cekma Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 Hi All, first time here. Appreciate the advice... I met this girl about a week ago in Manhattan. It was my birthday party, we rented a private room in a bar, needless to say I was drunk. Not the best conditions to meet someone in, let alone at a bar in general. Party ends we go to the main floor where I meet the girl. We seem to be hitting it off and are talking for a really long time. Friends both male and female take notice and said that she was definitely into me and that it went well etc. She and her friends almost continue on to our friends rooftop for more drinks, it's very late and they end up not going. We exchange texts the next day and decide to go out on Tuesday (last week) she gives me the heads up that she has work in Philly that day so she won't know what time she'll be back . I'm unavail the rest of the week, since I'm traveling. Monday night I text her to see if she's still good for Tues. She's still good but won't have a better idea about the time until she knows when she is going to leave Philly. She was just getting home from work now, which was late, so clearly she's very busy with her job. Tuesday she texts me around 6:45... Hey! I'm just leaving Philly now, I'm probably not going to be home until 830 or 9, I'm so sorry I'm slammed with manuscripts, so tonight probably isn't good. I say no worries, would love to do something next week when i'm back. She says she is off from work on Monday, so that could probably work. I say sounds good, I'm getting home late on Sun so I'll text u during the day on Monday, have a great week etc. So I go on my trip, I get back and this past Monday I text her asking how her weekend was. I have not heard from her. Do I just leave it alone, do I try to call her as a last ditch effort? What do you think happened? I've been burned before who hasn't? But this one I can't wrap my head around since she was actively responding and even through out hanging out on Monday.
Author cekma Posted October 3, 2012 Author Posted October 3, 2012 not that it matters, she mentioned when we spoke the day after we met how her and her friends were just talking about how they wished they came with me to my friends roof, etc.
Lobouspo Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 I would call or send another text asking if she's still interested, if she doesn't respond or hedges, erase her number and move on. I think in big urban areas in NYC and Philly, halfway decent looking women have alot of options, so this type of flakiness is not uncommon.
Author cekma Posted October 3, 2012 Author Posted October 3, 2012 When would you reach out again. I was thinking of waiting until Friday.
Lobouspo Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 Yeah, Friday sounds reasonable, just don't get your hopes up too high....IME its important to lock in that first date ASAP while the connection and chemistry is fresh. Not your fault here, sounds like you guys just had conflicting schedules. Another possiblity is to connect with her on facebook, even though I personally am not a fan of the thing.
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