Ambry Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 So, a while ago I posted a question in this forum, and I received a lot of great answers. So I want to thank you for that. My situation is as follows: I had just started dating a guy that I have found I really like for the past month. When he is with me, he is super affectionate and attentive. He kisses me on the cheek and forehead, puts his arm around me, I catch him looking at me, etc. On our fourth date, things got a little intimate, but no we did not have sex. Before he did anything he made sure to ask if it was okay first, etc. Afterward he was just as affectionate as he had been before. When he left, he kissed me goodbye and told me he would speak to me soon. It has been 7 days, and I have not heard a peep from him. I texted him two days ago, saying "Hey, how's it going?" And I never received a reply. Did I do something wrong? Is it over? Please advise!
todreaminblue Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 So, a while ago I posted a question in this forum, and I received a lot of great answers. So I want to thank you for that. My situation is as follows: I had just started dating a guy that I have found I really like for the past month. When he is with me, he is super affectionate and attentive. He kisses me on the cheek and forehead, puts his arm around me, I catch him looking at me, etc. On our fourth date, things got a little intimate, but no we did not have sex. Before he did anything he made sure to ask if it was okay first, etc. Afterward he was just as affectionate as he had been before. When he left, he kissed me goodbye and told me he would speak to me soon. It has been 7 days, and I have not heard a peep from him. I texted him two days ago, saying "Hey, how's it going?" And I never received a reply. Did I do something wrong? Is it over? Please advise! Just give a little time and try again but call him.....good luck.....deb
TaraMaiden Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 So, a while ago I posted a question in this forum, and I received a lot of great answers. So I want to thank you for that. My situation is as follows: I had just started dating a guy that I have found I really like for the past month. When he is with me, he is super affectionate and attentive. He kisses me on the cheek and forehead, puts his arm around me, I catch him looking at me, etc. On our fourth date, things got a little intimate, but no we did not have sex. Before he did anything he made sure to ask if it was okay first, etc. Afterward he was just as affectionate as he had been before. When he left, he kissed me goodbye and told me he would speak to me soon. It has been 7 days, and I have not heard a peep from him. I texted him two days ago, saying "Hey, how's it going?" And I never received a reply. Did I do something wrong? Is it over? Please advise! My guess is that you're just not his type, and he's decided to not pursue this one. It's fresh, so really, as far as he's probably concerned, no loss or heartbreak.... Sorry.
River Rain Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 Ignoring you is never a good sign, and it's unfair. I don't think a week is acceptable considering how close you were getting. And not returning your text too. It takes less than a minute to type out a text. I've learned the hard way that if people want something, they will make time for it, if they don't, they won't. Simple as that. I hope you don't get hurt. Of course, with the assumption that he's healthy and safe, I wouldn't be too hopeful considering he ignored your text.
xpaperxcutx Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 Define ' over'. If by over you mean he's not interested in dating you ( anymore), the fact that he hasn't contacted you confirms it. If by over you mean " oh no, I slept with him so we can be in a relationship but he hasn't taken the bait" then yeah it's over. I'm not ostracizing you for sleeping with him too early but I am reprimanding you for thinking that he'll still be around after sex. I think it's better for women to be aware that putting out doesn't mean a guy's ready to get serious, it just literally means two cosenting adults looking for a relief. Unfortunately for you, you associated sex with attachment. I'm sorry. If he does decide to come around, please don't give him the chance to worm his way back into your life. Guys like him are a dime a dozen. You want the type of guy who'll want to wait even after you said yes.
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