handsomeone Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 just wondering if anyone has had as much luck as the site says you will using umpteen dates. i've read in a few places on the internet that guys are having good results from it. but idk, to me it seems that having an application send out 50 messages for you to girls on pof might be excessive, I mean I know dating is a numbers game but 50 msgs a day? is it really worth it? I guess im just wondering what kind of luck everyone who's used umpteen dates has had.
huntingirl2010 Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 I had a good and bad experience with POF. The good is that I found my fiance on that site, an I wouldn't trade him for the world. And the bad is that I had one guy from California say I was only aloud to speak to him and all this other stuff. I wouldn't email 50 different people. I only emailed the ones I truly liked and thought would really go somewhere. best of luck
Author handsomeone Posted October 3, 2012 Author Posted October 3, 2012 I had a good and bad experience with POF. The good is that I found my fiance on that site, an I wouldn't trade him for the world. And the bad is that I had one guy from California say I was only aloud to speak to him and all this other stuff. I wouldn't email 50 different people. I only emailed the ones I truly liked and thought would really go somewhere. best of luck you used the umpteen dates program to send the msgs for you?
ConfidentLove Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 i've actually been using umpteen dates for awhile now, makes online dating so much easier. of course you still have to have good messages for it to send out but it takes the pain away from spending hours at a computer. The girls that are interested reply back, the ones that aren't don't. This tool just speeds up the process of plenty of fish dating 100X times.
xpaperxcutx Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 Funny thing, I had actually met my boyfriend on Craiglist list but we found each other on the Platonic section. While I have done online dating especially on POF, Im not an advocate for it. I think the general consensus is that much of its appeal has been lost and not alot of people take it too seriously. Yes, I agree it's a good platform to meet people, but it should not be your only platform. If you are going to be using an app to get more responses more power to you. Dating is like a business you take risks to get some kind of returns.
AD1980 Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 pof to me seemed like an extremely shallow site with a bunch of blah women looking for male models I had no luck on there at all and i remember reading forums and it made me feel like a leper for being under 5'10
ConfidentLove Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 (edited) i'm under 5'10 as well. I used to sit at my computer and message each individual girl according to something I found on her profile. I was getting maybe 1 out of 10 replies and wasting about 1hr to message 15 girls. I then tried an ice breaker cut and paste message that got their attention, I was getting about 2to3 replies out of 10. Now I just load 6 different messages into the Umpteen Dates plenty of fish automation tool, hit go, have it send out 50 messages. and I get about 20 to 30 replies, mainly because doing it this way i've been able to test what messages work best and what ones don't get any replies at all. Out of my 6 different messages it's usually 1 or 2 that get alot more replies than the other ones, so I know to use these ones again. Edited October 4, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Sith Apprentice Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 It's great how this software auto trolls and sends out spam messages for you. On the down side, If you meet a woman from POF I can guarantee she's going to be the fugliest woman in the bar.
kaylan Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 Funny thing, I had actually met my boyfriend on Craiglist list but we found each other on the Platonic section. Im actually using that section to find friends at the moment, but my experience so far is that both men and women are trying to find partners and hookups instead of platonic friends. =/
ConfidentLove Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 It's great how this software auto trolls and sends out spam messages for you. On the down side, If you meet a woman from POF I can guarantee she's going to be the fugliest woman in the bar. What's the difference between sending out copy pastes messages one at a time or having a software do it for you? nothing except for saving time. and I have met quite a few women that the software first messaged for me, with the message I gave it to send out, that are very gorgeous. It lets you pick what type of girls to msg, and of course I always select the thin and average body types so I only get good looking women.
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 When I was on pof I went on a ton of dates and I got a lot of messages. When I joined I got at least 30 a day and then it starts to dwindle. So I think there are men who send a ton of messages, I personally never did I think I sent 5 messages total. I personally hate pof but it has worked for a few people I know.. I'm unfortunately not one haha I personally don't answer if it looks generic though. I think you should be creative when you message me lol
ConfidentLove Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 When I was on pof I went on a ton of dates and I got a lot of messages. When I joined I got at least 30 a day and then it starts to dwindle. So I think there are men who send a ton of messages, I personally never did I think I sent 5 messages total. I personally hate pof but it has worked for a few people I know.. I'm unfortunately not one haha I personally don't answer if it looks generic though. I think you should be creative when you message me lol Yeah I thought this way at first too, to make each message creative and having something to do with a woman's profile. But online dating for men is a numbers game, you have to send out at least 15 messages a day to get a few replies, and then from those replies to try and get dates out of them. I realized that the majority of women's profiles all say the same thing! Their hobbies, books they read, what they want in a guy, that they don't do hookups, ect. So now I have universal tailored messages that I have sent out with the application that are just ice breakers, the women that do respond to them I have a real conversation with and look their profiles over. It's been working very well for me for awhile now and i'm actually going on more dates than I have at any other point in my life, it's getting kind of exhausting now so I think I will continue to see the few women that have left good impressions on me and seem compatible. i'll just leave my pof account idle for the time being and see where it goes from there. urgh, went on a date yesterday, and have today and tomorrow booked.
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 Yeah I thought this way at first too, to make each message creative and having something to do with a woman's profile. But online dating for men is a numbers game, you have to send out at least 15 messages a day to get a few replies, and then from those replies to try and get dates out of them. I realized that the majority of women's profiles all say the same thing! Their hobbies, books they read, what they want in a guy, that they don't do hookups, ect. So now I have universal tailored messages that I have sent out with the application that are just ice breakers, the women that do respond to them I have a real conversation with and look their profiles over. It's been working very well for me for awhile now and i'm actually going on more dates than I have at any other point in my life, it's getting kind of exhausting now so I think I will continue to see the few women that have left good impressions on me and seem compatible. i'll just leave my pof account idle for the time being and see where it goes from there. urgh, went on a date yesterday, and have today and tomorrow booked. Good luck!!
SJC2008 Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 I personally don't answer if it looks generic though. I think you should be creative when you message me lol This is one area where many women miss the boat with OLD. A lot of them want in depth personalized messages. A dating site is to get to a date and go from there. A first message is an ice breaker showing interest and as long as it's not a simple one word "hi" or something stupid like "hey baby .. " a short intro saying hi and an invite to check out his profile should suffice. I tried POF I'm not aware if this feature but I do read profiles so I don't know how salvoing messages would work.
ConfidentLove Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 This is one area where many women miss the boat with OLD. A lot of them want in depth personalized messages. A dating site is to get to a date and go from there. A first message is an ice breaker showing interest and as long as it's not a simple one word "hi" or something stupid like "hey baby .. " a short intro saying hi and an invite to check out his profile should suffice. I tried POF I'm not aware if this feature but I do read profiles so I don't know how salvoing messages would work. Yeah Exactly, they can't expect a personalized message that takes time and effort to write up, when chances are they will blow it off anyways, deep conversation comes after the initial ice breaker. umpteen dates is not a feature on POF, its a software application designed to send automatic messages to women that you prefill out. you can google umpteen dates tot find it.
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