We are not the Innocents

[Anela]

Can't or don't want to think of anything

 

Can't. As in: I've barely dated, despite my age. And I backed out of dates from a dating site, because I realized that I couldn't handle it, that they didn't deserve to deal with whatever damage had been done by whomever had been in my life previously, and I wasn't about to use them for attention.

 

What is wrong with you? Why are you trying to upset me, or imply that I'm a little tart who is lying her butt off?

[kaylan]

Women can do just as much damage especially when weapons are involved. It doesn't take much strength to fire a gun or shoot somebody. Whenever you hear about a woman killing her husband in the news some people just assume he was abusing her. Some people thought my ex had a good reason for trying to shoot me and she got less than a year in prison.

Again, you cannot compare each genders ratess in cheating vs their rates as the aggressor in abuse cases.

 

Men and women cheat about the same Id say, but given a womans size disadvantage, and females having less aggressive behavior due to hormonal differences with men, the vast VAST majority of gender clashes involve a man harming a woman. And even if you factor in under reporting of men being abuse victims, this is dwarfed by the under reported cases of female victims.

 

Its not the same thing...so quit reaching. Women are not a physical threat to men in the same way we are to them. Yes some women are crazy and do stuff like your ex did, but most of the people who try those things are men. And no, I dont think most people would shrug off an abusive female by saying "oh the guy must have done something wrong" especially if guns are involved. People call those folks crazy, be they male or female.

[veggirl]

Negative things I have done in the past:

 

-cheated once

-lied about dating more than one guy at a time

-ignored calls/texts hoping he would get the hint, lied about having plans etc

 

I guess I am currently doing the last one right now too.