NavyAirTraffic Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 I'll keep this relatively short. Recently my girlfriend broke up with me because she said she's confused, needed space, and wants to be single. The day she broke up with me, she left my house turned around hugged me kissed me and said "you are an amazing man, you are so good to me". 3 hours later I got a text saying she can't be with me, she is confused and can't do this to me. I'm 33 she's 25, I understand she needs space, I'm not a child and this isn't my first rodeo. So I broke contact. My dilemma, a week later she called and I told her I needed space (I know whatever I say won't get her back at this point) so I wanted to go no contact and start fixing myself, and I'd contact her when I was ready. She said ok on the phone but an hour later I received 5-7 texts telling me she wanted to see me and she's thinking about me. I gave in, we saw each other, she cried, we talked and even had sex. The next day she texted me that nothing has changed, she still is confused and wants to be single. She also said she can't see me anymore and she initiated no contact. Have I messed up, should I have not seen her? She's someone I want to be with forever but understand that I alone don't determine the outcome. I know anything I say can't help but only hurt, so I won't contact her anymore. Actually I can't, never memorized her number and deleted ALL of her contact info. What do I do if she contacts me again, I think I know the answer but I'm looking for opinions and affirmation? Did I mess up the no contact because she now initiated it? Thanks if anyone responds.
TaraMaiden Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 No. She just wanted the last word. She doesn't want to be dumped, she wants to be able to feel the control of having dumped you. Women can be like that sometimes. It gives them a sense of power, if they feel their life is spiralling out of control. Stay NC. Read the link in my signature. She can't be trusted to treat your heart with the respect it deserves. if she wants to 'try again' - tread with extreme caution. She has a lot more to prove than you have. 1
Author NavyAirTraffic Posted October 2, 2012 Author Posted October 2, 2012 Firstly thanks for the help and link, im reading a lot today. I'm not saying this will happen but if she contacts me "how are you doing" type message in the next month or so what should I do? I've read to ignore it or act as if nothing is wrong.
TaraMaiden Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 Firstly thanks for the help and link, im reading a lot today. I'm not saying this will happen but if she contacts me "how are you doing" type message in the next month or so what should I do? I've read to ignore it or act as if nothing is wrong. You read right. It's breadcrumbs. If you have no problem licking those off the sidewalk, at her feet, go ahead and respond, but if you want to retain your dignity and stand tall and look the world in the eye - IG-NORE it ALL.
Author NavyAirTraffic Posted October 3, 2012 Author Posted October 3, 2012 TaraMaiden you are 100% right, I cannot contact her again. I'm sorry but this breaks my heart, just saw her 2 days ago and she has started an account on match.com and looking for a relationship. I'm a reasonable man but this just breaks my heart. Thanks for your advice, I will follow it to a tee!! She was always here, always wanting to talk, always wanted to see me, until the last day, then nothing! I just don't understand.
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