somedude81 Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 What happens when you get a girl home and take your shoes off? To me it's the same as women who stuff their bras. I don't mind small boobs, but I do mind complexes where someone has to pretend to be something they're not. Do you feel more confident with the lifts? Hopefully by the time I mange to get her to my place, she wouldn't care or even notice that I'm ~ two inches shorter. If she does, then she's really shallow.
SmileFace Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 If she does, then she's really shallow. She's the shallow one? Not the person who goes out of their way to be what they’re not? 2
Author O'farrell Posted October 1, 2012 Author Posted October 1, 2012 She's the shallow one? Not the person who goes out of their way to be what they’re not? The only reason he has to dip down to that level is because of women's initial shallowness. 1
somedude81 Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 She's the shallow one? Not the person who goes out of their way to be what they’re not? So you have never worn makeup, or did something to your hair to make it look nice or ever did anything to try and hide any flaws and or make yourself look better ?
SmileFace Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 So you have never worn makeup, or did something to your hair to make it look nice or ever did anything to try and hide anyd flaws and or make yourself look better ? I never said I wasn't shallow so I really don't see what I do has to do with anything. If a guy left me because I some how lied about my apperance - he isn't shallow. That is my point.
somedude81 Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 I never said I wasn't shallow so I really don't see what I do has to do with anything. If a guy left me because I some how lied about my apperance - he isn't shallow. That is my point. You're not making any sense. You just said a guy is shallow if he goes out of his way to be something he's not. Never mind the fact that wearing lifts in shows is hardly going out of ones way. It's fine if you admit to being shallow but it hasn't nothing to do with what one does to improve their appearance. And yes, I do believe that if a girl noticed and chooses to leave because I am two inches shorter in bare feet, then that is being very shallow.
SmileFace Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 You're not making any sense. You just said a guy is shallow if he goes out of his way to be something he's not. Never mind the fact that wearing lifts in shows is hardly going out of ones way. It's fine if you admit to being shallow but it hasn't nothing to do with what one does to improve their appearance. And yes, I do believe that if a girl noticed and chooses to leave because I am two inches shorter in bare feet, then that is being very shallow. If you wrote a girl one a dating site.. Seen her pictures and she seemed to be in decent shape..and then you met her and she was fat. Then you decided not to continue seeing her.. who is the shallow one? The one who didn't think putting a picture that showed how she actually looked or you since you decided not to date her since is not your desired body size? I really don't see how I am not making sense. She will be the shallow one in that situation. Wearing lifts is as much as going out of your way as push up bras and make up. Being shallow is basing an opinion on someone based on appearance -- so it is the same if you are falsifying your own appearance. You are saying that people are only going to judge you on your own appearance and you need to improve on that - which is being shallow. I am not saying people shouldn't work and improve their appearance and try some tricks to look better but we are all mostly shallow.. thank goodness actually - since then the world will look like walmart..lol
somedude81 Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 Wearing lifts is as much as going out of your way as push up bras and make up. Exactly. Those things are very minor. Any dude who see's a girl without makeup, after seeing her before with it on and then rejects her because she's not as attractive, is pretty shallow. If you wrote a girl one a dating site.. Seen her pictures and she seemed to be in decent shape..and then you met her and she was fat. Then you decided not to continue seeing her.. who is the shallow one?You do understand the difference between wearing make up and trying to pass off pictures that look nothing like you do now, right? It would basically be the same thing as a guy having pictures on his profile that are 20 years old. Being shallow is basing an opinion on someone based on appearance -- so it is the same if you are falsifying your own appearance. You are saying that people are only going to judge you on your own appearance and you need to improve on that - which is being shallow. I completely disagree. I do not believe there is anything shallow about falsifying ones appearance. There is some deception involved, but it is not shallow. That's basically saying that every girl who wears makeup is shallow. I'm pretty sure many people would disagree with you. People who judge other only on appearance are shallow. Believing that others judge only on appearance does not make me shallow.
ThaWholigan Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 Tell that to my brother who is always dating hot girls . At 5 foot 6. I recently did show him all the stuff on the net about short guys, I showed him this site, the expose heightism twitter, youtube, everything about short guys. You know what he did? Laughed his ass off - and went out to get laid. He doesn't care about his height. 3
Emilia Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 The girl is always on the heavy side. And she is never really anything special as far as face goes either. Thanks!
AlexDP Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 For many women height preference is all about images, how they see themselves, and how they want others to see them. Women care more than men about the image their choice of partner projects. A BF who is taller than the woman will get more approval, and many younger women crave social approval and validation. Like men women have a sense of gender and feel the pressure to meet certain expectations about themselves. Taller girls are made to feel profoundly insecure. So they select men who will affirm what they want to feel about themselves. To feel feminine they opt for a big tall guy so he can loom over her as a man should. I'm sure there are other reasons, but if a woman is 5'7" and ruling out a man who's 5'9" there's an issue there. Sometimes we pick who we pick due to our internal issues, and mistake their filling some other need for love. Sometimes people are just attracted to particular people. Let's not make things this difficult. I only like girls who are smaller than me and I'm 5'10". I guess that could mean I'm rather short. But I just don't like women who are taller than me. It's not because of some social stigma or the need for approval.. I'm not attracted to tall, blonde, Swedish girls.
yongyong Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 Thanks for being honest. Why can't they be honest instead of throwing B.S like 'oh I chose him because of his personality' Women love to brag to other bitches in her group. Obviously, she will be embarrassed to show him if he is shorter than her. They also want to talk about his job. which woman doesn't want to say to their friends 'he is a doctoooooor'? There are other things too his family. 'oh his dad owns this and this' the gift he got for her 'my bf got me this Chanel for my b-day' vacations. 'he is taking me to france lol' His car. 'he drives Mercedesssss ' the list can go on......... For many women height preference is all about images, how they see themselves, and how they want others to see them. Women care more than men about the image their choice of partner projects. A BF who is taller than the woman will get more approval, and many younger women crave social approval and validation.
oaks Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 The girl is always on the heavy side. And she is never really anything special as far as face goes either. Look on the bright side... it leaves more of the lighter and special-faced girls for you to go after! (although now I'm wondering what a special face looks like ) 1
silicone Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 Lol. Another fail thread. I actually thought it was a troll. OP, I'm probably one of the shortest guys here. Guess what, I get an abundance of these messages on facebook. None of these girls are exactly overweight, or even relatively plump - moreso, they are school girls :/
Woggle Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 I think a few inches is a dumb reason to reject somebody but you are being a hypocrite for criticizing a woman's weight. You are exactly what you are against. I agree with the one who says date hippie chics though. I have seen the kind of men some of them date and clearly many do not care about looks and if you can get past the save the earth preaching most of them are pretty nice. 1
Titanwolf Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 I actually thought it was a troll. OP, I'm probably one of the shortest guys here. Guess what, I get an abundance of these messages on facebook. None of these girls are exactly overweight, or even relatively plump - moreso, they are school girls :/ Though due to defect, I'm not naturally as visual as I'm "meant" to be, apparently I can still really "pick em". I am 5,4. My ex. /Thread 2
Imajerk17 Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 (edited) Oh wow! A thread about how a guy's height affects his dating! I don't think we've ever seen *this* talked about on here before! I love how this board never keeps dwelling on the same old issues, over and over and over again... Edited October 1, 2012 by Imajerk17 4
silicone Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 Though due to defect, I'm not naturally as visual as I'm "meant" to be, apparently I can still really "pick em". I am 5,4. My ex. /Thread She's cute 1
Imajerk17 Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 Here is what I do notice: Most every single guy on here who does poorly with women has a victim mentality--he feels that his lack of success with women is due to something completely beyond his control. It's either because he is short, not good-looking, or he doesn't have money. What is sad is that almost always, you just can't convince these guys that this isn't true. I do wonder if these guys WANT to believe that their lack of success with women is due to their height or looks, that way they won't have to take any responsibility for changing. 3
silicone Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 Here is what I do notice: Most every single guy on here who does poorly with women has a victim mentality--he feels that his lack of success with women is due to something completely beyond his control. It's either because he is short, not good-looking, or he doesn't have money. What is sad is that almost always, you just can't convince these guys that this isn't true. I do wonder if these guys WANT to believe that their lack of success with women is due to their height or looks, that way they won't have to take any responsibility for changing. From someone who's in one of the phases - no - it starts of as denial. People saying that you have to have confidence etc only goes some way - what if a taller guy has confidence... you're a bit screwed then aren't you
Mycteria Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 From someone who's in one of the phases - no - it starts of as denial. People saying that you have to have confidence etc only goes some way - what if a taller guy has confidence... you're a bit screwed then aren't you Ok then, just give up. This is evolution at it's finest. Sorry, that was mean.
silicone Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 Ok then, just give up. This is evolution at it's finest. Sorry, that was mean. I'm known to never give up If we're going to talk about evolution, well there's is no evolutionary gain to being taller... apart from the fact that you require greater resources for maintenance which isn't evolutionary sound, because maintenance and energy consumption itself isn't the most efficient thing.
Mycteria Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 I'm known to never give up If we're going to talk about evolution, well there's is no evolutionary gain to being taller... apart from the fact that you require greater resources for maintenance which isn't evolutionary sound, because maintenance and energy consumption itself isn't the most efficient thing. I'm not talking about the evolution of height. I'm talking about the removal of all these pessimistic genes from our gene pool. Short guys can get girls. If you're not, then there is some other problem. Work on that or don't get laid. Your choice. 2
silicone Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 I'm not talking about the evolution of height. I'm talking about the removal of all these pessimistic genes from our gene pool. Short guys can get girls. If you're not, then there is some other problem. Work on that or don't get laid. Your choice. You know that the removal of such genes are impossible simply because they don't exist ... I think I've missed the joke though :/ If it were possible.... it'd be chaotic, I'd rather that they stay. No one is saying that short guys can't get girls. I'm short, and I had a girlfriend.
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