LTD_dude Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 So i was with this girl for 3 years. Needless to say we were madly in love there wasnt a day went by where we didnt see each other and didnt talk. She left college and had no job and always had me yada yada. But now after i had gotten her a job she then moved out into her own apartment with a friend who is single and the distance started, we broke up 2 weeks ago and she told me that it wasnt working even tho i really thought it was we were just having a few issues which i wanted to work out but she decided to break up instead, she said she wanted to see if she could get on without me, I asked her out straight did she still love me and she said yes but i dunno if that love has changed and i asked her was there anyone else and she said no and i believe her because i know the type of person she is.. a few days later i had to collect my stuff from her apartment and i asked her is this really what she wanted and she said she doesnt know , I really got the vibe that it was'nt 100% what she wanted. It has now been 2 weeks since the break up and 6 days NC. I miss her terribly and im dying to talk to her. I'd love to know if she misses me, thinks about and on any level regrets her decision. I found out she was out saturday night and my mind went into overdrive, a part of me really thought she was going to text me and a part of me really thought she would.. but no text whoch really bummed me out. Im totally devastated right now and it doesnt seem to get any easier, I keep waiting for my phone to go off and it will be her.. She's all I can think about and I miss her more every day, i really wish i knew what she is thinking. This is day 6 of NC and its killing me! Does anyone else thinks its GIGS? and is there a way back?
River Rain Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 I'm sorry you're feeling so badly. I'm sorry I'm not familiar with "GIGS", what do you mean by that? Your situation reminds me of a bf I had when I was younger. It was the reverse though, he lived with me and I took care of our expenses. I encouraged him to go to school, which he did, then he moved out into his own place (his mommy paid his rent). That's when the distance started with us too. We were together nearly 2 years. This was back before cell phones and the internet, so I waited by my phone all the time, left him messages, he didn't contact me for a week. I even went to his apartment and he didn't answer the door. One day he came to my place and told me it was over, just that it wasn't working out. It really hurt me. But I kind of realized that once he had his freedom, I was disposable to him. I knew it was over once he stopped the contact because I think, and it's just my opinion, there is no turning back after that. If he wanted me, he wouldn't have moved to his own place, he wouldn't have stopped contacting me. Can you ask her flat out where you stand at this point? It's not fair to be strung along either.
heather_1 Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 Im very much a believer in if a guy wants to see you he WILL see you. Ignore the no contact. If you still want her, go and get her! Tell her you miss her and want her back. But if she shoots you down you just have to accept its over and move on. I went through a similar situation not long ago and found reading a few pages on the net helpful e.g. How To Cope With A Break Up - Dating Advice Centre
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