Junkshakemail Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 I have know her for the past 8 months and grew to be close friends. She is in a 7 year relationship (she stays with him )and the guy wants to get engaged in dec. She tells me that though she loves him but she is not ready for that kind of commitment and confused and doesnt know what to do. For the past month I am started to develop feeling for her, she is perfect in every way for me. We have started to hang out a lot every other day, last night we met up for dinner and she invited me home since she needs to pack some clothes from her home (though she lives with her bf she has a separate place - the one she used to stay) so I went over and helped her and we started to drink and we began talking. I told her she is perfect and I would have asked her out only if she was single and I resisted the urge to tell her that I like her now. We drank a lot and she told me that she also finds me attractive and would have dated me if she was single (by this time we were drunk) After a lot more talking and playing truth or dare I was still resisting the urge to get physical with her, she kissed on my the lips and was half naked nothing else happened and then we said what ever happened tonight will not change any thing between us. Nothing else happened I put her on the bus and I came back home, I met her in school today and we were normal like nothing happened I dont know what to do, I am started to really like her but I dont want to ruin her relationship though she is not sure and doesnt want to get engaged. I know it seems like she just wants to hang out till she get engaged (if she does) but I am not sure Please help
veggirl Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 OMG well even if she DID break up with her boyfriend why would you want someone who is a cheater?! Plus a 7 yr relationship would likely take a long time to get over. You are soo wasting your time dude. You should tell her you are OUT and you shouldn't even bother maintaining a friendship. This won't end well for you, you should run while you can before you get even more sucked in.
Dark-Farmer Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 Veg is 100% right even if she breaks off her 7 yr relationship and want to see you, she will be an emotional roller coaster and will probably want to be "just single for a while" and you will get hurt. or she'll cheat (more) and you'll both ruin the 7 yr relationship and everyone will get hurt. or you can call things off and get distance and get over her before you get hurt. I don't see anyway you won't get hurt and if you put it that way she is being really selfish. She basically already cheated with you, if her BF knew what she did with you already he would probably be pretty broken up about it.
Author Junkshakemail Posted October 3, 2012 Author Posted October 3, 2012 guess I should just back off, could I ever be friends?
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