lovecash Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 Quick Backstory: GF broke up with me a month ago. I'm finally getting over that initial stage and learning to detach myself from memories and all that stuff. She works in a very high stress/long hour job (part of the reason for the breakup) so she has little to no time to check or update her facebook. But obviously she does from time to time look on it, but never posts pictures, updates, or anything so I have no need to un-friend her. I am pretty socially active- posting things I did with friends and status updates, stuff like that. The question is - how do I handle how often/how much I post things. I obviously want her to see that am am KILLING life without her right? She also was pretty much 100% dependent on me and my group of friends for social events, so I want her to see that she has made a huge downgrade in her life without me. We are currently NC and I really dont expect any contact with her for at least a couple months. I am prepared to move on completely without her, but do think there's a chance she comes to her senses and realizes what shes lost without me in her life for a few months. What to do?
Hawaii50 Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 Totally wrong approach, errr departure. enlightenup. 1
Calico Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 The question is - how do I handle how often/how much I post things. I obviously want her to see that am am KILLING life without her right? No, that's not what you want her to see. Ideally, you should not give a damn about what she does, thinks or feels. That's not so easy, of course, but try to avoid "acting", whether that's making sure she sees just how devastated you are or pretending you are having the time of your life. Doing either of those gets you stuck, because it's still all about her and her reactions. The goal is to get to a point where she doesn't matter to you. Genuinely so.
I'm nuts Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 she has little to no time to check or update her facebook. Oh no, what!!!, she doesn't update her facebollocks every hour, come on man, can't you see she's not with the programme, dump her, then tell all your 'friends' on faceache. Don't forget to tell us all when you're in a new relationship, can't wait to hear
flitzanu Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 Quick Backstory: GF broke up with me a month ago. I'm finally getting over that initial stage and learning to detach myself from memories and all that stuff. She works in a very high stress/long hour job (part of the reason for the breakup) so she has little to no time to check or update her facebook. But obviously she does from time to time look on it, but never posts pictures, updates, or anything so I have no need to un-friend her. I am pretty socially active- posting things I did with friends and status updates, stuff like that. The question is - how do I handle how often/how much I post things. I obviously want her to see that am am KILLING life without her right? She also was pretty much 100% dependent on me and my group of friends for social events, so I want her to see that she has made a huge downgrade in her life without me. We are currently NC and I really dont expect any contact with her for at least a couple months. I am prepared to move on completely without her, but do think there's a chance she comes to her senses and realizes what shes lost without me in her life for a few months. What to do? since you want her to notice you, maybe you can just post your fakebook updates about how awesome you are without her and tag her in them? step #1: block her on fb and quit worrying about her seeing you lying in your updates. 1
Author lovecash Posted October 2, 2012 Author Posted October 2, 2012 yeah you guys are right, the more i think about it. Blocked. 1
Mike_d Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 yeah!! finally, someone sacks up and hits the delete button, great job 1
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