pao000 Posted July 26, 2004 Posted July 26, 2004 "I really feel that you should tell him what you feel when he does or says those things. See the way he reacts and you can come to a conclusion on whether HE is worth being seen with!!!!!!!!" Well, I took your advice and everyone else's... at first I let it ride out hopeing he would just get over it. He called me after he hangout with his family and said "let's rent a movie and spend some time toghether before the week starts" of course I agreed and rented the movie and headed to his place when I got there he wouldn't really look straight at me (the whole red hair issue) so I asked him if he was going to keep this up? and if he was to please make me understand whats behind his childishness... he refused to talk so I simply said I was not going to be treated like I had killed someone or as if he was ashamed of me. And that if he couldnt see past my haircolor and acknowledge that I was still the nice girlfriend he's always had then I was not going to waste my time with him. I grabbed my car keys and drove home! I was hurt but releived that I had said what I wanted to say. (I also trew in other nasty things I said because I was mad; I called him immature childish cheap and selfish... ) He's been calling me ever since... but I still haven't answered the phone. I'm afraid that instead of saying that he's sorry and that I was right and can we move on, he'll say well give me my stuff back and lets stay away from eachother. I love him so I can't help but feel sad now. I guess I'm gonna give it a few days before I talk to him and see where it's gonna go from there. Thanx for your post. Paola
Fayebelle Posted August 1, 2004 Posted August 1, 2004 not listening to his side puts you on his immatutity level. You two NEED to learn better communication or your relationship will be doomed- if not on this issue than some other down the road. Avoiding his calls may make him move from "I'm sorry" to "come get your crap". Don't guess at what he'll think or say- Listen to him. Give him the respect and understand you expect or you will never receive it yourself.
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