Nina Galileo Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 Hello. Something happened to me and that's why I'm here.I don't know whether anyone of you really read this,but I hope I'll find what I want here. I liked my good friend and he likes me too.It took us nearly 3 years to officially date. On 2009,we finally become a couple.On 2010,he asked me to marry him but I said no. On 2011,he asked it again and I said no. On July 7th,he went missing.I thought he was at rural area for working. A week later,I started to feel panic.I did everything I could and things happened as not as what I expected. It took me a month,to go to his house to find the truth.His sister told me that something happened to him and he can't go home for the time being. I forced her to tell me everything but she shook her head.She said,their mom asked them to not tell people about him.The last thing I know about their mom is,she's with my bf. Now,it's almost 3 months and there's no sign of him.I also haven't see him around (we live pretty close)I wonder why his sister removed me from facebook list. His cousins also refused to approve me.One thing that I know,they told me that my bf's matter has nothing to do with me.If so,why do they avoiding themselves from me? I wouldn't take this thing seriously if we're not close to get married. Right before he went missing,I finally agreed.Also,his family and my family are all okay.This is so not him.He disappeared all of a sudden,I found out that he resigned from his current job (he's a workaholic!),I can't contact him,nothing.Zero.I don't know. Is this a sign that he suddenly changed his mind or what?Because I noticed that for early few months,he always work until late nights.He called me to not wait for him to come home.Somehow,rumors tell me that he's in jail. I can't say that's true because I tried to reach the family and the family refused to explain the real situation.This is killing me.
todreaminblue Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 Hello. Something happened to me and that's why I'm here.I don't know whether anyone of you really read this,but I hope I'll find what I want here. I liked my good friend and he likes me too.It took us nearly 3 years to officially date. On 2009,we finally become a couple.On 2010,he asked me to marry him but I said no. On 2011,he asked it again and I said no. On July 7th,he went missing.I thought he was at rural area for working. A week later,I started to feel panic.I did everything I could and things happened as not as what I expected. It took me a month,to go to his house to find the truth.His sister told me that something happened to him and he can't go home for the time being. I forced her to tell me everything but she shook her head.She said,their mom asked them to not tell people about him.The last thing I know about their mom is,she's with my bf. Now,it's almost 3 months and there's no sign of him.I also haven't see him around (we live pretty close)I wonder why his sister removed me from facebook list. His cousins also refused to approve me.One thing that I know,they told me that my bf's matter has nothing to do with me.If so,why do they avoiding themselves from me? I wouldn't take this thing seriously if we're not close to get married. Right before he went missing,I finally agreed.Also,his family and my family are all okay.This is so not him.He disappeared all of a sudden,I found out that he resigned from his current job (he's a workaholic!),I can't contact him,nothing.Zero.I don't know. Is this a sign that he suddenly changed his mind or what?Because I noticed that for early few months,he always work until late nights.He called me to not wait for him to come home.Somehow,rumors tell me that he's in jail. I can't say that's true because I tried to reach the family and the family refused to explain the real situation.This is killing me. I wish i could give you answers .....What are the rumors others are telling you he is in goal or your heart telling you he is in goal? The only thing you can do is try to keep moving on.......It must be horrible for you.Especially since you were planning a wedding, only you would know your boyfriend's heart at the time he left.....you were his girlfriend and friend for quite a few years.What does your heart tell you happened? Pray for him and pray for you that is all you can do unless someone decides to come forward....plead your case with his family and pray the see your heartache and have some compassion for you with that heart of yours......best wishes......sending hope yoru way.....deb
kassy Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 Sorry to hear about this, must be awful! I'm not sure what to say about most of it... But, have you not thought to call the police/go down to the station and ask if he is in jail/has been arrested? I mean If you explain your boyfriend quit his job and disappeared 3 months ago and his family won't say anything other than it has nothing to do with you... I'm pretty sure they can let you know if he's in jail. That would be my starting point. Best of luck 1
Author Nina Galileo Posted October 4, 2012 Author Posted October 4, 2012 @todreaminblue - you are right,my friend.I'm his gf and sure I know his heart.I tell you what,there was nothing happened between us on the day he disappeared.We didn't fight,nothing.That morning,I texted him about my father and he even asked me to reply him quick.That night,I told him that I'm about to leave the house for praying.He didn't reply me and so I didn't care because I know his routine.He knows mine,we just love reminding each other. I dreamed of him twice,I feel awkward because in those dreams,he said the same thing.He asked me to wait for him to come home and trust him.I told his family about the dreams and they looked worry.I had to deactivated my facebook account because I can't stand his friends and his cousins,asking me where the hell is my bf. The most awkward moment is,the family always keep in touch with me but they never touch on my bf's matter.
Author Nina Galileo Posted October 4, 2012 Author Posted October 4, 2012 @Kassy - Oh I want to make a police report.But his family told me to not make this story even longer.They even asked me to stop from asking their cousins or friends because they don't want anybody know about my bf's matter.One thing,nobody knows about his disappearance.Because of my eagerness to find out the truth has caused troubles between the family and their relatives.I'm truly sorry about that. I started to believe that the family is actually protecting both of us but to me,it's a bit unfair as I'm the gf,but I don't know anything.Well,what I can say more?Even the siblings also don't really know the whole story.On 2008,before we're together.My bf did something bad and that caused his father to sent him out from the country for a year plus.Nobody knows the real story,including me.Now,I think that he maybe did something bad and caused the family to send him out again.If you're the parents..you wouldn't expose your son's badness,right? God bless him
TG1 Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 Have you ever tried filing a missing person's report? Or better yet have you ever stopped to think that maybe the reason why he took off, or why he disappeared is because of you, I mean let's be honest you rejected his proposal not once but twice and he has done all these things like resign from his job all because of what you did to him, did you ever stop to think that all of what has happened to him is your own fault? I hate to lay blame here but I am just being brutally honest here and to the point, because it is obvious to me that he loved you and what did you do? You trampled on his heart not once but twice and if something did happen to him, then maybe the reason why his family doesn't want to talk to you about it or even let you know what happened is because somehow they blame you
CheezDoodle Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 Have you ever tried filing a missing person's report? Or better yet have you ever stopped to think that maybe the reason why he took off, or why he disappeared is because of you, I mean let's be honest you rejected his proposal not once but twice and he has done all these things like resign from his job all because of what you did to him, did you ever stop to think that all of what has happened to him is your own fault? I hate to lay blame here but I am just being brutally honest here and to the point, because it is obvious to me that he loved you and what did you do? You trampled on his heart not once but twice and if something did happen to him, then maybe the reason why his family doesn't want to talk to you about it or even let you know what happened is because somehow they blame you Kind of extreme don't you think? To ditch everything because a woman wants to put off marriage? And she said his family still keeps in touch, so I don't even think you read this thread carefully enough before jumping to such an extreme conclusion... 1
TG1 Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 Kind of extreme don't you think? To ditch everything because a woman wants to put off marriage? And she said his family still keeps in touch, so I don't even think you read this thread carefully enough before jumping to such an extreme conclusion... Maybe because he couldn't take the rejection and that is probably why he took off with his tail tucked in between his legs, probably the rejection got to him that bad, see you wouldn't undertstand how men are, we take rejection hard
Author Nina Galileo Posted October 4, 2012 Author Posted October 4, 2012 @TGI -I understand what you're to trying to say.I really do.Ever since he went missing.I blame myself for this.Although my family and his family keep on persuading me for not blaming myself,I still blame myself.I know it was fault for turning down the proposal twice.But why now?If he really wants to leave,where are the signs?Nothing. I left my dream career for him,I even left Harvard for him.I may sound like a bad gf but my bf is not a rich man.He's not even a well educated man.The moment I be with him,I know I wouldn't get the life I wanted.He already tell me that I may leave him for a better guy but he won't leave me because he loves me.He's a sincere man.Why did I finally take him as my husband soon?Not because he's a jerk and I'm smart so that I can point everything on him.Not because I'm desperate. It's because I see my future with him and that's why I left everything for him.I see the real life - me,him,our kids,our house.I'm happy.I see myself as a happy person than being a stressful woman as I need to finish the works for my dream career.I don't care about him being poor and not well educated.Because his heart has proven to me that he can look after me.He does 2 jobs for his life,he's amazing.I adore that. If you're right and he already left me,I can't do anything about that.I can't force him to love me once again.I know I have done the best for him.Marriage is one serious thing and I'm not playing with it.I don't want get divorced.I love him. Why can't the family just blame me like what they always do if someone did wrongs? If I'm the mother,I'll have a slow talk and let the girl leave my son.She doesn't have to wait anymore. Everyday,I use 2 same roads just because I want to see him in case if he's secretly at here.But no,I haven't see him so far.I met the family but not him.I chased few men who looked like him and no,those men weren't him.I know my bf more than anyone else.I know that guy.He's the guy who showed me the light and happiness.He's the one who has proven to me that money can't buy love and life.He's Bryan King.People don't see him like what I see. I'm so sorry for being too emotional.This is too hard for me.Not because of your post but my current situation.
Author Nina Galileo Posted October 4, 2012 Author Posted October 4, 2012 @TG1-I know men take rejection hard.How do you explain of me here?Don't you just see that I take this thing hard too?I love him.I will marry him but not for the last 2 years because we don't have any proper plan.Now that we have,we secretly looking for house,we secretly testing on clothes,doing our list,everything. We suppose to get married this December.We planned everything and it should be a surprise for the both side of our family.On the 5th of September was our 2nd rehearsal and he didn't show up.Friends felt weird.Now that the our family know about our marriage,what now?Deep inside my heart,I know he will come back.If he's not coming during our wedding,I'll be fine.I'll wait.I'm serious
2sunny Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 Maybe he had misconduct at his place of work? Have you checked court records to see if he has any charges against him?
mtber75 Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 Sorry, but its probably true that he is in prison or in some sort of trouble. Why would his family be so ashamed to talk about his matter to you? 1
Author Nina Galileo Posted October 5, 2012 Author Posted October 5, 2012 @2sunny - No I haven't.I hope he's okay because this middle of the month,he should be at Australia for a big job.He finally gets his dream job
Author Nina Galileo Posted October 5, 2012 Author Posted October 5, 2012 @mtber75 - I think so too.Because if we think from the positive side,a family would do anything to hide their kids' trouble.I know his family especially his mother,she never exposes her kids' bad attitude to people.
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