Hurt-88 Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 Saturday night my boyfriend ignored my calls and he is a taxi driver so I know he cant answer all the time but thing is he was not working he was in a club talking to other women. I tried calling him a few times as I suspected something. To my suprise he must have pressed answer instead of reject call and I heard the loud pumping music it was a club he was in I heard him with his friends. I am sure it was his voice saying to one of his friends "shall I get her to by me a drink"? I also heard something about do you wanna link? I recorded it all for about 15 minutes. I don't think he realises that I heard this. I asked him where he was saturday night and he lied to me about it all he said he was working and that he did not answer his phone as he was on a job! I know what I heard and I have evidence he is continuing to lie to me. We have been 7 years together. How do I know he did not cheat on me that night? Has he gone there before also? I do not trust him at all now. I am going to end it with him but I am in 2 minds I do love him but I feel so betrayed god knows what happened that night or any other time and the fact how he is lying to me. So my plan is on our 7 year anniversary which is in a few days! I am going to play the recording to him and the what can he say then? Do you think I should end it for good? He keeps denying it and he says how he loves me wnats to marry me I cant believe him and I am so hurt
SoulOnFire Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 I am so sorry. I think it would be best to break it off. I mean, you just caught him...but I can guarantee this is not the first time, and it won't be the last. He'll just start leaving his phone in the car; being more careful. He may have been behaving like this for the entire relationship. You'll always wonder. He sounds like the type that wants the stability of a good woman at home and the freedom to do what he wants. I'm sorry, and I know it will be hard, but you don't deserve that. 1
Author Hurt-88 Posted October 2, 2012 Author Posted October 2, 2012 Thanx u dont deserve what happened to you either men are disgusting I will never be able to trust again. I cant wait to play him the recording though your right he will make sure he is more careful next time and yeh I dont know what else happened and then he comes back to me like nothing happened omg
WhatYouWantToHear Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 (edited) You sound like someone who wants to hold something over him. Congratulations you now have it. Better yet, you only have partial information which you get to use to your advantage in this relationship in two ways. #1 because you don't have the whole story you can project your worst imaginations onto the situation. While you don't know he cheated, you get to have doubts that he did. Be sure to bring this up whenever you're mad at him in the future, even if its for something unrelated. #2 because you don't have the whole story you can rationalize staying with him because you don't have rock solid evidence he cheated. For a weak-willed person who wants to appear strong, its the perfect storm. You get to stay with him, but constantly remind him of what you fear he did. Grow up. He broke your trust and continues to do so, you don't need to know anything more. Just do the inevitable, break up with him now and save both of you a few months/years of misery. Edited October 2, 2012 by WhatYouWantToHear 1
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