It's been almost 2 years... Old emotions die hard,u just find a way to live with it..

[ryandxtreme]

It's been a year and 10 months since we broke up,I'm the dumpee and she had apparently got a new guy,I had done the usual begging and pleading...more than a year and a quarter has passed since we have been in NC..Since that time,I have joined a great new job,moved into a new city..

 

She had contacted me in March this year and regretted her decision...She thought she still loved me a lot and searched me in everyone else...She couldn't come forward and say at my face though that she wanted a new innings but she would give those subtle hints ...She had always been a little timid in asking for someone's hand...confidence issues..I waited and waited as I wanted her to prove me how badly she wanted it...But she didn't really barge in... I took a chance and asked her what is it she was thinking..She said she was confused,she feared we might again end up hurting each other and she was afraid to risk getting hurt again ...2 weeks later she texts me to move on...says she doesn't want to be with me again..

 

First forward 3 months I went to a new city ..changed my phone number..after lots of hesitation sent my new number to her...She called me 3 weeks later..asking me how my life was and the normal stuff,She asked me if I would return to my old city(where she lives) anytime soon,I could tell she misses me..before hanging up she said she would call me later...her b'day came 2 days afterwards..i sent her a happy b'day text...she said thanks..That was August 11th..

 

After that I don't know why i have been expecting her to contact me ...She hasn't...2 days back I decided to text her..just a casual.. "Sara,How does it feel to be 21?"...She replies next day morning "Sorry i slept off last night..Saw your text today morning..Why such a weird question? Everyday I get up from bed ,I think life was so good as a child..I didn't have any deep pain"...then we exchanged 3-4 texts...normal stuff...she didn't get into it too much...

 

It's been a year and a half,I dated another girl...got a lot of professional success...but every night when I go to sleep I feel life isn't what it could have been if I was with her...Damn even sleeping itself is so difficult..Earlier I would rationalise my mind by thinking all the torture she had put me through but now only the good memories surface...

 

My question is when do u really get over it entirely ?? It's been almost 2 years since then I have been fighting so hard,trying to move forward and not think about her...but every now and then the old emotions pop up and I start expecting her to contact me..

Edited October 2, 2012 by ryandxtreme

[winstonsdreams]

Hey man sorry to hear about all that, i know how you feel i think a lot of people on here do, but i don't think you truly ever let her go hey. The only way to do that is to cut her off contact completely until you don't care anymore.

 

I just recently became mates with an ex recently, a chick that really tore me a new one, broke my heart i NEVER thought i would be over it, so i cut her off for like 18 months, blocked her on FB the whole lot, and I only got in contact with her a month ago. I did it because i knew i didn't care anymore and i could finally handle just being "friends". We hung out this past weekend, and it was nice, she lives in another state, but i know i still love her, but i know now that it just wasn't meant to be.

 

we broke up 2 years ago so that's how long it took me. The only reason why i got in contact with her is because to this day she was my longest relationship, so i guess i am still a little sentimental.

 

But dude you have to let her go man, and try your best to move on, it sounds like you have been doing so well! I know it's hard to forget, but you have to forgive her and yourself and let it go. My opinion would be not talking to her at all until then. Cut her off completely, and let time do it's thing.

[ryandxtreme]

winstonsdreams : I had been in complete NC for around 10 months till March..I had unfriended her from FB...Never checked her FB profile ever after that...I realise if it was meant to happen it would have happened bro...but since she contacted me in March a part of me started wanting her back...Before that I had made up my mind that even if she begged me I wouldn't have taken her back,even life was appearing a little smoother...But I guess that's how contacts with ex play with ur mind...

 

Before you contacted ur ex were u in that frame of mind (and heart) where you didn't even think about her or want her to contact you for as little as to say sorry???If so could you please tell me how you took yourself there?And how does ur ex behave with you right now??Does she still care for you ??