blue_jay_bird Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 I don't know what to do. I'm in so much pain, i'm frozen, just going through the motions. I want to talk to him, but im NC. I want to know if he left me for this current girl he's seeing. But even if all the answer's are yes. How would that help. I feel like i'm drowning. I need help, any advise.
TaraMaiden Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 Stop. Stop, stop stop. And I do mean 'stop'. Turn off your computer. Put your coat on, and go for a long walk. If you have a dog, take it. If not, beg or borrow one and take one for a walk. Put your head somewhere else. Go to a homeless shelter and volunteer. Go up to your wardrobe, and clear out every item of clothing you haven't worn in a year, and take it to a charity shop. Do something - anything - to get yourself out of this headspin. 3
River Rain Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 I don't know what to do. I'm in so much pain, i'm frozen, just going through the motions. I want to talk to him, but im NC. I want to know if he left me for this current girl he's seeing. But even if all the answer's are yes. How would that help. I feel like i'm drowning. I need help, any advise. Oh you poor thing...I felt that for three weeks and it was excruciating. Tara is right though, distract yourself. It's the only way to feel better about things. Talk to people and keep yourself as busy as possible. Don't bottle things up, you need to cry and mourn, but don't torture yourself because like you said, it won't help if you know if he left you for her. I was dumped, and the rejection stings so badly. You feel almost broken. I don't have any friends or family so I felt really alone, but talking to people here made things a lot easier for me. Going out is a very good idea, for a walk, to the library, for a coffee...anything to get you out of your state of mind. I hope you feel better, everyone deserves happiness. 1
steveholt Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 Oh, I'm so sorry to hear that you're feeling so awful. I've been NC with my ex-boyfriend for only three days and it's absolutely excruciating. It feels like an eternity. But everyone else is right, you absolutely need to find something to distract yourself. Every time I get the urge to talk to him or I start thinking about him, I direct my attention to something else. I go out without my phone. I talk to a friend. I call my family. Anything I can do to stop thinking about him. Take care of yourself
Author blue_jay_bird Posted October 2, 2012 Author Posted October 2, 2012 thank you guys, i am taking your advice on distracting myself - with school work. It's amazing how much i just worry about if he has a emotional connection with her. I don't care if he as sex with her. I wish i could ask or talk to him. But i know it will end bad. He as said before he didn't leave me for someone else. Either he's a huge lier that should burn in hell or it's a new girl he's dating. Regardless, IT IS WHAT IT IS.
Just smile Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 I feel for ya honey. I'm going through the same thing. Even though, in my heart I know the person I'm not with us toxic. The pain I feel is somewhat debilatating.. I suggest what others suggest, keeping busy. I'm volunteering at my kids school, getting out with friends, cleaning, ANYTHING other than thinking, remembering, looking at photos etc. Today I was out driving and just began to cry. I stopped myself,hang in there.
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