Being patient and waiting for the light at the end of the tunnel?

[Girlboots]

You know how you feel like the relationship is starting to suck, and then you decide that maybe holding on and waiting for that person you loved so much to come back will be all worth it in the end? Has that ever worked for anyone? Has anyone ever had success with that here? Being patient for someone who isn't treating you right, and holding on to that hope that they will be back to "normal" again?

[lil hoodlum]

I had a relationship like that with an exgirlfriend many years ago. It pains me to say it and it took me a long time to learn this lesson but, talk is cheap/// and actions speak louder than words.

 

If someone has consistently time and time again done something and their words don't match up, there is a problem!! Quit listening to the empty words and pay attention to their actions.

[lil hoodlum]

Oh and to answer your question, no things did not work out. I waited and hoped and wanted to believe all of those empty promises of change. It never happened and I wasted allot of time simply "waiting".

[Hawaii50]

No, I wouldn't waste my time with people who don't treat me right.

 

But I definitely feel the "light at the end of the tunnel"... Been working in Iraq/Afghan****stain since 08' and I have like 10 months left till I'm done. I'm a civilian making a huge sacrifice for a better foundation for tomorrow... I see the LIGHT!!!!!

[JustALittleBit]

I think it depends why they are treating you poorly, if it is something really obvious (death, family stress etc.) then stay and work through it, if it's something more obscure then there's really no excuse for them treating you poorly.

 

I stayed once when they treated me poorly, it never got better. When I left I was gone and my life improved exponentially.

 

My friend stayed with her boyfriend when he was really stressed out with work, it improved although she has also said she would never stay if it happened again. Once was enough.

 

My last relationship started turning bad and I stayed for a bit, tried to talk about it and when it continued I left.

 

Stresses in relationships are normal, it depends on what's causing it and how poorly they are treating you. If you walked out, would that actually be unfair on them and you not being understanding? Or has it been a progressive thing where they are just treating you worse and worse?

 

My advice = try talk about it first. Communciate that you won't wait around if it continues. If it continues = leave.