Am I attractive

[Mgee]

Please tell me honestly what you think

 

 

[O'farrell]

Cute smile phaggot.

 

You're not bad. You're not attractive either. Congratulation, you are normal, and because of this, you can focus on other aspects of yourself. Don't worry about your looks because you aren't ugly. 6/10

[Mgee]

I just feel I cant get anywhere with women

[Leigh 87]

Naturally most people look, about what you do; your by no means ugly, but you won't get people looking twice at you, either.

 

You can get "hot" by working out, and taking good care of your skin, and finally, having a great personality shine through.

 

Average looking people like yourself CAN actually become above average if they try hard enough to work out and a few other things...

[Titanwolf]

Go to the gym, adjust your diet and get lean. You're storing a lot of fat on your face and it makes you look very feminine/soft.

 

Grow a stubble if you can.

 

Hair gel can work wonders.

 

Get braces and teeth whitening.

 

These are the things that are within your control. Do something about it.

 

I don't know enough about you and your mannerisms, to offer up advice on personality improvement.

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Disclaimer- This is my objective opinion regarding your physical appearance. No emotions were involved in the making of this post.

[Mgee]

Well ive been hitting the gym ive lost 20lbs in one month I just still feel ugly.

[silicone]

Well ive been hitting the gym ive lost 20lbs in one month I just still feel ugly.

 

You need to feel positive.

 

I was fat, I lost 26lbs over 10 months, and I now get a lot more attention from girls, which has helped my self esteem to an extent.

 

In the end, until you feel positive, you may be stuck on it.

[kassy]

Hey, you look normal. Congrats on losing the weight! I say this a lot but personally the gym is boring to me. I like to socialize while I work out. I do go to the gym but just to improve performance in my sports. Why not take up a sport socially you always wanted to try... Seeing improvement in your performance and having fun make exercise more enjoyable and a long term lifestyle. It also helps motivate you.

 

Keep doing what you are doing and soon the results will show. Also try and be more positive, it's hard to like someone who doesn't like themselves.

[Ninjainpajamas]

I'm not fashion guru/metrosexual but Titanwolf had it pretty on point.

 

There's several things you should always look at in terms of appearance:

 

- Hair or hair style

 

In your case, I'd grow it a bit longer...looks too short, bangs kinda give off that hey I'm an average awkward guy/possible stalker look.

 

Either cut it real short all together so it's neat or grow it long enough to fit a style, do something with it.

 

- Teeth (priority)

 

Men often overlook how important teeth are to an appearance, it's important to go to the dentist (even if it blows, nobody likes it but it gets better each time you go). Brush your teeth often/floss and get them cleaned at a dentist 6 every months If you can, or at least once a year.

 

Whitener is fairly inexpensive and easy to use. Everybody likes a white straight smile If possible, see what the doctor recommends and is affordable for possible bracers or work, I'd make it a priority honestly IF I were you, I don't think it's a luxury imo.

 

- Facial hair (must)

 

Young guys typically try and grow the little hair they have on their face to look a little more masculine. While this may work for you, young women do not typically like facial hair...and if they do it's because it's apart of your whole look or some full on beard, which only certain women will be into anyway.

 

Imo if you can't grow a full beard/5 o'clock shadow, then you shouldn't be sporting the facial hair. I think facial hair on younger guys either makes them look silly or like they're trying too hard because they don't have a masculine look.

 

- Physical weight/body (priority)

 

Most men know about this, but have no idea how to work out and lift weight so they find themselves struggling in the gym not getting results.

 

If you have absolutely no idea what you're doing you need to get a personal trainer for a few weeks, so he can teach you proper form and the ins and outs. I see far too many guys in the gym looking liking fools and lifting way too much weight trying to look cool. You'll either hurt yourself or not get a good work out that way and won't achieve the body you want, especially when a lot is dependent on what you eat/your diet. Working out is really just a part of getting in shape and novices think it's 80 percent of it, when that's actually your diet that's 80 percent of it or the highest percentage.

 

You need to work shoulders, back, arms and chest...a trim stomach with come with diet and so will your abs. That will allow clothes to fit you better than IF you just have a droopy non-muscular body.

 

 

All the above will help you with your appearance and will help you get your foot in the door, but it won't help you get women. You'll look a lot better but you still have to develop a skill on how to approach and engage women.

 

For you I'd recommend going for a woman you have a chance to talk to and get to know.

 

You need to build confidence and that may take time, you're still young and just learning a lot about women so It's not going to happen overnight. You'll learn by trying and putting yourself out there, some people learn fast however others continue to make the same mistakes and find excuses, you've got to determine which guy you want to be.

 

Unless you're really good looking, have a great social personality, or an amazing wit/charm/humorous way with women, men don't generally have the upper hand when young, women are in their prime and at their most desirable (in general)...so they have the most options and not really thinking about the average guy. The average girl however isn't going to be getting the most attention either, and honestly that's your target area. Don't think you're going to start wheeling in the super hot babes unless you really get an amazing transformation.

Edited September 30, 2012 by Ninjainpajamas

[Mgee]

So your saying no matter what ilk never be able to get an attractive women? That my best would be a 6

[Ninjainpajamas]

So your saying no matter what ilk never be able to get an attractive women? That my best would be a 6

 

I'm saying that right now unless you were a very good looking guy, the most attractive woman you would realistically be able to get would be average or below average girl from where you stand now....unless! you can build a rapport or have some kind of in with a woman, at your age unless you are "hot" don't expect easy street.

 

If you look your best, the better your chances will be at attracting someone...that's how it works for anyone.

 

As you get older you may be able to get more attractive women...by either improving on your personality, skill with how you handle yourself and demeanor with women, you need to learn charm and flirtation and how to make a good impression, or If you have a comedic streak to you that can really bump you up a few notches. There are a lot of things you need to learn about women, so start learning.

 

You should never give up and I'd never say you are never able to get an attractive woman because that wouldn't be true, and remember she just needs to be attractive to you.

 

I've seen unattractive guys get very pretty women, but you better have something really strong in common or do something really right and get to know her so she develops a crush on you..like you love puppies and so does she, and save animals or something like that...and usually older women are more open to guys who are less attractive than what they desired in their youth, as they got screwed over by the hot jerks. A woman will put up with a lot more from a guy who she thinks is very attractive, than just the average guy.

 

Unfortunately you're going to have to work for it...but honestly if your expectations aren't ridiculous...doesn't mean you can't find an attractive woman that has everything else you need...you shouldn't focus on the number of women, but one that's right for you.

 

Your alternative is having a fat wallet in your future, so you can arm a hot gold-digger/materialistic woman.

 

Anything above a 7 and you'll probably get a ninja kick directly to the ego, so start talking to women that are below that. (Be aware that many women rate themselves much higher on the attraction scale than reality as well because of the attention they get from men trying to get laid, it's not really their fault for that, just find a decent human being)

[Mgee]

Thats something on the mirrow

[CarrieT]

1) Grow the thickest beard you can. Make it completely mask your jawline.

 

Conversely, I would suggest shaving. The fact that you can't grow a full beard and have that fluff on your chin makes you look younger than you probably want to.

 

Keep clean-shaven and it would improve your looks immeasurably.