River Rain Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 Three weeks ago, I broke up with him because he gave me the silent treatment for days, still for reasons unknown to me. I took him back three days later, only to have him do it again, this time the silent treatment lasted a week. He sent a sad email saying he missed me. I fell for it AGAIN and took him back a second time. Another week went by with one email and one text. (we used to talk for hours on the phone daily - long distance relationship). I needed him badly during that week because my 17-year old dog was on death's door and I really needed my boyfriend for support and comfort. But he never once asked me how my dog was doing...I waited...waited...gave him some space, then he dumped me. Second chances or in my case third chances don't work. My opinion of course, based on this experience and my very first relationship years ago where I forgave the guy for cheating and I took him back. Of course that deteriorated quickly into him dumping me. Gosh, I'm a doormat, I need to change that...tangent. Anyway, once it's over initially, it's over. During the silent phases, I actually felt as though I was being punished for something. That's not a healthy relationship, and it's certainly not love. I think a zero tolerance policy is in order from now on. I feel I've hardened up a little after this experience. Little mess ups, misunderstandings and squabbles are normal, we're all human. But ignoring a person you say you love, is cause for no second or third chances. I need to come up with my own personal list of deal-breakers so this doesn't happen again. Thanks for letting me soap box.
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