OCCDAVE Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 Wife of three years ago and I have been separated about 8 months now.i feel into a seizure Sunday night and just woke up last night.ive been on the fence on contacting her but unsure .guess i just miss her bad
Hawaii50 Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 hang in there, buddy. relax and rest up. How often do you speak with her?
Author OCCDAVE Posted October 3, 2012 Author Posted October 3, 2012 Last time I heard from her was feb 10 Since then I've maintained nc guess this last hospital scare had me missing her voice more then ever then again guess it doesn't help guy next to me is with his wife sigh
KathyM Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 I think you should contact her, keep it light, ask her how it's been going for her. I wouldn't give up on a marriage until the divorce papers are final, unless there's infidelity involved. Keep in touch with her on a regular basis, and be friendly, asking her how she's been. Keep your foot in the door, so to speak. There's always hope until the divorce papers are final.
Author OCCDAVE Posted October 3, 2012 Author Posted October 3, 2012 I guess I should have been more divorce papers have been cleared for some time now.to sum it up she said she cheated on me looking back I feel I pushed her away
Author OCCDAVE Posted October 3, 2012 Author Posted October 3, 2012 Just called private didn't have the nerve to answer considering we been divorced for some time now
Author OCCDAVE Posted October 3, 2012 Author Posted October 3, 2012 Ugh if I don't get out this hospital soon I'm gonna break nc and I have a feeling she will make me regret it
Yasuandio Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 Try to keep cool. If you call now - she will know you did the "private call." NC means NC. Right? It is meant to help YOU! Yas
Author OCCDAVE Posted October 3, 2012 Author Posted October 3, 2012 Yes it's meant to help guess I'm having a set back in my recovery .sure last time I spoke to her I've been been in the er/hospital tons of times just never for something this major.Then again like I said to my friend she could turn around and be like ok ur in the hospital now what's it to me or would like to see what my husband thinks (assuming she is close to that point) ugh hate this feel even hearing her voice last night had me in bed in tears
Yasuandio Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 (edited) Yes it's meant to help guess I'm having a set back in my recovery .sure last time I spoke to her I've been been in the er/hospital tons of times just never for something this major.Then again like I said to my friend she could turn around and be like ok ur in the hospital now what's it to me or would like to see what my husband thinks (assuming she is close to that point) ugh hate this feel even hearing her voice last night had me in bed in tears The choice is yours. Hear her voice - be in tears. OR resist, and replace the thought with something else. May seem mechanical at first. But if I can do it (with obsessive/compulsive disorder, bi-polar 2, and ADHD, etc.), then you can do it to. Bite the bullet. Disappear the self-pity. I know it's not easy, just do it. Yas Edited October 3, 2012 by Yasuandio
Author OCCDAVE Posted October 3, 2012 Author Posted October 3, 2012 True come to think of it I don't think any good will come of it .plus I've made it this far with nc so I gotta keep going :-/
Yasuandio Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 Sometimes I'm sort of envious of you guys who can go NC. Its got to make coping a little easier. My wife and I have been separated for 2 years and we talk fo each other everyday and spend most weekends together....well, not together, but in the same house anyway. Ya just gotta choose the right road for your sanity - and stay on it, period. Y
Author OCCDAVE Posted October 3, 2012 Author Posted October 3, 2012 There were times I took the other road and time after time I crashed .maybe it was to soon in the healing maybe not.i think another thing that helped was unlike most we didn't have any kids so I had no choice but to maintain nc with her.sometimes I struggle to think we had a talk about a week before she dropped the bomb regrading having a baby .I know she was trying to get nasty but still haunts me:-/
Author OCCDAVE Posted October 5, 2012 Author Posted October 5, 2012 Finally home after my whole seizure problem and not gonna lie I'm laying here feeling alone.I kinda wanted to reach out let her know what happen but for what she's not part of my life now.It hasn't been even a full year and I already have faced yet another bump in the road .I won't lie at the start I was bitter and wished her nothing but bad luck but now I just hope and pray my bad luck is coming to an end .Im not perfect but this whole seizure thing has me on the edge and yet again feeling very alone as we'll as scared .:-/
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