I have a boyfriend but I have a crush on a guy I work with

[stephaniexx]

so I'm dating my boyfriend and we've been dating for almost 3 years now. although its not that long I love him dearly and I know he feels the same. he plays hockey elsewhere so were in a long distance relationship and I do trust him it's just because of past issues I constantly have my mind wrapped around the "what if". In the past he never physically cheated but I know he verbally and was mentally cheating and thinking about other girls. I also know he would've never physically touch another girl but just knowing he still had that intention killed me an I'm just always worrying all the time. anyways lately we have been arguing a lot. ill admit it, I'm a very stubborn and high standards kinda girl but I mean if u respect me ill give you the world and ill treat you like gold. So he knew that about me but he used to treat me like gold. but now when we argue it seems like I'm the only one trying and he couldn't care less. I love him sooooo much and I just want him back to the way he was even though I kind of know i might not get him back. I've also spoken to him about it multiple times an he tells me he just wants me to trust him and I do trust him it's just I don't mind him having girlfriends but it bothers me to know that he's spending time with other girls after what he's done. I told him how much he hurt an me an he doesn't seem to understand he expects me to just get over it. on another not I work with this guy and wee known eachother for a year now. we got so close and in the beginning he used to always tell me how he wished he had a girlfriend like me, he would flirt with me and everyone at work knew he had this attraction and interest in me. anyways lately he's been seeing this girl that has not been going well and he still shows this sort of interest and it's not like I care for him but I know I have some sort of crush on him. his friends and my friends are mutual friends so when we go out we encounter eachother and I've been starting to think about him a lot but it's still just a crush nothing more. my boyfriend and him despise eachother and it's just very uncomfortable when we see eachother and I'm with my boyfriend... I just don't know what to do , is this normal?

[esstea]

Do you see this other guy you have a crush on at work a lot?

[BS76]

If you're comittted to your bf then you need to stop contact with teh coworker as best as possible and put him out of your mind. It's that simple.

[River Rain]

You say you trust your boyfriend, but that you worry when he's around other girls. I think you still have trust issues. I'm a worrier too and have trust issues with everyone, it's all due to past experiences. You're allowed to take time to get over the fact that he hurt you, but you also have to do it within some kind of time frame, not just for him, but for you too. Sometimes we just have to take a risk and trust blindly, put our faith in our partner that he/she means what they say, despite what has happened. Yes, he could hurt you again, or maybe if you just allow yourself to trust him, your relationship will flourish and you won't have to worry about having a crush on someone else because the conflict with your boyfriend won't exist and you won't be looking for comfort and attention from another man.