yongyong Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 Every time I talk to guys about hitting on women on public (mall, coffee shop, parks etc) They think it's lame like high school kids or it's for creepy weirdo. If a guy has a big social circle and gets girls constantly from it, I say he doesn't have to do it. I am talking about guys who go out every week hoping to get a chick. Maybe they can't just admit they don't have balls to do that? We all wish we would meet our soulmate in a special situation that forces them to talk to each other (car wreck with a guy/girl, finding a wallet of guy/girl on street, sitting next to guy/girl in a long flight etc) Obviously, guys can't expect a girl to open her mouth first. If a guy doesn't talk first, how many opportunities is he blowing?
Necris Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 There is nothing wrong with hitting on women in public, its difficult but I try to do it whenever I got the chance to. If I relied purely on my social circle I'll never get anywhere seeing as how my inner circle is composed of mainly nerdy dudes and not very women, and the few women that are a part of it all have boyfriends or just totally uninterested in me. But then again hitting on women in public never goes anywhere for me at least.
MrCastle Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 There's nothing wrong with approaching women. It's just not statistically viable. Too many factors going against you and even if you do manage to land a phone number, it's not promised that the girl will text you/call you back or set up a date. Aside from that, there is the obvious point that you're approaching her based purely off her looks, and have no idea what her personality is like. At least via social circles, you get a sense of who a woman is before you decide to ask her out. Every man I've met that is significantly successful with females has never cold approached one, myself included.
O'farrell Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 Because game is entirely situational and public is often a bad situation. But I am in SF, it is socially acceptable LOL.
Author yongyong Posted October 1, 2012 Author Posted October 1, 2012 I really think it depends on the personality you were born with. eg:) This girl and I were handing out some sample treats at parks. I was shy to approach people but still pushed myself to approach some. This girl just approached people like meeting friends. It really bothered me when they just ignored me and treated me like a bum asking for money. I asked her if it doesn't bother her. She made it look like it was nothing to her. Since we had a totally different mindset, I couldn't really understand why it didn't affect her. For some people, humiliation (getting rejected in front of other people) is like a death sentence. For some people, it's something they can just brush it off.
O'farrell Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 For some people, humiliation (getting rejected in front of other people) is like a death sentence. For some people, it's something they can just brush it off. I think its fun. When I was 18 I used to stand outside of my apartment drunk and bored panhandling lol. "18 and homeless spare change! x3" clubber: you don't look homeless "Why thanks you!" *gives money for comedic response Lol. True story. But like vi stated before, you almost never see the same person twice in downtown SF.
Minka333 Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 Yeah i don't think there's anything wrong too. If nobody approaches nobody then there wouldn't be any possible love story waiting to happen. Who knows in one of those chance encounters you will find that awesome person. In a sea of rejection there is always an exception. So screw what everybody thinks. If it feels right go for it!
jcrew11 Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 There's nothing wrong with short, friendly conversations. But don't be too loud or obnoxious or linger if there's no reciprocation. If she's not busy, then say a quick "hello, how is your day going?" but don't harass her.
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