SoulOnFire Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 Hey, everyone. Just stumbled across this forum looking for good heartbreak songs for a playlist. I thought maybe I could unload here and get some advice, or at least a few cyber ears from some people who understand what I'm going through. It's been a year since my biyfriend left me. 14 months to be exact. We were together for a year, and we were inseperable. He made me feel like no one ever did; lika a princess, like the most beautiful girl in the world. i never knew love could be so amazing. He was my heart, my soul, my all. Like, after a year, i'd still get butterflies when he'd walk into the room and I still felt like the luckiest girl alive in his arms. It hurt in my chest when he was away. He always said the same thing. Always. We were so close all the time. Then, this new girl started working with him. I didn't even think about it. I trusted him completely. They struck up a friendship (or so I thought). Again, I just thought that it was him being him...friendly, a good guy. Well, they started hanging out a lot, and when he was around he was just different. He wasn't as close to me anymore. I still thought maybe it was because he hadn't been feeling well, and he was just run down. Boy was I naive. I found out via FACEBOOK that they were a "thing". He had a work function that was "just a little work thing". I said fine...and then on his Facebook, one of his friends posted "it was great hanging with you and your lady tonight. Congrats, man." I was like WTF? Came to find out there was no work function. He was out with her. When I confronted him, all he could say was "I'm sorry". He moved out that weekend, and within a month they were living together. They're still together and seem very happy. I've tried dating, but just can't get passed him. I compare others to him and no one matches up. All I can think about is him. I see him and it breaks my heart. Occasionally he'll call me and tell me he's sorry and he still cares for me, or he wants to make sure I am okay, and it just hurts more because I hear the compassion in his voice and it makes me feel like this passed year never happened...then when the phone hangs up, reality sets in. I worry about him. I worry that she doesn't take care of him properly. I miss him. I need him. They say everyone has a "one". If he's not mine, I don't know who is. Nothing has felt more right, therefore nothing has crushed my heart more than this. He was in the hospital a couple of weeks ago for bleeding ulcers. She was out of town. Of course, I ran up there. Sitting there with him, watching bull**** on TV and holding his hand, it was like we'd never parted. I felt a warmth and a serenity I hadn't felt since he left when I hugged him. Now she's back and they're still in love and I am still alone. Oh, and another thing...this bitch...a poem he wrote for me when we were together, she got a line from it tattooed on her ribs. I mean, really? He didn't even know you when he wrote it, and it pertained to things in my life he vowed to protect me from. What gives her the right? It's like she's taunting me. How the hell do I get passed this???
glamourfrog Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 You need to go no contact with him, cut him out completely. I know how hard it is because you're mourning the life you both could have had together, and the plans you had but they're not going to happen now. Dwelling on it is making you miserable and isn't good for your health. Don't see him anymore, don't contact him and don't listen to heartbreak playlists. Put some music that makes you feel good on, delete them both from your life/facebook/phone and find something you enjoy doing and throw yourself into it. 14 months is a long time and it seems he is in it for the long haul with her, be kind to yourself and forget him.
glamourfrog Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 By the way, the best revenge is moving on and showing them that you don't need them anymore.
Minka333 Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 People change their hearts. You can't really blame your bf because he cannot control his emotions. He must've found something with the other girl that is missing in your relationship.* Put yourself in his shoes. It could have happened to you too. Everything may seem perfect until you meet someone who made you happier or understood your emotions more. Nothing is certain about life no matter how flawless a relationship is. You have to leave something for yourself when the inevitable happens. If you truly love him, set him free. Make him live his happiness. Don't hold him back. You cannot force or control his feelings. It is difficult but it is the only way for both sides to heal. Don't go waiting or wishing for things to change. He chose his path. Do not stay on a dead-end street. Find another route to possible happiness. Love yourself first and the rest will follow...
CopingGal Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 You are acting like this thing is her fault. It's isn't. It's his fault. Why are you going to the hospital and holding his hand? He screwed you over bigtime and he doesn't deserve anything from you. She is not your problem. He is your problem. He cheated on you. He is a ******. Leave him alone and go NC immediately. Go luck.
CopingGal Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 You can't really blame your bf because he cannot control his emotions. Yes she can blame him. He lied to her. He deceived her. She certainly can blame him. 2
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