LostOne1 Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 I might be in denial about why the break up happened, I guess I find it tough to believe she didn't want me and that we only broke up because she doesn't want anyone right now. But in the end, that doesn't matter. I'm not in denial about it being over though. I know it's over, i'm moving on. It's just every once in a while in the process of moving on I get caught up thinking maybe I should text her, maybe this or that. But overall I do completely know it's over. Removing her from facebook really helped though. I know how you feel. It's tough for me too.. it's almost like I NEED her to say it again to veridy. Even though her silence of not contacting me after a month and not responding to my email. That it would state she's not interested and wants to move on. I just feel if I send a text, it will push her to say harsh things like "leave me alone we are done" etc...
ponette Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 hi guys- i want to contact my ex. this will be the first time i've reached out and i know i should've done so earlier, but couldn't. i'm afraid now that he'll ignore or reject me. i don't know what he'll do. really frightened. i plan to leave a card in our po box- a very short note- letting him know that i'm working on myself and that i hope he is well- thanks for understanding, or something to that effect. something without pressure. i really love this man and my problems have made things difficult. i don't understand why the lack of even an 'it's over' email, just ending without a word, as i have done nothing so awful to deserve that. i think he's just gotten sick of my b.s. i'm sick of it too.and i'm just so tired. and lost. i keep trying to get well. i can do it.
flitzanu Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 Big difference. Some it would be like a layoff because they didn't need so many people, it's not a issue with you, it's just you aren't needed at this point in time. Every case is different. I think if you want to try things again whether you are the dumper or dumpee you need to reach out. Not a million times, but once. If you have done that with no response, then that's all you can do. so you got laid off from your relationship??? getting "laid off" from a relationship means your ex left so they could be "laid on". laid off or fired, means your partner broke your relationship agreement and chose to leave.
flitzanu Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 I know how you feel. It's tough for me too.. it's almost like I NEED her to say it again to veridy. Even though her silence of not contacting me after a month and not responding to my email. That it would state she's not interested and wants to move on. I just feel if I send a text, it will push her to say harsh things like "leave me alone we are done" etc... how many times do you need her to say it? and why does it not seem to matter if she replies with texts saying "leave me alone" as you noted? that's the same thing you're asking, is to "hear it from her".
Mike_d Posted October 2, 2012 Posted October 2, 2012 The denial is strong in this one. The forecast calls for pain. 1
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