Themrandres Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 did you ever get back with an ex evn when you thought there was no chance? Did she move on and find sombody new and say she was finally happy and said she didnt miss you? have you gotten her back even when she said these things? If so what did you do and how long did it take? im trying many methods and starting no contact and many other things but i havnt heard any proof:P
Hawaii50 Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 Nope.. An X is an X for a reason. Wouldn't even try, either. I take the good and the bad, learn the lessons I can, and try to apply them to myself and the next relationship I find myself in. I never forget the bad, it's too easy to get caught up in the good and want to go back. But you mustn't forget the bad, as much as our minds purposely forget.
Am313 Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 (edited) 1. Yes. 2. Yes, more than once. 3. See #1 4. Kept my mouth shut NC is not about getting her back, it's about you. You have to choose between the lesser of two evils: Go NC and WORK to enjoy your life (and if you work at it you will enjoy it) or try (and I stress the word TRY) to talk to her and hurt badly. I've gotten back every ex I've had, but the truth is reconciliation doesn't work out in the long run. It's a temporary fix to a long term problem. In my experience, I've always been happy after the split. Not because I didn't love her or care about the relationship, but because I CHOOSE to be that way. You had things in your life that made you happy before you met her, and I bet you've neglected them. Well, start doing those things again. It doesn't mean you won't miss her or have moments where you hurt, but you will be happy with yourself. The old cliché is relevant here: Time heals all wounds. Relax and let go, you can't stop or change a single thing she does because she is her own person. Life goes on indiscriminately of your feelings. Again, time heals all wounds. I mean that in every way you're thinking. Life is all about "the bigger picture" and it's essential to see the bigger picture to be successful and happy. Unfotunately, it's hard to see the bigger picture when you're hurting. I know firsthand, I'm dealing with that now. But I assure you if you seek out the bigger picture in this situation, you will be just fine. Why did you two breakup? That's very important to mention. Edited October 4, 2012 by Am313 4
winstonsdreams Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 Am313 I have to say that is amazing, I don't know you did it but wow. I am currently over 2 months NC with my ex, she has been with a new guy for 3 months, and apparently happier than ever. Well last i heard. To be honest i can't see any other way but to go complete NC. Even though i was the dumper, after a couple months i really regretted it and tried calling her and doing the whole take me back scenario. She put on a great act, telling me how happy she was and she found someone amazing. She did try get back with me for a month after we broke up though so i kind of blew it. Everytime i have broken up with someone NC is the only thing that has saved me, for some reason 5 months post break up i can't shake this one. I just can't forget her, and i generally have a pretty amazing life, i just want that companion to settle down with, i guess it's because i am nearly 30. If she contacted me i would freak out! I hope she does one day, but i am still getting on with my life and trying to date, just no spark yet. Anyway the only ex i got back was a couple years ago, i left her, saw another girl for a month that i had been flirting with, got GIGS, is that it? Anyway i came crawling back in tears when i realized what i had left behind. We stayed together for another 9 months, very messy, and she walked out after SHE found someone, and never came back. She never forgave me for what i did, even though she never found out all the actual details.
Author Themrandres Posted October 4, 2012 Author Posted October 4, 2012 Hey if it helps to hear more information u can read my other thread the one that says "and what is she doing"
andrew-bkk Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 Nope.. An X is an X for a reason. Wouldn't even try, either. I take the good and the bad, learn the lessons I can, and try to apply them to myself and the next relationship I find myself in. I never forget the bad, it's too easy to get caught up in the good and want to go back. But you mustn't forget the bad, as much as our minds purposely forget. Good post.
Jamesblame Posted October 26, 2012 Posted October 26, 2012 You can get them back but within minutes it's clear nothing has changed. You have the comfort of the old relationship but also the comfort of the same old problems. If you "love" your ex then the best thing to do is get over her, date other people, accept that she's having sex with other people, try to be ok with that....then move on.. And in a couple years you can be friends with her. Best case scenario. Otherwise. You get back together, fight, break up again.
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