Started talking to a new guy, and now I think he wants his ex back?

[elisee8d]

This may be a little lengthy, so I apologize in advance, but I would really appreciate if anyone could read it all the way through and give me their advice, or just opinion on what they think about all of this...

 

I'm 19 years old, and so is the guy I'm talking to. I started talking to this guy online about a month ago.. I don't usually do that, but I had an idea of who he was via mutual friends and I figured, why the hell not. We talked nonstop for about 2 weeks, and decided we really wanted to meet each other. I just got out of a 2 year long relationship at the end of August, and he had also just gotten out of a relationship a little longer than mine in July.. my ex was the one to break it off, and in his situation, his ex had broken up with him wanting him to come running after her, which he didn't do.. she eventually told him that she wanted him back, and he had decided he didn't wanna be with her. This all happened before I even began talking to him.

 

A couple of things that weirded me out a little bit before we went out, and may have been foreshadowing.. was that the night before out date when we were discussing times and all of that, he started getting really weird and giving me short responses and I started getting the vibe that he didn't even wanna go. Then, of course, the next day he went back to talking to me normally.. I chalked it up to him being nervous. Also, when we were trying to figure out what we were gonna do together, one of the things we discussed was mini golf. I came up with a better plan so we didn't end up doing golf. The day before we actually went out on the date though, we were discussing golf again for some reason, and he said something about that being "date number two" which I thought was weird.. so I made a joke about how he should meet me first before making more plans with me before we even went on a first date.

We were discussing our exes on our date, and he said they don't speak, which is the same for my ex and I. The date went really well, at least I thought.. we got a little bit lost where we were, but had fun trying to figure things out; laughing and enjoying each others company. He paid for everything, kissed me goodnight, and told me to text him when I got home so he knew I got back okay, which I did. He ended up falling asleep before responding to the last text I had sent him after discussing me getting home, and when he answered in the morning and for our conversation throughout the rest of the day, he was acting distant and giving me much shorter replies than normal. It was like that for the next few days following the date as well, then he went back to being normal. After that, back to being distant.. then a day with no speaking, then he was normal and flirting, and now he's being distant again! It's different every day.

The other weird thing is, I mentioned hanging out again by talking about this thing going on for halloween, he said it sounded awesome and that he wanted to go, so I threw it out there that he should come with me, which he said he was totally up to and sounded excited for it.. so, I totally didn't understand why he was flipping between hot and cold so often, if he's giving me signals that he's interested, if he really isn't. Also, I don't get why he didn't mention hanging out first.. but then, I came across something his ex had written on her status on a social networking site today, saying something along the lines of "you didn't want me when you had me, and now that you don't, you want me? SUCKS!" This girl also started dating someone else after they broke up. So, I don't understand what he's doing. I don't know if he's just really confused, or keeping me around incase things don't work out, or something of that nature.

 

It hasn't been that long that I've known or been talking to him for, so I'm not devastated over it, but it does upset me a little because I was starting to like him and he seemed like such a nice change from my ex and a really good guy that I could get along well with.. but also, because of not really knowing each other so long, I feel like I can't really demand an explanation as to what he's thinking, so I'm kind of in the dark here. I'm not sure what to think or do.. After seeing that, I didn't even reply to the most recent text he had sent me, and now I'm thinking I'm just gonna wait and see if he tries to talk to me again.

 

I've been in this position before though, on the opposite end. Before my ex and I broke up for good, I had broken up with him and started seeing someone else.. we'll call him Joe. I came to the conclusion that I wanted to be back with me ex, handled it in a horrible way and didn't speak to Joe for three days, then told him that I really just needed time to think about what I wanted. He was nice about it, texted me the next day about a job interview I had wishing me luck, and even though he was just being nice and caring, I got so annoyed that he was still talking to me when all I wanted was my ex back. I didn't wanna talk to Joe, or any other guy. My main focus was making things work with my ex. So, I REALLY do not wanna be that girl.. I would hate to text this new guy and have him cringe or get annoyed when he sees my name come up on his phone. I feel like all I can do is wait, try and see if he's interested enough to keep up contact with me, and it absolutely sucks.