lovecash Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 We live on the same block in NYC. Take the same subway to work. Go to the same convenience store. Go to the same jogging path. Seeing how there are no ways I can avoid these things, what do I do when I inevitably see her (ive seen her once since breakup 3 weeks ago). Do I ignore? Flash a smile? Cold shoulder? Help please.
Calico Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 When I saw my ex, I didn't acknowledge her presence, and that worked best for me. I have no feelings that would warrant a smile or a friendly greeting, but I also don't hate or despise her, so I see no need for a negative reaction, either. She's no longer part of my life, so I try to simply not react to her existence at all. As little emotional investment as possible seems to give me more inner peace.
flitzanu Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 walk around the block? go to a different store? jog a different path?? don't say there's NO WAY TO CHANGE THIS, you're just trying to be difficult. 1
TaraMaiden Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 Yeah, I tend to agree. Avoidance is importasnt so, if you have to go that bit further, then try to do so. Otherwise, what Calico suggests is also a good idea. She's just another New Yorker going about her business. I suggest you do the same.
Simon Phoenix Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 The convenience store thing is dumb -- there are literally thousands of them in NYC. You can easily pick another one. On stuff like that I don't go to places I know that my ex frequents a lot and she doesn't go to ones I frequent. Has worked thus far. As for the other two, just act like business as usual. Don't go out of your way to acknowledge her, but if she acknowledges you, be polite but short and to the point.
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