gyrkinlens Posted September 30, 2012 Posted September 30, 2012 (edited) I'm a 24 year old male who hasn't had sex/dated anyone in going on 18 months. I've only had one relationship, a 4 year long one with someone I really cared about, and I haven't done anything since. It's hard for me to conceive of this getting any better, and I feel like I'm dying a little bit every day, mostly because the realization that I'm always going to be alone is creeping in. I see people complaining about how they haven't had sex in weeks, or months, and how it's driving them crazy, and I'm sitting over here more than a year deep and I'm starting to wonder if I'm too far gone to even bother anymore. I want to get back out there, but I have no idea where to begin. I was a kid when I started dating my one and only past girlfriend; I have no idea how to navigate through this world as an adult, and my lack of experience is making me way too self-conscious to initiate this. Has anyone else been in a situation like this? If, so what did you do? I feel like I'm completely alone in this and I'm desperate. Please. Edited January 25, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
january2011 Posted September 30, 2012 Posted September 30, 2012 I've been in this position very briefly a few times in my life. What I did and what I'm advising you to do is to get out there. As I mentioned in a thread just today, go on Meetups (google it), volunteer, do adult education classes and local community events. Just get out there. And start talking to people. Build up your conversational skills. Make your world bigger. Once you are comfortable around people again, you can start approaching women you find attractive as potential romantic partners. And then you can start dating again. Otherwise, if you need more than just a little push, look into therapy. It's extremely unlikely that a social life is going to knock on your door and introduce itself. You need to be proactive and step a little outside of your comfort zone. 2
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