Biscous Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 I'm soon to be 29 and just got out of my over a year with my ex four months ago. The daunting age of 30 is approaching me, and like many things in life I feel like I have been 'late' in things. Partially to my own fault, or maybe I wasn't ready. I have always been like that in life, but once I'm on track with something I excel. It just sucks because I have been in two serious relationships, the last one was very sexual, very exciting while it happens. I haven't had the opportunity to date around as much. I have gone through personal setbacks in my own life, personal insecurities about myself, and these things are starting to haunt me again. I'm not sure why I'm in my head! Funny thing is one of my coworkers thought I was a player when he first met me. I'm at a place now where I am trying to focus on things in my career, but still want to meet the women I want. I feel as though when I reach my early 30s that I won't attract the women I want. Maybe I want a younger woman, perhaps an older. The talent pool gets thin as the age approaches and this is worrying me. Luckily I keep in shape, very active. Look good as far as I was told. Still need some words of encouragement I think. Does anyone else have this 'fear'?
Balzac Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 I think it depends on your geographical location as in large urban v other. I also think career has a modifying effect. Many guys get their first career entry level job just prior to age 30. Demand for long hours is often the norm for 5+ years. This is a challenge but many women will see you as a high value commodity, highly desirable. Some career tracks have few women in the work place, others 50%. Never lose sight of the female biological clock!! It works to advantage of the serious male shopper. I understand your anxiety about lack of experience but dating in the professional world is often easier. Surely you have greater disposable income, greater understanding about your own hierarchy of needs. I think you need to put yourself out there and see what kind of women you enjoy. Open to new experiences, meeting new people and soon enough you're a confident. Best of outcomes.
Author Biscous Posted October 2, 2012 Author Posted October 2, 2012 I think it depends on your geographical location as in large urban v other. I also think career has a modifying effect. Many guys get their first career entry level job just prior to age 30. Demand for long hours is often the norm for 5+ years. This is a challenge but many women will see you as a high value commodity, highly desirable. Some career tracks have few women in the work place, others 50%. Never lose sight of the female biological clock!! It works to advantage of the serious male shopper. I understand your anxiety about lack of experience but dating in the professional world is often easier. Surely you have greater disposable income, greater understanding about your own hierarchy of needs. I think you need to put yourself out there and see what kind of women you enjoy. Open to new experiences, meeting new people and soon enough you're a confident. Best of outcomes. Thanks for your advise. Part of me wishes I dated more when I was younger or see what is out there before I settle down. Prior to moving, where I lived at before it was a much more urban area. Here where I live, you see women in their early 20s who already have kids. I also feel the talent pool dwindles as I approach 30 with women. I used to be attracted to older women when I was younger, now I want to date down more! I can't be stagnant and complain about it. I am just having trouble finding the women I'm attracted to in the area where I live which is part of the problem.
Balzac Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 Adjusting to culture shift is difficult. Don't despair. Begin to look in cross discipline pools of opportunity. You'll figure out your preferences and find some you never thought would ring your buzzer. Gaining experience means trial and sometimes error. In the real world, who marries at 20?
Author Biscous Posted October 2, 2012 Author Posted October 2, 2012 Adjusting to culture shift is difficult. Don't despair. Begin to look in cross discipline pools of opportunity. You'll figure out your preferences and find some you never thought would ring your buzzer. Gaining experience means trial and sometimes error. In the real world, who marries at 20? True. I might just end up moving though haha
Balzac Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 At your age, go urban if opportunity exists. Lesser option is travel as much as possible. I'm a whore for urban but I'm not a manwhore. I just need an opportunity pool of high intellect combined with post grad education. It's just better for my career decisions. I could care less if she seeks to be a SAHM. It's all about the big picture.
Author Biscous Posted October 2, 2012 Author Posted October 2, 2012 At your age, go urban if opportunity exists. Lesser option is travel as much as possible. I'm a whore for urban but I'm not a manwhore. I just need an opportunity pool of high intellect combined with post grad education. It's just better for my career decisions. I could care less if she seeks to be a SAHM. It's all about the big picture. What's a SAHM? Yeah I might travel more. I love my job and what I do now. My career is important now. Work at one of the best companies, but...I just don't really like where I live. About 45 min - hr north is where most of the talent I can find is up there. Ah I'll work it out. Thanks!
FitChick Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 If you don't get married when you are younger, you can still get married and date when you are older because of the divorce rate. It's a revolving door. I get the men after they've had kids and have been house trained by women.
Author Biscous Posted October 2, 2012 Author Posted October 2, 2012 SAHM-->Stay At Home Mother Ah, word. If you don't get married when you are younger, you can still get married and date when you are older because of the divorce rate. It's a revolving door. I get the men after they've had kids and have been house trained by women. House trained? lol.
Author Biscous Posted October 26, 2012 Author Posted October 26, 2012 Well I'm 29 now. Hello New World!
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