JHparkes Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 I have been seeing my boyfriend a little over two months. We both have our own places. Since the start we have seen each other once or twice in the week and usually all weekend - from Friday evening through to monday morning with me nipping home to feed my cat on the saturday for a few hours . I have been out once on a saturday with my friends but tend to just spend it with him. We live 14 miles apart. We seem to be very into each other. He has already told me he loves me and frequently tells me. He has a very busy job as a car mechanic and will sometimes work until 8 pm at night. He also works saturday morning so will leave me in bed and come back at mid-day. We send each other messages from morning through to bed time, although sometimes there are like six hours in between communicating, but always usually a good morning and a goodnight message. Just lately as I have grown more attached to him, I have started to feel really insecure and needy. Before I fell in love I was more than happy to have my own life in the week, now I've really grown attached and feel really down when three days pass without me seeing him. This week I shall be seeing him thursday evening and then I am going away with my friends Friday and saturday night which is making me feel sad as I would rather be with him. He seems to be more secure and not as needy in the time he wants to spend witih me, whereas this is making me grumpy and upset. He is always really affectionate when I see him and seems like he has missed me, and he tells me he misses me, but I think he feels he will see me so he's not too worried. How can I stop feeling so down at the disappointment of not seeing him in the week sometimes?
Minka333 Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 It is perfectly normal for you to get more attached as your bond grows deeper/stronger. I also feel the same way. During the 3 days when my bf is at work, i miss him like crazy! Even if we text each other all day...it still doesn't feel enough. * During those days when you feel down, you just need to remind yourself how lucky you are that you have each other and that he loves and trust you. I think it's healthy to have a little time apart. It makes us look forward to the day we see them (jump in their arms..). It makes them miss us more. It also allows us to maintain separate interests.* Lastly, we should not center our world around them no matter how much we love them.
Author JHparkes Posted October 3, 2012 Author Posted October 3, 2012 hey thanks for your reply minka. I actually feel depressed though. Like just now I sent him a message saying I was going to the gym tonight with my friend and he replied saying it's about time you went to the gym again, you need to build some energy up for your weekend away and I just got a really hollow feeling, like he is not even that bothered that he hasn't seen me since sunday, will see me tomorrow night and then not again for two nights!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! it's driving me crackers.
River Rain Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 I got attached to my ex as well, it's natural when you love someone to want to be with them. He changed the rules on me though, we were super close for months as well, daily emails, texts and phone calls. ALWAYS a goodnight, good morning message or text, always. Then his slowed down, then stopped. This made me insecure and made me miss him more, but not in a good way, in a depressed way like you're feeling. He didn't seem to want me in the way I wanted him and things spiraled to the point of us breaking up. I think you should talk to him about it. When you're together and not in an angry way. Just tell him how you feel and see what he has to say. That's my opinion because I don't like to leave things unsaid.
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