Immissme Posted September 30, 2012 Posted September 30, 2012 I'm seeing a guy for almost a month now. We had sex on our third date. Fourth date we tried having sex twice but he couldn't cum. Fifth date, he said he wished we have waited longer to have sex. We still spend time together but no sex anymore. We've made out. We've got each other excited but that's about it. I know I turn him on cause it gets hard and he has made comments like, " I want to f*ck you", " You turn me on", " You drive me crazy" , " Your very sexy". He gives me compliments all the time. He calls me "baby". Hes very affectionate. He kisses, touches me, holds my hand all the time. He makes me laugh. I met his bestfriend since he was a little kid. Last time we were together , friday night, he's gonna go to a camping trip with his friends the next day. He needed to be up at 4am but he wanted to spend the night with me even that means he wouldn't get any sleep. His exact words "F*uck sleep, I want to hang out with you". We spent the night together sleeping, no sex just making out. He also said he would take me with him if I wanted to go but I said to just have fun with his friends without me. My question is, (I used to not doubt that he's into me but now I wonder) is he into me? I'm doubtful cause hes controlling himself to not have sex which makes me think maybe hes not into me and he doesn't want to make things complicated so hes trying to not have sex. He told me hes looking for a relationship. Thanks everyone.
SJC2008 Posted September 30, 2012 Posted September 30, 2012 This is the number one reason why there is a stima among men "Make a move and make it FAST". There are men want sex right away and men who don't mind waiting a couple/few months. I used to be a waiter but now I don't care anymore as everything I've done in the past has failed me. You're still together so stop worrying. He said yall should of waited and is backing of sexually so he's uncomfortable about having sex that fast. So if you want things to progress respect his wishes and he'll come around. He's still with you so I'd say he's into you. A guy's not going to spend the night with a woman making out with her because he's boared. 1
Leigh 87 Posted September 30, 2012 Posted September 30, 2012 It is off that he won't have sex with you - but then again, plenty of guys prefer to hold off ont he sex. It sounds like he couldn't control himself the first time you had sex early on, and wants to hold off now, because he is into you and might be scared that having sex too early will...somehow doom your relationship to fail? I had sex with my partner after the third date. We are still together. As are many couples on here.
Author Immissme Posted September 30, 2012 Author Posted September 30, 2012 He only calls and texts once a week. I see him on weekends.
ChatroomHero Posted September 30, 2012 Posted September 30, 2012 He's worried he sucks in the sack and afraid you'll ditch him if he flops again.
Ninjainpajamas Posted September 30, 2012 Posted September 30, 2012 He's either getting it somewhere else, or is self-conscious about her performance or has some issue with his wee wee...no guy is going to hold out on sex IMO after he's already had sex with you...that's just ridiculous. If he's part of a very rare and small group it could be for emotional reasons. But that doesn't seem to be the situation at all to me. I wouldn't think this guy is too into you, a text during the week and then seeing you on the weekend...I don't think this guy is that into you IMO. And he may want a relationship, but that doesn't mean it's with you...all guys say crap they don't mean, not sure why you'd take that to the bank. The only reason he likely wanted to wait to have sex is because he feels embarrassed for your fourth date situation...so by the fifth date he was trying to take it back.
soccerrprp Posted September 30, 2012 Posted September 30, 2012 He's worried he sucks in the sack and afraid you'll ditch him if he flops again. ...because he didn't cum? He may have been too eager or his mind elsewhere.
AlexDP Posted September 30, 2012 Posted September 30, 2012 He's either getting it somewhere else, or is self-conscious about her performance or has some issue with his wee wee...no guy is going to hold out on sex IMO after he's already had sex with you...that's just ridiculous. If he's part of a very rare and small group it could be for emotional reasons. But that doesn't seem to be the situation at all to me. I wouldn't think this guy is too into you, a text during the week and then seeing you on the weekend...I don't think this guy is that into you IMO. And he may want a relationship, but that doesn't mean it's with you...all guys say crap they don't mean, not sure why you'd take that to the bank. The only reason he likely wanted to wait to have sex is because he feels embarrassed for your fourth date situation...so by the fifth date he was trying to take it back. This is probably it..
TG1 Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 He's worried he sucks in the sack and afraid you'll ditch him if he flops again. Exactly what I was thinking
Author Immissme Posted October 1, 2012 Author Posted October 1, 2012 He said hes been busy at work cause its the fiscal year end for them. So lately hes been working a lot of OTs that's why he hasn't been in contact that much. He said he wanted a relationship and he said he's not seeing other girls and hes hoping im not hanging out with other guys.He used to have an online dating account and he closed it when he met me. He's meeting my mom and sis this coming weekend and it was his idea. He wanted to hang out at my house. My dad passed away a year ago so my mom and sis are staying with me. So I'm confused, there are signs hes into me and signs pointing toward that hes not. He's a lil shy but a very funny guy. I like that he makes me laugh.
Recommended Posts