hideph Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 I have been dating a girl for about four months now. Things were great we spent a fair ammount of time together doing lots of fun things. Well now shes back in grad school and between that her longtime friends and work we do not see alot of each other. No talk of breaking up but she has said that she will be pretty busy "welcome to my life" kind of talk. I do not want to pressure or pester her but how do I keep the lines of communication going between us seeing each other without seeming desperate or needy? how often is not too often to text call email etc??
phineas Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 For me. "busy" = i'm just not that into you anymore. If I try to make plans & they are too "busy" & don't try to set any kind of date at all, I just get "busy" myself, prepare to move on & let them contact me. Sometimes they do, sometimes they don't. If she can find time for her friends at school, she can find time for you.
Minka333 Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 I personally believe no person is too busy when it comes to the one they love. If they really care they will always find a way. I hope your gf will balance her busy life with you and work around it. She has to do her part. Your situation is actually a good barometer/gauge on how much she values your relationship. You don't have to call or email her every hour. A few check ins would be ok. As long as the communication is alive and there's honesty on both sides, then i think your relationship will survive.
yongyong Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 Where does she study? coffee shop? can't she meet you there even for 30 minutes? does she take a break to eat or drink something? can't she meet you while doing those? hit on other chicks and hang out with them. simple as that.
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