benzo1355 Posted July 26, 2004 Posted July 26, 2004 I have a question for the ladies. I am friends with a girl that i once dated and recently she broke up with her b/f we started talking again and she invited me to go with her to the movies i agreed and went, we kissed and stuff along those lines and so the next day i texted her and she said she had fun ect.. but then she said she just wants to date and does not want a long term relationship does she mean what she says or is there more to it cause i thought i felt something that night at the movies but i guess not.
Olivia_19742004 Posted July 26, 2004 Posted July 26, 2004 but then she said she just wants to date and does not want a long term relationship Considering she just got out of a relationship and told you point blank that she only wants to date and doesn't want a long term relationship I don't see where any confusion comes from. It appears that she was very direct and honest with you. I don't think there is any "code" to figure out.
Author benzo1355 Posted July 26, 2004 Author Posted July 26, 2004 yeah thats what i thought but how she acted at the movies is what confuses me being that i have dated her before i know the look in her eyes when she actually has passion or not or at least i think i do and i just thought that there was more to it in any case i do repect her not wanting a relationship i just dont know what to expect from that it seems like she is just using me when she wants me and throws me out when she dont thanks for you help i need more
Fayebelle Posted July 26, 2004 Posted July 26, 2004 Originally posted by benzo1355 it seems like she is just using me when she wants me and throws me out when she dont /QUOTE] Quite right- don't let her! If you're cool w/the no-strings hanky panky then have a ball. If not-stear clear cuz it seems like that's what she's after.
Author benzo1355 Posted July 26, 2004 Author Posted July 26, 2004 yeah i dont mind the no strings really but i just dont want to sit around waiting for her and if i ask to see her she will think i am trying to work her into a relationship
Wellnowuknow Posted July 26, 2004 Posted July 26, 2004 I agree she just came out of a relationship and told you str8 up that she doesnt want a relationship. Usually girls dont say the so st8forward unless they mean it! Maybe she wants the no strings attatched thing or maybe she did feel something but feels it's too soon so she wants to take things slow so she told you she wasn't ready for a relationship. Think of that? Just dont wait around for her either like you said you dont like being used no one does so continue to see other people if you feel like it.
Author benzo1355 Posted July 26, 2004 Author Posted July 26, 2004 yeah i didnt think of that and i guess i will see other people i really like her but her useing me pisses me off i guess everything will work out in the end i will just let her figure out what she wants i will not call or provoke her feelings i will just sit back and see if she has them or not and maybe in time...... who knows thanks for all yalls help
Olivia_19742004 Posted July 26, 2004 Posted July 26, 2004 I'm a little confused. You went out, had a great time, but you're afraid she's using you because she told you that she's not interested in a relationship but would like to date? Doesn't sound like she's using anyone. Sounds like she's giving herself time to figure out what she wants in life but enjoys your company enough to spend time with you. She didn't put any demands on you or ask you for anything so I don't see how you could interpret any of this as being used. If you're concerned that she's using you for a free meal then plan dates that don't include spending money, but from what you said she sounds like she's being honest and direct.
Author benzo1355 Posted July 26, 2004 Author Posted July 26, 2004 no i dont think she is useing me in that sense it just seems like she couldnt find anyone else to go so she asked me like she only uses me when there is no one else and i know it is going to tear me up if she dates someone else and ends up in a relationship with them it will make me fill unwanted and what are the boundarys when she just wants to date cause i want to call her right now but i was the one that called her yesterday and if i do it it will seem like a relationship how long should i wait before i ask her out on another date or should i at all
Olivia_19742004 Posted July 26, 2004 Posted July 26, 2004 Then maybe under these circumstances you shouldn't date her.
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