Desperado999 Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 What happened was early September we broke up. It was rough but even after the break up, we still were like a couple. We even had sex a few times. But now we're strictly friends as she doesn't want anymore realitionships peroid. It's a diffcult situation but we also have a kid, about 8 months old now. We are young, she's 17 and I'm 18. She and the baby come down every other week but the other weeks she's at home. Since the break up, it seems she has slowly moved on. She has been flirtting with guys, and texting 2 guys nonstop. She had sex with one guy, but said it only lasted for less then a minute because she felt to bad. She has said she still loves me, but she needs space. I was being quite an ass towards her since we found out she was pregnant. She tolerated me till recently but said I had to change, and told me. She says at times she misses us, and at times wants us back together and it has broken her heart. She keeps herself occuppied though with school, the kid, and texting her friends. She told me maybe it's best we date other people and get time apart. She has said that maybe we'll get back together, but not sure. Right now she wants NO realitionships with anyone. I did screw up a lot during this break up time though. I've been clingy, crying in front of her, and pushing the envelope with a realitionship again. I've only recently cooled down on everything but the clingy thing a little. I try to give her space, I even try to go NC for the weeks she's away but it's hard. She's admitted she misses me, but she flirts with other guys and does that "Smash and Pass" rating thing on Facebook. Occasionaly, i mean rarely with that, she'll message me good morning. Like only twice. I'm confussed on the situation. She wants to be just friends, maybe work things back up (If I show change, and I have, but maintain it and be the guy she fell in love with), and live like a "teen". I miss her dearly and regret how I was. One night she told me, the one thing that keeps her from coming back is all the fights. I have apologized and try hard not to bring up the past. I feel we can work through this, but her actions have seemed she wants to move on. I don't think she has. But I'm confussed on all this. She said she has "feelings" for two other guys she's talking too, but is not sure whether they'll last a week, a month, or a year. She might meet the one guy soon. Any advice? I hate to ask but this is so rough on me. I try to occupy my time, and keep busy, but I can't sometimes. I know she still loves me, she's even kissed me a few times and iniated a few hugs, and she does them passionately, not a friend hug. The last week I've been extremely well with the friends thing. I toke her to a fair, had some fun, and we both have laughed and had fun. Is there any chance she might come back? Or am I wasting my time? She never talked to guys while we were together, but now she's talking to a lot of them and flirtting away. Any advice for a desperate man? It makes this harder since we had a kid and so many great memories. My dad said that women tend to memorize the bad before the good, but that doesn't help. Is time and space all that is needed to heal? Or Is she already moved on?
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