CopingGal Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 Some people on LS look down on dumpers because they were dumped and are in extreme pain. But sometimes dumping is appropriate. I'm not going to tell my story because I've told it over and over again. So let me just say briefly, I dumped my bf because: he abandoned me in the relationship. He started to ignore me, wouldn't accept my calls, wouldn't email me, etc. He used his autistic son as an excuse to ignore me. After I dumped him I found out he was cheating on me and he was using his autistic son in his lies.That's a tid-bit. Of course, anyone who's kept up with my posts knows that my ex has strong sociopathic traits and strong traits of narcissitic personality disorder. He has an underdeveloped conscience, is a compulsive liar, has a sense of entitlement, is extremely controlling, is impulsive, and doesn't take responsibility for the pain he causes others. Do you have a dumping story in which you feel you had the right to leave your partner?
robaday Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 Yeah, she simply didnt respect me, or even try and understand where I was coming from. If I raised an issue I was a "victim" or "sabotaging"......in the end I went insane because I couldnt tell reality from her gaslighting. I stayed for a long time, hoping things got better. Tried to reason with her, but she couldnt see her controlling behavior as weird of out of line. So I had to break up with her. Even at the very end, I pleaded for her to see that her behavior was hurting me and I couldnt deal with her checking my phone, or accusing me of cheating anymore. Why did I hang around? she had great qualities too, kind, caring, beautiful, smart, great sex, but that insecurity killed me.
BooBoo1982 Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 Yeah, she simply didnt respect me, or even try and understand where I was coming from. If I raised an issue I was a "victim" or "sabotaging"......in the end I went insane because I couldnt tell reality from her gaslighting. I stayed for a long time, hoping things got better. Tried to reason with her, but she couldnt see her controlling behavior as weird of out of line. So I had to break up with her. Even at the very end, I pleaded for her to see that her behavior was hurting me and I couldnt deal with her checking my phone, or accusing me of cheating anymore. Why did I hang around? she had great qualities too, kind, caring, beautiful, smart, great sex, but that insecurity killed me. Do you still want her back?
Minka333 Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 I dumped my ex-fiance because he had a very bad temper. When he's mad, he looks/acts deranged and possessed. His rages are scary. One time he acted as if he was about to choke me. He is very jealous. Controlling. He always threatens me he'll kill himself if i leave him (he's still very much alive). He is a nagger. A know-it-all. He likes to argue and he thinks he's always right. I wasn't sexually satisfied with him.* ..and most of all he hated my cute dog:(
MonsterMash Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 I found out my ex wife was having an affair. I called her up at work and told her to pack her s**t and get the f**k out. The only thing I wanted to know was the address of the rock she crawled back under so I would know where to send the divorce papers to. She tried every trick in the book for us to work it out...but I still divorced her in about 6 weeks from D day.
Author CopingGal Posted October 14, 2012 Author Posted October 14, 2012 I dumped my ex-fiance because he had a very bad temper. When he's mad, he looks/acts deranged and possessed. His rages are scary. One time he acted as if he was about to choke me. He is very jealous. Controlling. He always threatens me he'll kill himself if i leave him (he's still very much alive). He is a nagger. A know-it-all. He likes to argue and he thinks he's always right. I wasn't sexually satisfied with him.* ..and most of all he hated my cute dog:( EEK! I'm glad you left him. Congratulations!
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