balzac Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 Welcome to LS. Honestly, it's waaaay more believable to have been handed the shy one's phone# or email. Shy women do not usually phone men. Maybe I'm missing something in your story? You sound excited though! Is there more of the story?
yongyong Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 why are you thinking so much??? I think your question creeps people out I see nothing wrong with a WOMAN doing that. Just give her your number if you like her appearance.
Author ettaj Posted October 3, 2012 Author Posted October 3, 2012 Welcome to LS. Honestly, it's waaaay more believable to have been handed the shy one's phone# or email. Shy women do not usually phone men. Maybe I'm missing something in your story? You sound excited though! Is there more of the story? You are right. So you think it would be better if the woman said "..and she would like to give you her number and get acquainted sometime" or something like that? There is more to the story. I never met him or spoke to him, but I see him cuz he works in a bank inside the store I frequent. One day I saw him looking at me, like checking me out. Another time, he smiled at me and kept staring till I was out of sight. And ANOTHER time...he did the same thing, but added a wink. He didn't look at me today though, and I'm frustrated as hell. Ugh... I'm so infatuated with this man I can't even deal with it anymore, this is ridiculous lol. I need to know now if this will be something or if it won't so that I can just move on and stop wondering about it already.
Author ettaj Posted October 3, 2012 Author Posted October 3, 2012 why are you thinking so much??? I think your question creeps people out I see nothing wrong with a WOMAN doing that. Just give her your number if you like her appearance. What are you talking about? And I AM a woman... 1
yongyong Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 geez.....anyways, I don't think it's awkward to use a friend as a messenger. This is what I will do. Go to the counter with your friends. maybe ask some question about opening up the account etc. Smile at him more than usual and feel the vibe. Once you think he is interested in you, either give him the # right there OR leave first and give the paper to your friend to deliver 'hey remember the girl I was with? she wanted me give you this...she is shy lol' I wouldn't hand out the number just after exchanging smiles. that's kind of creepy unless you are really hot. What are you talking about? And I AM a woman...
Author ettaj Posted October 3, 2012 Author Posted October 3, 2012 geez.....anyways, I don't think it's awkward to use a friend as a messenger. This is what I will do. Go to the counter with your friends. maybe ask some question about opening up the account etc. Smile at him more than usual and feel the vibe. Once you think he is interested in you, either give him the # right there OR leave first and give the paper to your friend to deliver 'hey remember the girl I was with? she wanted me give you this...she is shy lol' I wouldn't hand out the number just after exchanging smiles. that's kind of creepy unless you are really hot. You just told me to exchange smiles first and then have the friend hand him the number and then you say, don't do it 'less you're "really hot". "GEEZ", CONFUSING MUCH. "GEEZ".
yongyong Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 No I meant you should talk to him. So at least you can build some rapport. You just told me to exchange smiles first and then have the friend hand him the number and then you say, don't do it 'less you're "really hot". "GEEZ", CONFUSING MUCH. "GEEZ".
ja123 Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 Based on your opening post, OP, I alos thought you were the man in the story who got approach by a client on behalf of the woman. So, you're the woman in the scenario, eh? I'd wait to see if he smiles at you again.
phineas Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 So you work at a bank in a busy grocery store and a client you know comes up to you one day and says "I know this beautiful woman. She's interested in you and would like your number but she's very shy." or something like that. This client then points to the woman. You look over and see a woman smiling at you briefly as she is checking items out. She looks away and checks them out. You remember this woman from when you would smile and she smile at you sometimes in the past. Would you think this is cute that a woman came over and said this about another or would you think it is pathetic or creepy? Would it merely inflate your ego? Would you be turned off somehow that you KNOW she is interested in you and thus try and take advantage of her? Would you give her your number? Answers to all these questions would be very helpful. Signed, Ridiculously Infatuated. Well, checkout people smile at everyone & everyone usually smiles back. I get checkout girls flirting with me that are 15 to 20yrs younger than me. But, I don't think it means anything honestly because they probably do it with most of the guys & i'm "like old or some junk" LOL! He could also get in trouble for asking out customer's so this will be on you. If you are attractive & he is single, have a friend go through the check out & arrange it. But you really do need to be at least on the cute side because all he has to go on is your looks. It's kinda like online dating only the person just has a picture & an empty profile.
jobaba Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 (edited) So you work at a bank in a busy grocery store and a client you know comes up to you one day and says "I know this beautiful woman. She's interested in you and would like your number but she's very shy." or something like that. This client then points to the woman. You look over and see a woman smiling at you briefly as she is checking items out. She looks away and checks them out. You remember this woman from when you would smile and she smile at you sometimes in the past. Would you think this is cute that a woman came over and said this about another or would you think it is pathetic or creepy? Would it merely inflate your ego? Would you be turned off somehow that you KNOW she is interested in you and thus try and take advantage of her? Would you give her your number? Answers to all these questions would be very helpful. Signed, Ridiculously Infatuated. If a woman was so emphatically and unambiguously enamored with me, I would think that I was dreaming, as in literally going through an REM cycle. Nothing close to that has ever happened to me, and it wont at this point. But that kind of thing happens to me often ... when I'm in dreamland. Edited October 4, 2012 by jobaba
oldshirt Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 Since you say you are shy, would you have the giblets to actually call him if this messenger got his number from him? If you do then go for it. Otherwise I agree with the earlier poster that said it is more common for woman to give a guy her number and then see if he calls....but then you are stuck waiting to see if he actually calls or not. at least if you got his number you would be a little more in the driver's seat. Now to answer your actual question, I think it would be fine and I wouldn't have any kind of problem with it and neither would any other normal, sane man. If I was single and wasn't committed to anyone else and I thought you were attractive I'd be flattered and would probably call you and I think any other single guy would provided he found you attractive in the first place. Guys really don't have all the fears and hang ups that women do so most guys wouldn't have any kind of problem with it at all. What do you have to lose?????? Go for it!!!!!!
Eddie Edirol Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 Dont have a friend hand him your number, that is weak and high school ish. Youre a grown woman, Go up to him and talk to him. If you just hand him your number you will give your self ridiculous anxiety when he doesnt call and you dont know why. Youre assuming he might like you and will call, but you dont know since you didnt talk to him. If you talk to him, you will know where you stand, and know whether or not to bother giving him your number. Feel him out first.
Author ettaj Posted October 4, 2012 Author Posted October 4, 2012 Dont have a friend hand him your number, that is weak and high school ish. Youre a grown woman, Go up to him and talk to him. If you just hand him your number you will give your self ridiculous anxiety when he doesnt call and you dont know why. Youre assuming he might like you and will call, but you dont know since you didnt talk to him. If you talk to him, you will know where you stand, and know whether or not to bother giving him your number. Feel him out first. He's behind a DESK at work with coworkers and clients around, how in the world am I supposed to talk to him or "establish a rapport" when he is working and busy? I cannot gauge his interest, there is no way whatsoever that I can begin to take time and talk to him in this setting. The only practical thing to do at this point is have his CLIENT who happens to be my friend, give him my number. If you have something specific that would be much more helpful to me.
Author ettaj Posted October 4, 2012 Author Posted October 4, 2012 He's behind a DESK at work with coworkers and clients around, how in the world am I supposed to talk to him or "establish a rapport" when he is working and busy? I cannot gauge his interest, there is no way whatsoever that I can begin to take time and talk to him in this setting. The only practical thing to do at this point is have his CLIENT who happens to be my friend, give him my number. If you have something specific that would be much more helpful to me. Can someone please answer this question? If I know the answer, I think I can finally get over this hump.
gaius Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 I would be flattered as long as the intermediary wasn't another guy. It might make me wonder who the idea really came from though, the friend or you. I think a better strategy would just be to go up to the bank, ask to speak to him, tell him your name and give him your number. You don't need to say much, you can establish a rapport on your first date or the phone if he ends up calling.
bobsmith76 Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 This is totally normal behavior on the woman's part and there is nothing wrong with it. I would jump on the woman if I liked her. Women have such a difficult time making the first move that they should always be applauded when they actually do it.
Eddie Edirol Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 He's behind a DESK at work with coworkers and clients around, how in the world am I supposed to talk to him or "establish a rapport" when he is working and busy? I cannot gauge his interest, there is no way whatsoever that I can begin to take time and talk to him in this setting. The only practical thing to do at this point is have his CLIENT who happens to be my friend, give him my number. If you have something specific that would be much more helpful to me. You MAKE IT HAPPEN, thats how you do it. If he's behind a cashier and the line has 10 people on it, he'll be busy. If he's at a desk at a bank, you could be a potential client. You dont have to honor the system to talk to him for a minute for one instance. if he likes you, he will take your number after 30 seconds, if not, he'll shoo you away.
yongyong Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 we say 'a thirsty person has to dig a well' you are thirsty. But instead of putting any effort, you expect someone to give you a bottled water. I am sure you will expect the guy do all the work in dating. no men want to date a girl like this.
Author ettaj Posted October 5, 2012 Author Posted October 5, 2012 we say 'a thirsty person has to dig a well' you are thirsty. But instead of putting any effort, you expect someone to give you a bottled water. I am sure you will expect the guy do all the work in dating. no men want to date a girl like this. There's absolutely no reason whatsoever for this absurd bull**** of a post. You are obviously a troll with no life who's trying to start random **** w/ ppl u don't know online. Go **** yourself and leave me the Hell alone, ****face.
Author ettaj Posted October 5, 2012 Author Posted October 5, 2012 You MAKE IT HAPPEN, thats how you do it. If he's behind a cashier and the line has 10 people on it, he'll be busy. If he's at a desk at a bank, you could be a potential client. You dont have to honor the system to talk to him for a minute for one instance. if he likes you, he will take your number after 30 seconds, if not, he'll shoo you away. This isn't helpful at all. Just a lot of troll posts and bad, bitter and rude attitudes. Why are you people on this site so mean-spirited? I'm done with this thread. I've posted in an actually helpful forum where the posters there don't have any hang-ups like you bitter bastards. Goodbye and good riddance.
yongyong Posted October 5, 2012 Posted October 5, 2012 I was trying to give you a genuine advice and this is what I get. :laugh: I feel bad for your mom not taking plan B. There's absolutely no reason whatsoever for this absurd bull**** of a post. You are obviously a troll with no life who's trying to start random **** w/ ppl u don't know online. Go **** yourself and leave me the Hell alone, ****face.
Author ettaj Posted October 5, 2012 Author Posted October 5, 2012 I was trying to give you a genuine advice and this is what I get. :laugh: I feel bad for your mom not taking plan B. I'm sorry your father didn't stick his dick in your mouth earlier, that way, you wouldn't have so much bull**** to say today. Go get laid or something, loser.
yongyong Posted October 5, 2012 Posted October 5, 2012 are you from a single mom? just curious I'm sorry your father didn't stick his dick in your mouth earlier, that way, you wouldn't have so much bull**** to say today. Go get laid or something, loser.
rhymes Posted October 5, 2012 Posted October 5, 2012 To be honest, I wound't have a problem with it as the guy. It's a bit tough to ask for a girls number in that environment, so as someone else said, it's up to you to initiate contact. If he likes you, he'll call, or perhaps if it's easier drop you a text, but either way he'll initiate contact if he's interested. Life's too short, just go for it.
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