irc333 Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 I was wondering, I've always heard when people got OLDER. This is kind of geared towards women, because men are notorious for dating younger for the fun of it, but women try to look for maturity. For instance, an 18 year old man with a 25 year old woman....not many women that age would date a guy that young. (I'm sure men would, but..lol...you know they just assume a man that age , 18, is just too young for a woman that age...and I have to even agree with that woman. But, as we get older, do our dating age ranges get even LARGER. For instance, how many women here in their 40's , would ate in their OWN decade. Say, you're 48, and the man is in his early 40's.....would that be considered too young for you? I'm in my early 40's, and I saw this woman online that is 48, attractive ....but stated, "If you're under 45, you're too young for me." Usually by THIS age, I don't see too many women rejecting men that are younger, unless the guy is probably younger by 2 decades or a decade and a half. I usually date within my down decade. If I'm 30, I'll date women up to 39. I'f I'm 40, I'll date up to 49 (maybe even 50). Now, if you're 60...would you date an 80 year old? Does it get even BIGGER?
jobaba Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 I was wondering, I've always heard when people got OLDER. This is kind of geared towards women, because men are notorious for dating younger for the fun of it, but women try to look for maturity. For instance, an 18 year old man with a 25 year old woman....not many women that age would date a guy that young. (I'm sure men would, but..lol...you know they just assume a man that age , 18, is just too young for a woman that age...and I have to even agree with that woman. But, as we get older, do our dating age ranges get even LARGER. For instance, how many women here in their 40's , would ate in their OWN decade. Say, you're 48, and the man is in his early 40's.....would that be considered too young for you? I'm in my early 40's, and I saw this woman online that is 48, attractive ....but stated, "If you're under 45, you're too young for me." Usually by THIS age, I don't see too many women rejecting men that are younger, unless the guy is probably younger by 2 decades or a decade and a half. I usually date within my down decade. If I'm 30, I'll date women up to 39. I'f I'm 40, I'll date up to 49 (maybe even 50). Now, if you're 60...would you date an 80 year old? Does it get even BIGGER? Mid 30s. My range is about a decade up and about a decade down. I'm more likely to go younger than older though. I'm just a younger guy at heart.
River Rain Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 I'm 44 and I would prefer a guy around my age. I think a younger guy would have to be super mature emotionally for me, only because I'm looking for a serious and long-lasting relationship at this stage. I've met some younger men and I've noticed the age difference in terms of values, expectations, attitude, reactions to conflict, and cultural references. I think compatibility is really important, and I never really found younger men to be compatible for what I'm looking for in a relationship. There is always an exception of course, but I haven't found him yet.
Author irc333 Posted October 3, 2012 Author Posted October 3, 2012 I'm 44 and I would prefer a guy around my age. I think a younger guy would have to be super mature emotionally for me, only because I'm looking for a serious and long-lasting relationship at this stage. I've met some younger men and I've noticed the age difference in terms of values, expectations, attitude, reactions to conflict, and cultural references. I think compatibility is really important, and I never really found younger men to be compatible for what I'm looking for in a relationship. There is always an exception of course, but I haven't found him yet. Define younger, would 40 be too young for you? Or are you talking 30?
melodymatters Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 I'm in my 40's and happily married to a man in his 20's. I didn't go out looking to date younger or even date at all. We worked together, became friends, then lovers, then husband and wife and it's my best relationship ever. I would say that people in general become less rigid with their laundry lists the longer they live and SOME, realize life is short and to grab happiness within any situation that presents itself. Others hold on to their " list", long after it's usefulness has expired. Some people get hung up on age, I admit I get hung up on weight ( just can not be attracted to overweight guys). We all deserve the right to our preferences, though I wonder if the woman in question met you in person and had chemistry if she wouldn't just throw her "rule" out the window !?! I would have dated someone in their 60's if they presented themselves as fun, open minded and youthful, so say...20 years up OR down. Obviously all replies will be anecdotal so I'm just throwing mine into your pot !
River Rain Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 Define younger, would 40 be too young for you? Or are you talking 30? I think if he were about 5 years younger/older I'd be okay with that. 30 would be far too young for me, at least that's what I used to think. Mind you, my ex was 45 and he was emotionally immature so that didn't work out either. Hmmm...you're really getting me thinking here! There are just so many facets involved...all to do with maturity, acting mature of course, but emotionally mature, sexually mature, financially mature...one always associates this with age, but I guess if I did meet someone in his 30's who had all those qualities, I'd be very interested for sure. I actually started a thread on this yesterday about age differences in dating. I met a 28 year old last spring, but I didn't want to even give him a shot because of our age difference. The glaring 16 year gap scared me.
Silly_Girl Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 At 35 I was not entirely thrilled about going up as far as 42-43, though each person to be considered on their own merits, obviously. Age was a factor. I am with someone born the same year as me and we both enjoy the same cultural references of our childhood, despite growing up in very different parts of the country.
GirlontheLam Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 I am mid 30s. My range is generally +/- 5. Right now the people who are too much younger than this range are not quite mature enough or in the wrong life stage. But in 5 more years, I'd lower the range a bit more Now when I meet 26-17 year-olds they feel a little young. I don't really like older. Even 40 feels old to me, and that's almost in the 5 year range. Unfortunately for me, I look around mid 20s according to most people so I get approached by the young ones. Many people my age are shocked we are the same age. I always had a feeling (since I was 8 or 9) I would end up skewing younger, and it is turning out to be true.
SJC2008 Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 I don't know where this stigma came from that men notoriously date younger?? Out in IRL how often do you see a couple where the woman is 5+ years younger? Not often IMO, form what I see anyway. I don't know if I'm rare bird but I never had the want or "need" to date a younger woman. I'm starting to feel a little uncomfortable about my minimum of 24 and it will probably go up to 25 once I hit 31. The only reason I would date younger is because there won't be any "my clock is ticking" pressure but other than that I'm attracted to women my age just as I am to younger and older women.
FitChick Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 Everyone has their preferences. It's possible you were told you were too young because the woman wanted an excuse for rejecting you. 1
rocketman122 Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 im 41 and have dated woman older than by a good margin. ages from 43 to 60. when I was OLD there were woman who wrote they want to date men ages x to x. some said "no older than x", and some that wrote "if youre younger than x, please dont contact me" but it doesnt work as its usually a filtering trick and if she likes you, it doesnt matter. some fill in age preference they are looking for which is a few years older than them but still it doesnt work because I did date those as well. a woman who was 54 and wrote from 60 to 65 and I dated her. in the end we were not compatible, but still. also many woman dont know wtf they want anyways and if a hot, muscular, tall good looking guy comes along and takes interest in the older woman they get interested very quickly. it flatters them that I take interest and always feel with the way I look, I should be dating very young woman. I dont like younger woman at all.
Mrlonelyone Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 As you get older you look more for compatible personalities and realize that age can be worked around.
FitChick Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 when I was OLD there were woman who wrote they want to date men ages x to x. some said "no older than x", and some that wrote "if youre younger than x, please dont contact me" but it doesnt work as its usually a filtering trick. I was tired of younger men contacting me so I set my lower age preference at 50. A guy who was 48 lied about his age and said he was 50 so he could contact me. Should I have rejected him for being a liar?
january2011 Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 (edited) I prefer someone who is at most, 2-3 years older. I just can't bring myself to date a man who is biologically younger than me. I tried. Twice. Even a few months seems to be a stumbling block for me. I look at guys in their late teens and 20s and I go, "huh?" They are babies. Even guys in their early and mid-30s seem young, whether they look it or not. Having said all that, I can't say what I'll do in the future if I get to 70 or 80 and don't have a partner. Edited October 4, 2012 by january2011 1
Silly_Girl Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 "Babies". Absolutely. A 30 yr old I work with has a crush on a 21yr old at our company. I can't think of going there. That's a foetus... It's interesting how the age bandings just naturally align as you go. And that mine are probably small than ever. A few years back I probably had a span of 15 years (10 above and 5 below); it's nothing like that now.
veggirl Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 Right now my preferred age range is pretty small. I am 29 and would date 27-32/33? I prefer guys right around my age. Perhaps that'll change as I age. I would think a 48 yr old woman and a 42 yr old man are pretty much the same age.
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