AnotherRound Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 What are some things that you like for your SO to do for you? Or, are you like me, and don't like to be bothered at all when ill? I am home ill today with the flu (boo!) and even though it sucks to be single and have to get up and get my own toast, 7Up, and soup - I actually prefer it to having anyone around as everything irritates me when I'm ill. Any sweet little things that your SO does for you when ill? Or, that you do for them when they are ill?
Silly_Girl Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 I had a migraine yesterday. Only my fourth ever. Woke up with it and was a wreck. He went out and bought lucozade (for my hangover) a Freddo Frog, strong painkillers and some mints. Then he made me a 'face-cave' he called it, with his duvet. This meant sculpting it so I could breathe and he could see me, but no light was getting to my eyes from the closed curtains. He whispered gently, stroked me lightly and when I couldn't take the waves of pain he massaged my head vigorously as instructed. When I started to feel better he went and fetched me hot, salty McD's fries and settled me on the sofa whilst he did the food shopping. When he had food poisoning overnight recently I slept through it!!
Author AnotherRound Posted October 1, 2012 Author Posted October 1, 2012 I had a migraine yesterday. Only my fourth ever. Woke up with it and was a wreck. He went out and bought lucozade (for my hangover) a Freddo Frog, strong painkillers and some mints. Then he made me a 'face-cave' he called it, with his duvet. This meant sculpting it so I could breathe and he could see me, but no light was getting to my eyes from the closed curtains. He whispered gently, stroked me lightly and when I couldn't take the waves of pain he massaged my head vigorously as instructed. When I started to feel better he went and fetched me hot, salty McD's fries and settled me on the sofa whilst he did the food shopping. When he had food poisoning overnight recently I slept through it!! Ugh at migraines... I get them occasionally, and they are horrid! Just a tip - caffeine as soon as you feel one coming on! I do tea usually, and some ibuprofen - and so far, I've never had the pain that they come with - just the other stuff. The first one I ever had I was with my bff who has been having them since she was 11 - and she recognized immediately what I was having and loaded me up with caffeine and ibuprofen. She sure is handy! I'm glad he was there to help you feel better. I totally make "face caves" all the time, just didn't know what to call them! lol As far as food poisoning, I wouldn't want someone around me while I suffered from that! lol 1
Silly_Girl Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 Thanks for the tip! Didn't know that. I generally like to be left to be ill alone, with infrequent checks, but I think he was genuinely worried as he'd never seen me like that. And you're right about food poisoning. Not one for sharing 1
Author AnotherRound Posted October 1, 2012 Author Posted October 1, 2012 Thanks for the tip! Didn't know that. I generally like to be left to be ill alone, with infrequent checks, but I think he was genuinely worried as he'd never seen me like that. And you're right about food poisoning. Not one for sharing No problem! I wouldn't have known it either if it wasn't for my best friend suffering from migraines for 30+ years, poor girl! Now, as soon as I see the auras (I get the squiggly zig zaggy lines), I get tea (as soon as I can see again, lol) and ibuprofen, darken the room, and usually turn all sound off... and so far, no pain at all! Knock on wood!!! Something about the constricting of the arteries or something and how caffeine affects it. There's a scientific reason it works, but I don't question it, I just do it! lol And yes, they are scary, esp the first one! I honestly thought I was going blind for a few minutes bc I truly lost my vision! It was scary! Still really thankful I was with my best friend when it happened... phew!
todreaminblue Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 (edited) What are some things that you like for your SO to do for you? Or, are you like me, and don't like to be bothered at all when ill? I am home ill today with the flu (boo!) and even though it sucks to be single and have to get up and get my own toast, 7Up, and soup - I actually prefer it to having anyone around as everything irritates me when I'm ill. Any sweet little things that your SO does for you when ill? Or, that you do for them when they are ill? I have mainly looked after myself when i have been sick my family rallies.....i am always theere for them when they are sick so they help me out however they can.......my ex used to get pissed at me when i was bed ridden with the flu and it would have to be pretty bad to keep me down.He woudltn say he was pissed he woudl give me the look of death and i would ask him why he was pissed and he most of the time wouldnt answer me so yes he was pissed.i would apologise and he would do one line answers......luckily i am a bit of a trojan and i dont stay sick for long....depression can knock me down though ......anyway...lol...he is an ex for a reason......here is something nice now to counter act that little rant..... The nicest thing done for me was not by an So when i was sick a couple of months ago.I was pretty down and actually it was pretty serious.There were two times lol someone from my church i go to left jelly snakes in a tin on my window sill and then again with these gorgeous chocky brownies.....i didn't even think that they were from anyone else but from my church because it is the first time someone has done something like that for me.....at first i thought someone might be trying to poison me because i love snakes and i love brownies....but then my heart told ,me that it was done out of kindness......and i hoped it was from a particular man....i guess i wont know....smiling though as I write this......obviously they weren't poisoned i am still here so .....that meant a ot to me thee fact they didn't ask for thanks it was an off the cuff show of affection and friendship...ill never forget it......it i slike what i love to do .....just leave something for someone not expect anything back just the joy of giving....so special....still smiling....lol....people should be more like the friends i have met there....an awesome bunch....i will somehow find out who it was and i will show my appreciation...i have to ...i am a curious cat.......and it meant that much to me.........i want to make the person who gave me that something special.....im a gourmet cook so i would love to do something along those lines...i love to cook for people when they are sick or need some tlc.....i am good at it so its what i do....i cant stop smiling now.....thanke for this thread what a way to start the day......deb Edited October 1, 2012 by todreaminblue 3
Author AnotherRound Posted October 1, 2012 Author Posted October 1, 2012 I have mainly looked after myself when i have been sick my family rallies.....i am always theere for them when they are sick so they help me out however they can.......my ex used to get pissed at me when i was bed ridden with the flu and it would have to be pretty bad to keep me down.He woudltn say he was pissed he woudl give me the look of death and i would ask him why he was pissed and he most of the time wouldnt answer me so yes he was pissed.i would apologise and he would do one line answers......luckily i am a bit of a trojan and i dont stay sick for long....depression can knock me down though ......anyway...lol...he is an ex for a reason......here is something nice now to counter act that little rant..... The nicest thing done for me was not by an So when i was sick a couple of months ago.I was pretty down and actually it was pretty serious.There were two times lol someone from my church i go to left jelly snakes in a tin on my window sill and then again with these gorgeous chocky brownies.....i didn't even think that they were from anyone else but from my church because it is the first time someone has done something like that for me.....at first i thought someone might be trying to poison me because i love snakes and i love brownies....but then my heart told ,me that it was done out of kindness......and i hoped it was from a particular man....i guess i wont know....smiling though as I write this......obviously they weren't poisoned i am still here so .....that meant a ot to me thee fact they didn't ask for thanks it was an off the cuff show of affection and friendship...ill never forget it......it i slike what i love to do .....just leave something for someone not expect anything back just the joy of giving....so special....still smiling....lol....people should be more like the friends i have met there....an awesome bunch....i will somehow find out who it was and i will show my appreciation...i have to ...i am a curious cat.......and it meant that much to me.........i want to make the person who gave me that something special.....im a gourmet cook so i would love to do something along those lines...i love to cook for people when they are sick or need some tlc.....i am good at it so its what i do....i cant stop smiling now.....thanke for this thread what a way to start the day......deb Aw, that IS sweet! I smiled reading your story too. As for the ex - ugh, I've known people like that. I love taking care of someone I love when they are ill, but don't like it in return... but, I wish someone would leave me treats today! That really would make my day!
todreaminblue Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 Aw, that IS sweet! I smiled reading your story too. As for the ex - ugh, I've known people like that. I love taking care of someone I love when they are ill, but don't like it in return... but, I wish someone would leave me treats today! That really would make my day! It did make my year actually ...smilin..... you should let them take care of you you deserve that tlc too.....makes you feel special and you deserve it like the people you love deserve your tlc....i find it hard sometimes to let others take care of me i am used to being independant....but i smile when they do......being treated is a luxury and it is something i appreciate as i know most who i treat appreciate it too......here's my treat for you a huge smile your way and hugs from me to you.....smilin...thanks for your reply..........deb 1
seren Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 Another Round, if you have loss of vision with migraine it could mean you are having Occular Migraine which is different from 'ordinary' migraine. I get these regularly, worse now I am going through the menopause. They are quite frightening. I have Lupus and a raft of autoimmune diseases, this means I am in constant pain, not moaning, it is what it is. H is bloody marvelous, he takes up the slack, knows not to wrap me up in cotton wool, that would drive me mad. He knows when I am at the end of my limit and then quietly takes over without making me feel 'sick'. I am a stubborn bugger and push myself to do stuff, he asks if I need help, then waits until I ask or he sees I am just being bloody minded. The practical stuff when I am forced to bed, is lots of tea, chucky eggs, a soft boiled egg mush my Mum made when I was young and ill and back rubs, hot baths with smellies and massages. One time I couldn't walk and he put my feet on his, my arms around his neck and waltzed me to the bathroom, it helped to make me laugh and stopped me feeling dependant. TBH, I couldn't do it without him. When he is ill I make chicken soup, his favourite food, massages and whatever he needs. It is a balance. I used to feel so guilty I was ill, but he has helped me to see that it really doesn't matter to our relationship. I have been medically retired and lost 70k a year and a job I loved. H left the military to be home more to care for me, he has just got on with it and takes great pains to try to make me accept I cannot do what I want to. I couldn't ask for more from him. I am a crap ill person as I am so used to doing everything and anything I wanted, he understands my frustrations. Thank God. 1
cocorico Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 Ugh at migraines... I get them occasionally, and they are horrid! Just a tip - caffeine as soon as you feel one coming on! I do tea usually, and some ibuprofen - and so far, I've never had the pain that they come with - just the other stuff. ) Just a warning - that works for some people, and for other people makes things much much worse!!! I tried that once on a doctor's advice and ended up in A&E on morphine.... Which was pleasant, but I don't recommend that route to getting it! My migraines respond only to triptans, which I found through drug trials, and so I keep those on or around me at all times. I've just been sick and I've always been a just-get-on-with-it person as far as possible, but my partner is the nurturing type so he spoils me rotten when I'm sick. Massages for my aching muscles, bringing me cups of honey & lemon, keeping me warm against the chills, holding me when I was dizzy, reading to me, etc. And I do the same kind of things for him. 1
Minka333 Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 Reading this thread made me crave for a hot chocolate. I can feel the warmth of caring. I hope you will all feel better soon. I wanna share something too. My bf woke up today with a very bad backache. But he still drove for an hour just to see me at my apartment. I would've understood if he cancelled. But there he was walking towards me..barely moving with wobbly legs plus lunch in tow. He absolutely made my heart melt...!!! So i gave him aspirin. Massaged his back. Made it crack. Gosh i don't even know how to do it right. I massaged him til' it hurt my hands. I showered him with kisses. Cuddled and hugged. I just wanted him to feel better. Never mind if i suck in massaging..he still appreciated it.* Aah..moments like this always makes me smile. Be well everyone! 1
Got it Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 For me it depends on what the sickness is, if I have the flu or anything tied to bathroom needs, then I want to live in a cave, ALONE, and come out when I am better. I do not want anyone hovering. I have a cold right now so I have appreciated that he has helped with some of my daily "to do" list, letting me be settled into bed, and doing my own thing, occasionally checking on me. When I had oral surgery he helped run around getting foods and meds I needed and got me the best Baskin Robbins coconut pineapple ice cream. My mom took over after him and made some great mash potatoes that I lived on for a long time. I appreciated the joint effort. But usually I can take care of myself, just help shoulder my other tasks so I can work on recuperating and I will always be most appreciative. 1
MissBee Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 I hate being alone but most of all when I'm sick. I love that H takes care of meals, brings me lemon and honey tea, nags me to take medication and keeps tabs on whether I need to go to the doctor. He also takes care of the kids. I love him cuddling up to me at night when I'm sick. I always relax and sleep better. I find it bizarre when people prefer to be alone. I'm fine to be alone sometimes but I can't understand going looking for it. I think it's healthy to want to be alone sometimes. I'm a very affectionate person. Quality time and physical touch are my top 2 love languages (I took an assessment where they ranked where the 5 love languages fall for you). Yet, while I love being around friends, family and esp. a romantic partner, being alone is also important for me. I NEED that time to recharge. I give a lot and I'm also very empathetic, so it actually can drain me when I'm around people ALL the time, as I pick up energies, moods, etc. easily. In a relationship, I love closeness but have to have designated times when I just have the house to myself for an evening, or go out alone, or just have some ME time. When I'm sick, I like to be doted on a little, depending on what it is, as Got It said. But for the most part, like if I have cramps or the flu, I'd like to just rest quietly and have my SO check in every so often to make me know he's around and for him to also give me meds and food. Knowing you are there if I should need you is very comforting to me, without me requiring to ALWAYS be in your presence. 1
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