meeji Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 How did you guys feel before and after you met your SO for the first time? I have been seeing a guy for about 4 months officially now. We talk everyday on Skype for about 4 hours and and we usually send emails and texts throughout the day. On the communication front, everything is good but i recently discovered that the distance is starting to get to me. There are lot of things I want to do together with him and it feels kinda lonely knowing that all we can do it talk. The awesome news is that i will be meeting him for the first time in about 20 days and I'm really excited about it. He's a great guy and I know that we are going to have a blast together. I'm wondering if after meeting him, if I that will be the "boost," that I need to keep me going for the next 4 months until he comes to my country or if I will feel even worse, having just a little taste of what I'm missing out on. What was it like for you? I'm curious.
Author meeji Posted October 1, 2012 Author Posted October 1, 2012 hmm.100 views and no comments. Is this a ridiculous question or something ¿ assuming that most of you guys have actually met you so in real life, I would think that many of you could relate to this
heather_1 Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 Long distance relationships can be tough. You need to weigh up in your mind whether or not you are happy with just being able to talk to the guy. If he lives in another country I can see that its going to be tough as it isnt like you can hop on a train for and be with him in a few hours. When you meet him have an open mind and decide what you want. It might be tough to break up with him if you really like him but is it worth sitting around for months on end without him where you find a great boyfriend who lives closer? That is the question you need to ask yourself. Only you can decide. I hope this helps
HeavenOrHell Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 We met after about 4 months of daily communication by phone and skype. We were pretty sure we'd hit it off as well IRL, but tried not to put too much hopes or expectation onto it just in case, cos until you meet you don't know for sure how it things will feel, how the chemistry will be, etc. We had a lot of sexual attraction before we met as well, which more than matched up to our expectations when we met When we met we were nervous at first (both shy types), but soon felt relaxed, and hugging him felt so lovely and natural, he said it felt like a dream when we lay in each other's arms It's good you'll be meeting him soon, I'd say to anyone who has become close that if possible meet up asap, so you can know for sure how things are and how you feel and you can start to properly bond as a couple, hard to do that unless you've met and spent time together. We both felt happier for having met up face to face, it takes thing to another level and brings more closeness. If you get on as well you do now then it will give you a boost after you've met him, but obviously you'll also miss him and want to be with him again after spending time with him. We only had about 6 weeks between our first and second visit, so not too long. I would have found any longer than that difficult, but it would have been worth the wait for sure. Good luck and have fun! How did you guys feel before and after you met your SO for the first time? I have been seeing a guy for about 4 months officially now. We talk everyday on Skype for about 4 hours and and we usually send emails and texts throughout the day. On the communication front, everything is good but i recently discovered that the distance is starting to get to me. There are lot of things I want to do together with him and it feels kinda lonely knowing that all we can do it talk. The awesome news is that i will be meeting him for the first time in about 20 days and I'm really excited about it. He's a great guy and I know that we are going to have a blast together. I'm wondering if after meeting him, if I that will be the "boost," that I need to keep me going for the next 4 months until he comes to my country or if I will feel even worse, having just a little taste of what I'm missing out on. What was it like for you? I'm curious.
january2011 Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 (edited) We met after about five months of messaging, phone and Skype. It was nerve-wracking. Since I was the one flying over there, part of me was very afraid that the past few months had been a lie. That he was really a mad axe murderer or that the connection and chemistry would not translate in person. He was cool and relaxed at our first meeting. I was very nervous, but then I started to relax and things were fine. Everything translated and we fell even more in love with each other. Leaving was tough. And I was sad for a few days, couldn't stop sobbing on the first day. But then I got back into the swing of things and it was fine. Since then, when we start missing each other really badly and disagreements creep in, we know we need to make plans to meet again. We start looking at dates. And once the flights have been booked, we both feel more reassured. Every visit does get harder. We both know that we can't keep doing this. However, until we tie up loose ends at our respective locations, we can't make any plans to be together on a more permanent basis. Every part of me aches to be with him. The flip side is that being in an LDR is also great for those of us who are fighting the urge to fall into co-dependence. I can do my own thing, but I know that when I come home, he's there for me. Edited October 1, 2012 by january2011 1
Author meeji Posted October 4, 2012 Author Posted October 4, 2012 Long distance relationships can be tough. You need to weigh up in your mind whether or not you are happy with just being able to talk to the guy. If he lives in another country I can see that its going to be tough as it isnt like you can hop on a train for and be with him in a few hours. When you meet him have an open mind and decide what you want. It might be tough to break up with him if you really like him but is it worth sitting around for months on end without him where you find a great boyfriend who lives closer? That is the question you need to ask yourself. Only you can decide. I hope this helps Thanks for your reply. You are exactly right. Sometimes I just wonder if we are going to able to make it but I think that is natural. The good news is that he had intentions of relocating here eventually so that makes it better. I will think of all these things that you suggested. Thanks
Author meeji Posted October 4, 2012 Author Posted October 4, 2012 We met after about 4 months of daily communication by phone and skype. We were pretty sure we'd hit it off as well IRL, but tried not to put too much hopes or expectation onto it just in case, cos until you meet you don't know for sure how it things will feel, how the chemistry will be, etc. We had a lot of sexual attraction before we met as well, which more than matched up to our expectations when we met When we met we were nervous at first (both shy types), but soon felt relaxed, and hugging him felt so lovely and natural, he said it felt like a dream when we lay in each other's arms It's good you'll be meeting him soon, I'd say to anyone who has become close that if possible meet up asap, so you can know for sure how things are and how you feel and you can start to properly bond as a couple, hard to do that unless you've met and spent time together. We both felt happier for having met up face to face, it takes thing to another level and brings more closeness. If you get on as well you do now then it will give you a boost after you've met him, but obviously you'll also miss him and want to be with him again after spending time with him. We only had about 6 weeks between our first and second visit, so not too long. I would have found any longer than that difficult, but it would have been worth the wait for sure. Good luck and have fun! What a cute story. I was the one that pushed to meet sooner rather than later and he agreed because he could see that waiting almost a year to meet someone for the first time was bothering me. For the same reason you mentioned, I insisted and so 17 days left! We are both exited. I hope that our chemistry is good on all fronts. To be honest, I'm not worried about that at all. Is mainly the distance that concerns me. Stretching my heart strings back and forth like a rubber band doesn't sound very pleasant. I'm definitely going to wait until after I come home to decide if it's worth it to continue. Thank you for sharing your story.
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