Svet74 Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 If you want her back go NC, and keep ignoring. talking to her will not make her want you back. She will just feel good about you being on her side just incase things with her new man dont work out.
DavidG Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 If you want her back go NC, and keep ignoring. talking to her will not make her want you back. She will just feel good about you being on her side just incase things with her new man dont work out. This We both screwed up man. We cant blame ourselves but the mindset you and I both had caused this to happen. It ****ing sucks!! Id take a bullet all day over this pain. If there is the slightest chance at all of a reconciliation, it will only come once the healing process is over. That is what we both need to realize bro. Trust me, I am NOT dealing with this any better than you are but ive come to realize that it is simple reality. Think about it like this. This heartache we are going through right now probably just saved us. You and I would do anything right now to be back with them but they are gone. What else is gone is the mindset we both had and the ability to push someone away without a thought of consequence and I assure you it wont be repeated. **** man, im trying to get by day to day like you are.
Mike_d Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 NC is not a manipulation tool. It isn't for manipulating her feelings into something that they are not so that you can get her back. NC is for you. NC protects you from being hurt further. NC protects you from seeing things that you damn sure don't want to be seeing. From interacting with her so that you continue to lose what little dignity that you have left. To keep you from embarrassing yourself while you grovel/whine/beg/cry/plead/demand in front of her. NC prevents you from being her emotional tampon, it prevents her continuing to walk all over you. NC allows you the space to clear your head, so that you can look back after a few months of it, and see what a fool you've been now that your monkey/addict brain is cleared of the chemicals that are blinding you. 3
Author GoBomb36 Posted October 4, 2012 Author Posted October 4, 2012 It's just so hard, the pain is unbearable seeing her with another guy, knowing I pushed her right into his arms
Chi townD Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 Well, then you learn from your mistakes. You take these lessons learned and apply it to your next relationship as what NOT to do. Time to move on. Make positive changes in your life now.
suladas Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 It's tough. But at least you can learn from it and not make the same mistakes again. And realize, the only thing to do is move on and forget her. Look at the bright side, knowing she is with someone else has crushed your hope of getting her back, which is actually good. 1
mike588 Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 Listen to what others are telling you!! My ex. g/f of one year dumped me for her ex. b/f in a very cruel way 14 months ago. I believed I'd never hear from her again and went strict N.C. Six months after she dumped me she sends me several e-mails saying how sorry she was for hurting me....that she regrets it and thinks about me EVERY day blah blah blah. I was stunned and FOOLISHLY replyed 2 days later....it set me back(hearing from her) and brought back alot of pain. I couldn't help but wonder what she wanted...did she want to "try it again"?? was she just dumping the guilt she felt for the way she dumped me?? After I replyed I haven't hear from her again and now I'm perfectly ok with that....Oh how I wish now I hadn't replyed!!! Ignore her completely and move on!!!
CptSaveAho Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 Listen to what others are telling you!! My ex. g/f of one year dumped me for her ex. b/f in a very cruel way 14 months ago. I believed I'd never hear from her again and went strict N.C. Six months after she dumped me she sends me several e-mails saying how sorry she was for hurting me....that she regrets it and thinks about me EVERY day blah blah blah. I was stunned and FOOLISHLY replyed 2 days later....it set me back(hearing from her) and brought back alot of pain. I couldn't help but wonder what she wanted...did she want to "try it again"?? was she just dumping the guilt she felt for the way she dumped me?? After I replyed I haven't hear from her again and now I'm perfectly ok with that....Oh how I wish now I hadn't replyed!!! Ignore her completely and move on!!! LOL your ex sat you down and talked to you.... then she later apologized for leading you on... Did you need for her to ask you for permission from breaking up with you Grow up. Everyone on the forum at the time told you why she was contacting you, you chose to ignore it and stab yourself in the face with the same knife. FYI - How they come is how they go, what you failed to tell everyone is you chased a girl that was in a relationship that still had feelings for her ex No one here is going to throw a pity party for you
Am313 Posted October 5, 2012 Posted October 5, 2012 Like everyone is saying, NC. Don't say a word. Let her go on with her life and you do the same. Everything WILL work itself out in time.
mike588 Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 LOL your ex sat you down and talked to you.... then she later apologized for leading you on... Did you need for her to ask you for permission from breaking up with you Grow up. Everyone on the forum at the time told you why she was contacting you, you chose to ignore it and stab yourself in the face with the same knife. FYI - How they come is how they go, what you failed to tell everyone is you chased a girl that was in a relationship that still had feelings for her ex No one here is going to throw a pity party for you You sound afwul familiar...W. I'm not on here anymore seeking/asking for help or advise... I'm only offering help to people who have been in a similar situation as myself. Failing to tell everyone that my ex. still had feelings for her ex???? What?? Anyone and everyone on here who knows/remembers me knows that I made it clear that she did still have feelings for her ex. It was a bad choice I made by pursuing her and was blinded by love and ignoring the red flags....Never again!! I'm not asking for or wanting a pity party......again just giving advise.
ReadMyThread Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 Very true guys. But what will the ignoring do? Let's keep in mind that I do want her back. Awe. How sweet? You want want a girl back that DUMPED YOU! lol. Look man, F*** HER! She dumped you. She DOESN'T want to be with you. When someone dumps someone, that means they don't want to be with you so what would talking to her now do you for you huh? Say it with me people, PAIN!!! IT WILL HURT YOU EVEN MORE! She dumped you, IT'S OVER! GIVE IT UP! DO NOT text her. NC until your life is over. Now if this girl REALLY, HONESTLY "loved" you, she will be back. And IF she comes back, you tell her to F*** off! You deserve better man.
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