2 months broken up, 1 month NC, and now we're hanging out this weekend.

[BornToDie]

If you haven't read my backstory before:

We dated 2 and a half years. Year and a half in, he cheated on me, we took a break, he came back, we worked it out. Things were okay for a bit, and then a week before I broke up with him, I cheated on him.

I tried texting him a month ago, and he told me that he didn't love me during our relationship, couldn't make himself, and always had urges to be with other girls. He said he wasn't going to "waste his sleep" on me, so I got mad and confessed I'd cheated. Ugly conversation.

 

This weekend, he liked my picture on FB, so I texted him. We had a short but flirty conversation.

Tonight, he liked another one of my pictures and started messaging me. He was definitely flirting and said he liked my "new look." Asked how I was and what I was doing, and I did the same. Eventually, I asked why he was talking to me, and he told me it's because he's currently working an hour away from college and isn't around much of anyone at all, "so there are many reasons that would drive me to talk to you."

He asked why I was talking to him, and I said I was interesting in seeing where it'd go. A month ago, we hated each other, and now it's normal. I did you wrong, you did me wrong, but bottom line, I don't like how it ended.

He responded with: "I've been honest with you and my feelings or so I thought. When you tried texting me again, I didn't want to be with you again at all and didn't want to make you think I did. So I was a jerk and told you a bunch of things, some that were exaggerated. Point is, I didn't want you to think I was interested whatsoever. I just can't believe you slept with someone."

After explaining the cheating thing, he told me he was "willing to overlook it as screwed up as it was."

I told him, "to put it all out there, you were my best friend for a long time, and there's a part of me that'll always care for you. So I at least want to hang out, catch up, whatever."

He said, "I'd like that, too. :)" I told him good night, and I enjoyed talking to you, and he said, "As did I. Good night, I'll text you later."

 

So now, we're seeing each other Saturday. I feel mixed signals. He's liking my pictures, flirting with me, wants to see me... but then said "I thought I was honest about my feelings," etc. I feel like if he had no feelings for me, he wouldn't want to see me and be excited to talk to me.

What should I expect? What does it mean?

[Simon Phoenix]

Don't be surprised if he's cold, at least right away. There's a difference between talking and sharing the same space, so to speak. My ex and I were talking back and forth for about a week before seeing each other for the first time after our break (about six weeks following) and it seemed to be going well. She even offered me free tickets to a sporting event (she does season-ticket sales for a professional sports franchise) that I couldn't accept because I had to work. But when we actually met, it was cold/distant/she acted annoyed with me, etc. Sometimes she'd break cover and laugh or smile at me, but it wasn't very fun. Not saying that will happen to you, but be prepared for it just in case.

[Regrets58]

Hi,yes they can still have some feelings for you.Still like you and enjoy

your company.

Doesn't mean they want to be back with you.

Had a lot of very natural and fun times with ex after bu.

She talked about us getting back together,nothing came of it.

Don't be drawn into prolonged hanging out,if it becomes obvious that

he only wants friendship.

[BornToDie]

Thanks. I just really feel like if he wasn't interested, he wouldn't be flirting, liking my pictures, etc. He didn't even do that when we dated. And he definitely wouldn't want to see me. And for him to say he'd "overlook" the cheating thing... why would it matter if we aren't involved anymore?

 

Maybe I'm overanalyzing this. Deep down, I'm not sure what I want, either, so we'll see what happens this weekend.