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Have you ever been in love with someone that you literally have no chance with?

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warrenorabbits Established Member

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And I'm literally not using "literally" to mean "figuratively" or "almost."

 

There is this girl that I have been in love with ever since I first saw a picture of her. It was back in 2009, and I remember being unable to concentrate for days just thinking about her. She was that wonderful kind of imperfect pretty where she's just beautiful naturally without any kind of dolling up. Even to this day, I've never seen a woman more beautiful than she is.

 

What made it even better was when I looked at her page. I could tell from what she had written that she was a sweet, innocent, almost child-like girl* -- nice to everyone, probably never had a boyfriend, with a sly sense of humour and a touch of flirtiness that made me want her so badly. For a little while I resisted the temptation to contact her because I worried about looking like a creep. Then I finally couldn't resist and texted her (her phone number was on her page). We had a nice conversation that fizzled out, but she was everything she appeared to be as we talked. I tried to contact her a few times after and she didn't answer. Which, really, what can I expect?

 

A few months ago I got bored and looked at her profile ... bad idea. I haven't been able to stop thinking about her since. If she were my girl, I would spoil her so badly ... but I'm not going to try to contact her. I think that that would be too much.

 

"Love" sucks sometimes.

 

*17 to my 18, mind you.

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Oh yeah ... in case you were wondering (1) what this topic has to do with LDR or (2) why I don't have a chance,

 

(1) she lived far away.

(2) I'm not a creep. Well ... not that much of a creep. ;)

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Yeah, that happened to me. I fell for a guy who lived on the other side of the country. We did get romantically involved, but it was doomed from the start. He had a kid so therefore lots of contact with his ex-wife. They still shared a home, he worked 2 hours from there, so spent half the week on site, then the rest of the time at this house so he could spend time with his daughter.

 

I knew it would never work, but I refused to see the red flags. I even made plans to move there. But I found out later, I was simply a distraction for him, he was never serious about having a real relationship. I let him string me along until I finally got dumped and heartbroken.

 

So yeah...no chance. I should have never got romantically involved with him because the let down was terrible.

 

I don't think you should go back to her profile page, you're just prolonging the agony. It takes strength to do that though. I mean, I know he posts on another forum, but I haven't been back there at all because I don't want to be reminded of the hurt.

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And I'm literally not using "literally" to mean "figuratively" or "almost."

 

There is this girl that I have been in love with ever since I first saw a picture of her. It was back in 2009, and I remember being unable to concentrate for days just thinking about her. She was that wonderful kind of imperfect pretty where she's just beautiful naturally without any kind of dolling up. Even to this day, I've never seen a woman more beautiful than she is.

 

What made it even better was when I looked at her page. I could tell from what she had written that she was a sweet, innocent, almost child-like girl* -- nice to everyone, probably never had a boyfriend, with a sly sense of humour and a touch of flirtiness that made me want her so badly. For a little while I resisted the temptation to contact her because I worried about looking like a creep. Then I finally couldn't resist and texted her (her phone number was on her page). We had a nice conversation that fizzled out, but she was everything she appeared to be as we talked. I tried to contact her a few times after and she didn't answer. Which, really, what can I expect?

 

A few months ago I got bored and looked at her profile ... bad idea. I haven't been able to stop thinking about her since. If she were my girl, I would spoil her so badly ... but I'm not going to try to contact her. I think that that would be too much.

 

"Love" sucks sometimes.

 

*17 to my 18, mind you.

 

 

Yeah... umm... that's not love. it's called infatuation. otherwise I can say I was in love with Playboy's March 96, August AND September 98, May 2000.. the list goes on, it's not love.

Hawaii50 Established Member

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BUT if you want, give me her name and I'll make sure I contact her for you...

 

 

 

... and let her know to get a restraining order.

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Yeah... umm... that's not love. it's called infatuation. otherwise I can say I was in love with Playboy's March 96, August AND September 98, May 2000.. the list goes on, it's not love.

 

Why I, love in quotation marks put, that is.

justwhoiam Established Member

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Have you ever been in love with someone that you literally have no chance with?
I don't recall not having a chance... There's always a chance. Almost always. It looks like you had yours.
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First, you are using "literally" to mean "figuratively" because you always have a shot. Moreover, there's nothing in your post to suggest you're in this doomed situation you suggest. So your texting conversation didn't make her jump you. People have done things a lot worse then having a minimally-stimulating texting conversation and ultimately gotten the girl they were after.

 

If anything, your post merely suggests that she wasn't into your personality at that time, but things change. I've been in numerous situations where I have met someone and there were no sparks, only to see them a few years later and hit it off immediately.

 

And you almost always have more than one "chance."

 

That being said, you can't be creepy about it. Never again, and I mean ever, should you take someones phone number off Facebook and start texting them. That's stalker ****. If you want to make initial contact, do it through a less personal medium, like Facebook messaging itself.

 

I don't think you're in a hopeless position at all, but I would NOT recommend contacting her by text again. Go with a medium that is... less aggressive.

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VodkaShots Established Member

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OP: It sounds like you are imagining her personality. You are reading and seeing what YOU want to see. The reality is probably a lot different. That isn't "love", you just think she's physically beautiful and have a crush. I have made this mistake with hot guys several times. For example when I was 16 I had a massive crush on a gorgeous guy who was in my year, he seemed to have a cute personality because he was always laughing and fooling around and coming across as a "Romeo" on his facebook over his ex. It turned out he was a backstabbing prick. Moral of the story is that you don't really know people's personalities unless you speak to them in person regularly, not how they portray themselves on Facebook etc.

 

If I'm honest it's a bit worrying that you're still "in love" with this chick after three years, I can understand feeling that way for several months or even about a year, but there comes a point where you either do something about it or move on. Otherwise it really does become creepy and obsessive.

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