had coffee twice, but i am still the one who initiates

[nowwhatnow]

it wasn't a date, but i went for coffee with this guy twice in the last 2 weeks and after each one he would say to text him and that we should hang out again. he also said that this time i should come to his apartment so he can give me the tour. what should i say when i text him?

also, i really like him but i know that he has a lot of friends who are girls and i am really having trouble telling if he likes me just as a friend or as possibly something more. every time i think about the situation i think something different! that is why i am really not sure if i should try and make a move. he is really shy, but if i knew he liked me it would be so much easier for me.

 

thanks LS!!

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You're kidding me rght? he's jumping ahead of himself and seeig whether you'll take the bait of sleeping with him once u go to his apartment. Any decrnt men would at least have the tact to bother takibg you. out on dates first.

[nowwhatnow]

im more confused than ever.

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What are you confused about?

 

What do you actually like about him?

 

Why hasn't he taken you on an actual date ? Do you like that ?

 

Or do you just like the attention?

 

Are you dating others? Is he just the best of a bad situation?

 

What are you looking for? Do you want to date this guy?

[nowwhatnow]

i would want to date him.

the apartment thing was in reference to me telling him my friends used to live in his apartment.

and he is really shy. but when i do ask to hang out he is always excited about it and i have had a great time getting to know him. the first time we got coffee we met up because his brother and my sister had dated and i knew him when i was younger. so after we ran into each other, i suggested we catch up. i didn't intend on really liking him, it just happened.

i want to take this relationship further, i just have trouble telling where he is at because he has a lot of platonic friendships with girls.