steveholt Posted September 30, 2012 Posted September 30, 2012 Hey, everyone. So, my now ex-boyfriend and I were together for about a year. I'm twenty, he's twenty-eight. When we first started dating, I had lengthy conversations with him about our age difference and throughout our relationship he asserted that it wasn't a problem for him. The entire time we were together was amazing. We were best friends, we could tell each other anything. I've had a ten-year history with depression and anxiety, so opening up to people and actually having meaningful relationships is damn near impossible. But in him I found someone I could be totally candid with and I didn't have to put on any sort of act. He was incredibly thoughtful, supportive, affectionate, all the things a boyfriend should be. We live about forty minutes away from each other, so I only really get to see him on weekends. This weekend I was supposed to go stay at his apartment. When he came to pick me up on Friday, he kissed me, asked me how my day was, and then proceeded to break up with me. I was totally blindsided. We never fought, never had any sort of disagreements. He had talked to me the day before and our conversations were completely normal. When he broke up with me, he said we were "from two different worlds" and that he wanted to settle down and start a family, while my life was just starting out. And that's totally understandable. I guess I always kind of knew from the start that our relationship wouldn't end well, but I still kept with it because I really cared about him. I'm just in so much pain. Just the thought of not talking to him anymore makes me so deeply sad. He said that I can still text him, that we can still talk, but I know that that's just not realistic. I talked to him last night, just because I felt like I could think a bit clearer and I thought I'd been a bit curt with him on Friday. I didn't want to feel like I left things on a sour note. I told him I was sorry things didn't work out for us and wished him well. It was just devastating knowing that that would be the last time we would talk. Thanks so very much if you actually read this, haha.
Balzac Posted September 30, 2012 Posted September 30, 2012 It seems to reason that through your discussions you revealed you were not ready for the life chapter he is ready to embark on. Still hurts but I'm not totally sure that this was an age related problem. Sorry you're in misery.
Author steveholt Posted September 30, 2012 Author Posted September 30, 2012 It seems to reason that through your discussions you revealed you were not ready for the life chapter he is ready to embark on. Still hurts but I'm not totally sure that this was an age related problem. Sorry you're in misery. Thanks, man. I suppose that must've been it, though I can't really recall ever having a serious conversation about that kind of thing. I suppose it wasn't just because of our age difference. He'd been out of a three year relationship for about five months when we met. I've entertained the idea that maybe he got a bit scared when we started becoming more serious. It seems plausible enough, I guess.
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