Almond_Joy Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 Hi everyone, Me and my bf are a few weeks shy of a yr together, and we've never disagreed or had arguments about anything major. We live separately and neither of us are in a position financially to move in together. I moved out on my own a little over a year ago and have been struggling to make ends meet ever since. To add to the stress, I got laid off about two weeks ago. My unemployment will only be a few hundred less than what my monthly income was, but it's really stressful to live with these expenses. It finally occurred to me that I could share my studio with a roommate and split the rent, which would go a long way in relieving my stress. So I put an ad on craigslist last week. So far, I've only had three candidates show interest that seemed like a good match. Two are girls and one's a guy. The first girl flaked, the second girl's supposed to come today. The guy, I have not offered to set up a meet with, because when I showed my bf the email from the guy where he described himself, he was against it before he even finished reading the email, I think. We both agreed that it would be best for me not to room with someone of the opposite sex, especially in a studio where there's no privacy, but when he said no I got pissed. Am I right to be upset? It bothers me that my bf doesn't even want to consider this guy just because he's a guy. My bf said he'd rather I move back in with my mother before sharing with a guy. I couldn't believe he said that - he knows my mother drives me crazy and that I'd be miserable. But he'd rather me live like that than room with a guy. That also bothered me a lot. I get why he's wary - I am too - but I'm willing to at least check the guy out. I told the guy I'd get back to him by the end of this week because my bf said he'd think about it. I think this will spark our first argument if he's really against it, so I'm a little nervous too. So I just came here to get perspectives from others who may have been in this situation. What do you think - should I be upset, or just concede to my boyfriend's comfort zone? Look forward to your responses and thanks for reading.
Author Almond_Joy Posted October 2, 2012 Author Posted October 2, 2012 ....60 views and no one has an opinion or experience with a similar situation? :-/. Ultimately I'll do what I think is best, but I do want to try and understand where my boyfriend's coming from. I get it logically but emotionally it just doesn't make sense. It kind of feels like he doesn't trust my judgement of people also. Is that a fair assumption to make given the actions described? I've never been in this situation and I don't want to be upset about this without what I would deem reasonable justification. I would appreciate other perspectives so I can evaluate this from a viewpoint other than my own......preferably guys I guess.
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