jordancatalano Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 I broke up with a guy I was dating over text because I thought he didn't want me anymore. He hadn't asked to see me in two weeks but yet he was still hanging out with his friends. I didn't think he liked me anymore so I told him over text that I don't think he's interested so we should end this. That was two weeks ago. Recently I spoke to him he told me that he always cared about me but it angered him that I ended through text. I want to get back with him but he just wants to be friends. He's still so anger about me breaking up with him through text. Understand his anger but he doesn't want to take any responsibility in the part he played. What should I do to get him back.
CaptJay Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 I broke up with a guy I was dating over text because I thought he didn't want me anymore. He hadn't asked to see me in two weeks but yet he was still hanging out with his friends. I didn't think he liked me anymore so I told him over text that I don't think he's interested so we should end this. That was two weeks ago. Recently I spoke to him he told me that he always cared about me but it angered him that I ended through text. I want to get back with him but he just wants to be friends. He's still so anger about me breaking up with him through text. Understand his anger but he doesn't want to take any responsibility in the part he played. What should I do to get him back. Breaking-up over text seems very impersonal and I can imagine anybody getting upset over it. Had you guys ever met in-person? cj
Author jordancatalano Posted October 1, 2012 Author Posted October 1, 2012 Yes, we have been on dates. he was a special person but I was so scared that he was going to leave that I just kind of freaked out. Didn't mean to hurt him. He feels that I abandoned him because he was having a rough time at work. I was always told that if a man really likes you he will make time to see you and he wasn't making the time. I regret now. I really do still like and miss him. He won't say it but I think he does to. I just want to know how I can get him back.
InJest Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 Was he talking to you throughout those two weeks you didn't see him? Had you only been on a couple dates with him, or were you two seeing each other for a while? Have you had sex with him? It sounds to me like your initial assessment if him not being interested is probably correct.
Author jordancatalano Posted October 1, 2012 Author Posted October 1, 2012 We had been dating for almost two months . We either talked or texted almost everyday for those two weeks. In our conversations he did seem distant. Before we broke up I even had a conversation with him about his distant behavior but he said everything is fine. I even bought up to him that I hadn't seen him in a while and still got nothing. He took my virginity right before all this happened so naturally being a woman I thought maybe he lost interest after because of the sex. When I spoke to him he said no and that he was offended that I would even think that. He did treat me very well throughout the relationship so I understand why he is hurt, but he refuses to see my side.
InJest Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 Sounds like he's guilt tripping to me. Tell him if he thinks he can forgive you, then he should let you know, but for now you're going to stop contacting him..and actually stop contacting him.
Author jordancatalano Posted October 1, 2012 Author Posted October 1, 2012 I think you might be correct. I was just giving him the benefit of the doubt because I know that he was having a rough time on this jobs. But I feel that if a man really likes you he will make time to see you especially since he was seeing his friends on the weekend. I do still like him and I guess I'm scared that I may not find anyone else who will treats me well.
InJest Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 Just do what I said to do, and you'll know without a doubt where you stand. There's no use in begging anymore.
Author jordancatalano Posted October 1, 2012 Author Posted October 1, 2012 I know it's going to take me a while to get over him.
todreaminblue Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 We had been dating for almost two months . We either talked or texted almost everyday for those two weeks. In our conversations he did seem distant. Before we broke up I even had a conversation with him about his distant behavior but he said everything is fine. I even bought up to him that I hadn't seen him in a while and still got nothing. He took my virginity right before all this happened so naturally being a woman I thought maybe he lost interest after because of the sex. When I spoke to him he said no and that he was offended that I would even think that. He did treat me very well throughout the relationship so I understand why he is hurt, but he refuses to see my side. When a guy tells you everything is fine you have to believe him you have to trust what he is saying is true, until he lets you knwo different.The reasoning behind this is one it really is fine and the second is he is not ready to discuss it just yet .......just like every human on this planet has said at one time o ranother I am fine when they are not......there are right times and wrong times to talk about things talking over text is just crap all the way around(k dot) that means ok.....my new word of the day K dot....annoying isn't it...... Never do anything major over text,next time.There will be a next time.Organize a night for you and him to have some private time to discuss this talk over a nice meal that you made especially for him make it special and give it a chance to work itself out.If you cannot come to a compromise or he doesnt feel it is worth a shot....you have done your best.Tell him how sorry you are everything you have said here.....tell him you really care about him accept responsibility for your part like you have here....swallow any pride you have and be honest........i find that when i am honest with people in this way every thing i needed to say is appreciated I hardly ever fail at repairing friendships or relationships because of my approach....i am sharing it with you.......i keep friends long term my relationships ....well...lol....all i can say it is takes two ....i cant do everything....unfortunately....but every failure is a future success......everything i have failed at becomes a learning experience for me to pass on or use another time.If you don't repair the relationship.....it wasn't for you and wasn't for him.........doesnt mean that you havent learned....i send hope your way that you work this out......best wishes....deb
Author jordancatalano Posted October 1, 2012 Author Posted October 1, 2012 We had a conversation yesterday and I did accept responsibility for my part. I apologized and I told him I want to get back together. He didn't accept responsibility for is part though. All he did was make me out to be the bad guy which I'm not. I think we both could have communicated better but he just chooses to blame me for everything like I didn't have good reason to do what I did.
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