Tree_Salmon Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 It's been a bit more than 2 months of NC as some of you know. Last time I saw her she was all over me, cheated on her rebound with me and then told me we cant talk anymore after I refused to have sex with her. I was finally starting to move on and then she wrote me last night and I could sense it coming hours before it happened. She said "i know you still love me but I'm with someone and can't do anything about it" So after 2 months of NC that's what i get. Smells like breadcrumbs and bull to me. There isn't much to do but ignore it. I do love her, but this isn't how i want to communicate. Any suggestions?
kae Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 I do feel like you are not telling the whole story.. like last time you saw her you asked her to choose.. she ran away.. gave her new dude more consideration and decided she actually wants to try someone new. I think she is just answering a lingering question.. You did let her know you were into her.. my thoughts are it`s over. dont NC her; forget her period. you can tell her you met someone and you dont want her contacting you for ANY thing because ur new chick deserves better.
youngnlove89 Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 i know you still love me but I'm with someone and can't do anything about it That is merely anything but "I love you and want to be with you again" That is her telling you she knows you are weak and you miss her and long for her, but some other guy has her now and he loves me and there is nothing YOU can do about it. NOTHING. That isn't her saying she wants to be with you again, it's her rubbing it in your face that she has the power over you!! That she can step into your life anytime she wants and push you back down on your knees again, begging for her back. IGNORE!! 1
Liz2012 Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 It sounds like a confused woman. she clearly has feelings for you or she wouldn't bother and the wording is just that be odd enough to show feelings...but the problem is she seems to feel 'tied' to him in some way, I'm not sure if that's because she doesn't feel you're a better option or she's just really screwed up in the head If you're truly starting to move on then you could reply that 'I know. I'm moving on.' or ignore her. I think it could be interesting to see if she texts again if you ignore her.
Calico Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 There is really nothing you can say to her in response. I mean, you could say, "F.uck you, who do you think you are?", but that's not really productive. I wouldn't acknowledge that, if she sent it out of the blue. 2
Author Tree_Salmon Posted October 2, 2012 Author Posted October 2, 2012 There is really nothing you can say to her in response. I mean, you could say, "F.uck you, who do you think you are?", but that's not really productive. I wouldn't acknowledge that, if she sent it out of the blue. Funny thing is she would probably respond to f**k you. Because it would bruise her ego. I'm going to ignore it. She'll probably disappear shortly after. And i would take the "messed up in the head" option over her deciding who's better for her. I didn't get anything I can use out of her. She knows I love her so there really isn't anything else for me to say. I could start a normal conversation where I act like I'm over it but who knows if that will do anything. It all seems like a giant headache and I dont want to participate.
Calico Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 Not responding to this is far, far, far more expressive and powerful than any other attempt to "act like you're over it" could possibly be. The fact that you react would invalidate the claim. Really, not responding to her fishing for a reaction is a splendid opportunity to be and feel in control of this. It's like a gift, really. Hug it and hold it close to your heart. 1
Mike_d Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 ya, that's not one to respond to. pretty much a near FU - can't do anything about it?? really.... lol
Author Tree_Salmon Posted October 2, 2012 Author Posted October 2, 2012 Not responding to this is far, far, far more expressive and powerful than any other attempt to "act like you're over it" could possibly be. The fact that you react would invalidate the claim. Really, not responding to her fishing for a reaction is a splendid opportunity to be and feel in control of this. It's like a gift, really. Hug it and hold it close to your heart. As always, you make a good point. I will ignore it. I'm feeling pretty decent nowadays anyway. Have some great things happening for me, as always. This always gets me though. She knows how to push the right buttons. It's not worthy of a response. Do you think she will attempt more contact? once the ignoring begins? Maybe try harder. Fake affection maybe.
Floored Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 How, how arrogant that text sounds. Run, run from whatever story she's about to spin you, because that sounds like the tip of a terrifying iceburg. It's not even about playing the game back at her, responding with anything will bring it on, and like gibson said, this is a nothing text. Though, full disclosure: as I push into almost 2 months NC, if I got this text out of thin air from my ex, I would respond with a simple "lol" and nothing more. For you though, with the games she's played with you, just no. You tha man, Tree; don't give in to this.
Author Tree_Salmon Posted October 2, 2012 Author Posted October 2, 2012 How, how arrogant that text sounds. Run, run from whatever story she's about to spin you, because that sounds like the tip of a terrifying iceburg. It's not even about playing the game back at her, responding with anything will bring it on, and like gibson said, this is a nothing text. Though, full disclosure: as I push into almost 2 months NC, if I got this text out of thin air from my ex, I would respond with a simple "lol" and nothing more. For you though, with the games she's played with you, just no. You tha man, Tree; don't give in to this. Yeah, it's not going to happen. The more I thought about it the angrier it got me. It's basically like "you think id be with you just because you love me!? HA!" I can't acknowledge this. 1
lovejoy41 Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 Yeah Tree, she's probably checking her phone every 5 mins to see if you're going to say something back. Just itching for a response. She knew that would piss you off & was hoping she would get a rise out of you that's why she sent it. Even though she needs to be punched in the neck for it, you're doing right by ignoring it. Kinda like not stooping down to her level and NOT satisfying her with ANY attention. Actions speak louder than words. Ignore her and that will infuriate her more & let her know that you not thinking about her. Bump her, you got this! HA! 1
bluefairy812 Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 dude... after 2 months of NC that is ALL she has to say????????????? unbelievable! i'm glad you ignored her text. that text is not even worthy of your time / emotions / or anything else in your mind and heart. that text is simply dusting you off her pretty shoulders. delete, forget, and move on! good luck and keep strong. 1
thecobra Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 i know you still love me but I'm with someone and can't do anything about it That is merely anything but "I love you and want to be with you again" That is her telling you she knows you are weak and you miss her and long for her, but some other guy has her now and he loves me and there is nothing YOU can do about it. NOTHING. That isn't her saying she wants to be with you again, it's her rubbing it in your face that she has the power over you!! That she can step into your life anytime she wants and push you back down on your knees again, begging for her back. IGNORE!! should yo uerase from facebook?
Squidoo Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 Oh my god I can believe somebody could be so egotistic, self absorbed and so self involved to send you something out of the blue like that after 2 months of nothing! Who the hell does she think she is too think that she is so special, that you would still feel that way about her still. And even if you do that is not her assumption to make!
suladas Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 That's a brutal text to get. There's no way to even respond to that really. Unless it's something like "Unless you have something better to say then that don't bother saying anything at all".
Author Tree_Salmon Posted October 3, 2012 Author Posted October 3, 2012 That's a brutal text to get. There's no way to even respond to that really. Unless it's something like "Unless you have something better to say then that don't bother saying anything at all". She's playing the victim. Shes choosing this guy over me every second of every day so there really is no victim here. I'm going to let it go. Either her ego will get to her and shell try harder or she just wont give a crap and disappear. I'm guessing the latter.
Svet74 Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 shes seeking attention and an ego boost. Good for you for ignoring her. Cant wait for my ex to come around, just so i can ignore him too
Author Tree_Salmon Posted October 3, 2012 Author Posted October 3, 2012 shes seeking attention and an ego boost. Good for you for ignoring her. Cant wait for my ex to come around, just so i can ignore him too Don't wait for it. You may never get it. Trust me, you don't want them to contact you. It just brings back strange feelings in a now awkward situation. It confuses you and wastes more of your time. I'm finally starting to feel normal again and there really isnt much that can happen to stop me. You want to get to this point. 1
Svet74 Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 Don't wait for it. You may never get it. Trust me, you don't want them to contact you. It just brings back strange feelings in a now awkward situation. It confuses you and wastes more of your time. I'm finally starting to feel normal again and there really isnt much that can happen to stop me. You want to get to this point. My ex broke NC so many times lol, and so many times I got my hopes up.. now i just dont care, I know he is gonna do it again, He always does. This time for the first time im going to ignore him. But then at the same time i really can't he owes me money actually and told me he would call when he has it. So il answer, and if its not about the money il just hang up
Author Tree_Salmon Posted October 3, 2012 Author Posted October 3, 2012 My ex broke NC so many times lol, and so many times I got my hopes up.. now i just dont care, I know he is gonna do it again, He always does. This time for the first time im going to ignore him. But then at the same time i really can't he owes me money actually and told me he would call when he has it. So il answer, and if its not about the money il just hang up Sound like a scummy dude already. NC will definitely bring these people out of the woodwork. Their ego's cant stand the fact that they aren't always #1 priority. 1
bluefairy812 Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 My ex broke NC so many times lol, and so many times I got my hopes up.. now i just dont care, I know he is gonna do it again, He always does. This time for the first time im going to ignore him. But then at the same time i really can't he owes me money actually and told me he would call when he has it. So il answer, and if its not about the money il just hang up LOL i'm in that club too! ex owes me 400 bucks! would be nice to have right about now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 1
Svet74 Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 LOL i'm in that club too! ex owes me 400 bucks! would be nice to have right about now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Yes same here almost 400. sometimes i have a feeling that he just wants to keep holding on to it so he has some control over me. Cuz obviously he lost it in other areas. And Tree yes my ex has a big ego thats for sure. He always needs attention, to know hes number one, And everything has to be his way
suladas Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 That sucks, my ex kinda owes me money. We built a fence together and I paid for most of it, it's probably only like $100 but kinda the point of it, I will never bother to ask for it though. Considering how much I helped her with the rest of hers that I had no reason to other then being nice. Makes me a bit bitter and feeling unappreciated though.
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