Deviated from NC, now everything's twisted

[AintGotNothin]

Ok, I came on here in September after deciding to go NC and was posting my success for the first 48 hours or so. You can go read the thread here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/347540-no-contact-starts-now to get some background info on what had happened up til that point.

 

So I wound up bringing my son back that Monday, had to deal w/ her screaming mom, delinquent sister and her for about 5 minutes because I was 'late' (she called me when she arrived at the drop off point, she had called earlier in the day to say she would be running late, her mom had the car, etc) but that's another story.

 

Anyways, so I tried to be pleasant told her that my son had been itching his ear and that he may need to be seen by a doctor. She calls my house that night from the er because his insurance isn't covered in Florida saying he has an ear infection and some kind of cough that needed steroids.

 

So began her calling me once or twice a day to let me know how my son was doing, etc. I couldn't not answer (maybe I could have/ should have) but I wanted to know how he was doing.

 

So we continue switching on and off w/ the kid on my days off from work. Over the course of this time, we begin to talk about our relationship. That I need to show more 'romance', not get so aggravated w/ her, etc. I told her that she needs to work on her anger and prescription drug abuse. She didn't like that but I can't be w/ a junkie who acts like a fool and I certainly won't let my son grow up w/ one for a mother.

 

Anyways as we're both working on ourselves or whatever the case may be we decided that when I brought my son up to meet we would get a hotel room and spend some quality time together. She had a friend drop her off and watch my son for the night. Then we had sex, watched tv, went to krystals, and I fell asleep.

 

This was last Thursday. The next day I dropped her off.

 

The phone calls from her began to come much more frequently. If someone was laughing in the car she'd demand to know who it was. If I didn't answer she'd leave me a riot act on my machine. Eventually I stopped answering or when I did I made the calls short. Told her I hope we could work out but we're both gonna have to compromise to make it work.

 

Anyways, on Sunday she told me that she felt used. That I just came up there to have sex w/ her and 'no more' she said. I asked her 'what did you expect to happen? You we're just as down as me'. Apparently I didn't show enough romance and rolling over and falling asleep after the deed I guess wasn't very 'romantic'.

 

So I called her back on MOnday hoping she'd have calmed down. 'I don't know if I want to be together'. Well whatever, I'm saying to myself. If you don't want to be w/ me just say it. Don't string me along because you don't want me w/ another woman. I called her Tuesday on my break from work and no response. I haven't called since though I think I'm going to try again today.

 

I'm off tom-sunday so I want to make arrangements to pick up my son but I'm not going to play this game again. Obviously I should have stuck w/ my NC and I'm angry at myself for slipping, but I also feel like if I would have stayed the course I'd find myself being served a notice to appear in child support court or something like that, as we do share a son and I know that all it would take for her to try and rake me over the coals would be for me to move on from her.

 

Anways, I'm gonna call her on my way to Target. If she doesn't answer, she doesn't answer.

 

Any feedback is appreciated.

 

Peace

[kae]

ok.. i think YOU need to decide if you want to be together or not. you DO!! AND... SHE DOES!!! So be brave and say hey.. i know you want me.. i want you too.. lets be together.. exclusively.. but in seperate places and work our way back together sloooowly. like this month i see u weekends ONLY. call you to say goodnight every night. And 6 months down the road.. i`ll see 4 nights and call a little less.. in one year we`ll revisit moving together.

 

 

Talk like a decision maker!!!!

 

she`s not answering cus she knows you now know she wants you..hehe.wow

 

just be cool. but be serious.

[kae]

with that attitude..u wont have to be romantic.. u`ll turn her on and she will be romantic!!